Over the years this 'Useletter' has had many different 'feels' to it, some funny, others light-hearted, and some serious. Maybe that's why it's become so popular? Everything I write always comes from the heart and the 'space' I am in at the time of writing. I feed off the emails you send me coupled with what I see going on in the world at the time. A few days ago I started thinking about a topic for this month's 'Useletter', and spontaneously I decided to shoot a Quick Tip video on life. As I began uploading the video, an email came through from a subscriber, Ron who over the years has always shared his thoughts with me. However, this time, the story he mailed me was exactly the topic I had just discussed on tape – how's that for uncanny? It was a sign! Lately I have been thinking a lot about life, particularly my life and how fast the years have gone. As the big 'Five-O' approaches I have reached a point of reflection where I am taking stock and deciding whether I am happy with everything so far, and if not, what I am going to do about it. This self reflection has highlighted some very interesting life issues for me.

But before I tackle the topic of life, many people send me emails with queries and requests, the new Quick Tip videos below are my responses to these mails – do enjoy!
Firstly, I was asked to do something on coping with regret – click here to view my new video with 5 tips on doing this. Someone also asked me to give some practical advice on goal achievement, something more realistic and achievable – so check out my tips of achieving realistic goals here.
As a speaker, many people have asked me for advice and tips on public speaking, so guess what, click here for 15 Tips on professional speaking, plus a full speaking course.

LIFE
Click here to watch my 'unrehearsed video on insights about life!

For everyone over 50, I think this Useletter it going to touch home. If you are in your twenties, I would suggest you try save this Useletter and read it again when you reach your 50's. I can promise this - the day you read it you will know why I asked you to save it for all those years! Nevertheless, even if you are younger, read this edition slowly and try take in the depth of the message shared, for if you truly understand where I am coming from with this message, you will realise the importance of time and how you need to make the most of every moment. And if you are 50 or older I know this is going to hit home!

Is it just me or have you also noticed that time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware as the years pass by? It seems just yesterday that I was young, care free, just engaged and embarking on my new life with my mate. Even though it was 30 years ago, it doesn't feel like eons ago. If I am honest, it feels like maybe 10 years ago maximum. I often wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. In fact I have tons of photos as reminders and glimpses of how it was back then, and of all my hopes and dreams.

But here I am now, some would even call this the period of introspection – it has caught me by surprise! How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I clearly remember seeing older people and thinking this was years ahead of me – in fact it was so far off, I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

I remember working with an elderly comedian on the cruise ships who told a joke about his youth and how his dad found certain actresses attractive, which he at the time as a youngster thought they were ugly. As he reached the same age of his dad at the time he found them attractive too. We used to laugh at this joke, but never fully comprehended the depth of it – today I think of my old friend often – as his words ring true as I am finding older woman really attractive too!

I met an old acquaintance at the circus yesterday. I hardly recognised him. I still joked and said, “My you've changed.” He looked at me and replied, “Your hair is all grey!” I turned around and thought he was talking about someone else! This is now my reality – all my friends are starting to think about retirement and getting grey! We move slower and people in our age group. When we talk about the world and what is happening to society and the youth... we sound like our parents!

Some of my friends are in better and some worse shape than me. The young and vibrant people of my memories don't exist anymore! Their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be. I bought a birthday card for my oldest daughter recently who had just turned 16. As I began looking for the card I first stumbled on the Happy 50th cards. I looked at them and had the same thoughts I had when I was 16, “Wow, imagine being that old.” Then I realised, “Hey, that's you!” This year alone I have been invited to eight 50th parties!

I remember socialising at events and having fun with those present – today I we savour the wine and whiskey, rather than gulp it down. Maybe because it takes us longer to recover if we don't! I could open any bottle of cold drink, and any jam jar, no matter how tight the lid was screwed on – now I have to ask my 16 year old daughter to do it for me! This has resulted in us buying those can/jar openers as we still love our bodies and independence, instead of asking our kids to it!

And so even I enter into this new season of my life, unprepared for all the aches and pains. Yes, even I have a few regrets and things I wish I had done/did differently. But there are also many many things I'm happy I did do. All in all I am content with my lot in life, however, should we have the opportunity to start all over again, we would have started sooner and would have done more.

None of us, not even the youngsters, has the promise that we will see all the seasons of our life! Hence the importance of living in the moment and living for today and saying all the things we need/want our loved ones to remember.

Today I see many older people that are unhappy at their lot in life. This saddens me as I often think about my friends that have passed on already and realise that not everyone has the opportunity of getting older. So my first bit of advice if you are older – be grateful that you have reached this age!

I often think back of that old saying, “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that is why it is called the present.” Live in the moment and make the most of today, for every today well lived gives you a great memory of yesterday and something to look forward to tomorrow. Kinda makes sense huh?

Also, remember that today is the oldest that you have ever been in your life, but it is also the youngest that you will ever be!

This “Useletter' is not meant to make you sad, but to inspire you that no matter what your age is, it ain't over yet! I am just reaching the 2nd phase of my life and intend achieving twice as much as in the first half – you can do the same too!

Appreciate what life has taught you up to this point and enjoy the comfort that comes with being older. Let the following 'plus' factors bring a smile to your face:
 

✔ Going out is good, coming home is always better!
✔ You may forget names, but it's okay because other people forgot they even knew you!
✔ Our confidence grows – we've been around the block.
✔ You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It's called 'pre-sleep'.
✔ You miss the days when everything worked with just an 'ON' and 'OFF' switch.
✔ We get better at relationships – we have more experience and we are comfortable with who we are and what we want out of life.
✔ You tend to use more 4 letter words, 'what?' and 'when?'
✔ We start caring more about others – isn't that the coolest thing ever?
✔ Now that you can afford expensive jewellery, you know that it's not important to wear anymore.
✔ We become more sensual – the body may go but our souls have expanded and taught us to live in the now and appreciate life and love on a much deeper level.
✔ What used to be freckles are now liver spots.
✔ Everybody whispers.
✔ You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet – because you need a much bigger choice!
✔ It's not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived.
✔ We slow down, but we learn to appreciate more.
✔ But old is better in many things; old songs, old movies, and best of all, old friends!

Stay well and healthy, old friend!

I'll chat with you again next month!

Warmest regards

Wolfgang

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The first rule of focus is... wherever you are, be there! In today's hectic world, few people actually focus on one thing at a time. Schedules and deadlines are part of the norm. Many people wonder why they don't get anything done – they have too much on their plate! As long as I can remember, I have always scheduled my day in segments. If I have a number of projects on the go, I divide my day into hour slots, starting with the most important tasks first. In fact I will make sure I don't take phone calls before 10am (There is a thing such as an 'off' switch on your phone, as well as a messaging system). This enables me to focus 100% for those first two hours in the morning and really get things done. In fact, I find that by following this route those 1st two hours, I get more done than if I spent the entire day fiddling with tasks at random. Assume you have eight different goals and you tackle each one solidly for an hour. At the end of the day you have managed to do a little for each one. It might not feel like much, but at the end of the month when you look back, you have accomplished more than ever before. By haphazardly doing tasks during the day, one tends to get side tracked. Even if you start with the task that you consider most important, and want to finish it first, and then tackle the next task, there will always be another task that appears to be more important that then interferes with the first one. By religiously allocating time to everything and dividing your day into specified segments, you are creating a workable system. This doesn't mean you need to have eight tasks per day. Some of those hour slots can be social, creative or just 'me time' as well. The emphasis here is on focusing 100% in that moment as the quotation says... wherever you are, be there! As another quote so aptly puts it, a successful person, is the average person focused. This goes hand in hand with ordinary people think merely of spending time, great people think of using it. You cannot use time effectively if you don't have a plan! So stop talking and thinking about it and create a plan of action that is practical and doable! In the last month I have met up with some old friends and the topic of a 'Rainmaker' came up. Do you know what a 'Rainmaker' is? Simply put, it's someone that creates things from nothing. It's a person that takes an idea or thought and manifests it into something that is real and can be shared and experienced with everyone 'out there.' Whether it is about creating a book, a course, a study method, etc., I constantly receive emails from people wanting to know where I find the time and energy to constantly write and create new material. Well, I have just shared my secret with you – I plan and schedule my day. Rainmakers take control of their lives and make things happen. Rainmakers understand the simplicity, yet also the power of goals that are not written down are just wishes! I have many people saying to me that they are scared of failure and fear what others will think if they don't succeed. I appreciate the honesty, but I also become very frustrated at how many people have allowed themselves to be manipulated and conditioned by the messed up society out there, resulting in them severely impeding their own unlimited potential. You can achieve anything you want – you just need to try! My first response to friends and colleagues that approach me with this view in life is, Failure is never as scary as regret! And boy is that true! However, in all fairness, it's not always that easy. Hence my tip to you – don't tell anyone when you tackle a new dream or desire. Keep it private. Make a deal and set a timeline with yourself – not with everyone around you. In that way, no one can comment about it and put you down. Then once you've achieved it, everyone will be surprised. You'll get comments like, “We didn't know you were doing that!” It's a really great feeling when you can surprise everyone around you with something you created in your own space and time. View the possible as probable. You'll be surprised at what you can accomplish. Even if what I say is foreign to you and you feel that you are in a rut and cannot change, remember that rewards in life only go to those who are willing to give up the past. Way too many people on this earth are living in the past and brooding in it. You will NEVER move ahead if you keep blaming the past. You will never be happy if you constantly live in the past and most definitely never be able to move forward. By harping on the past, what are you really accomplishing in life? Zero, zip, nothing! You are just becoming more and more bitter and pulling yourself down into a rut. If your dreams are turning to dust, you need to vacuum! The future belongs to those who live intensely in the present and you can only do this by living in the present. Understand that NOW is the watchword of the wise! Time is the most precious asset that we have. Are you just going to sit there and let time go by, wasting it on regrets and hatred issues from the past? Or are you going to stand up and take responsibility for your own life and realise that the best way to predict your future is to create it! Life is built of the things we do. The only constructive material is POSITIVE ACTION. If you only look behind you, how can you possibly move forward? You need to turn your head around occasionally and look forward. It's amazing what you can see if you look! There are opportunities all around us every day, and even in the sad and the tragic events, there are always opportunities to be found. But these only go to those people that open their eyes and look. At times we may see our own lives as filled with challenges and feel that you cannot see the woods for the trees. However, you need to realise that the bigger the challenge, the greater the opportunity! Those days that I may doubt myself, or be unduly negatively influenced by some happening, or become suddenly annoyed by someone’s selfish intent, I always look up at the wall opposite me in my study at this quotation, we all leave footprints in the sand, the question is, will we be a big heal, or a great soul? Hand in hand with this awesome insight you also need to accept and understand that like farmers we need to learn that we cannot sow and reap on the same day. Whether it takes a day, a month or a year, as long as you take positive action and look ahead, you are living a life of forward movement. I much rather move forwards than backwards? Wouldn't you? And finally, don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened! Have an incredible March. Warmest wishes Wolfgang PS! I have another new Quicktip video on Table Mountain. Did you know that this mountain is one of the earth's energy centres and also known as a Spinner Wheel? Click here to be even more inspired.

Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, February 2013 Useletter, Cope with irritation, Cope with annoyance, Ley go, Overcoming hatred, Free 'Useletter', Free Inspiration, Mind Shift Guru

It's February! How are the New Year's resolutions coming on? Still pushing ahead or have you given up? At the beginning of every year I make a concerted effort to follow through with all my New Year's resolutions. So far, so good, but the biggest one for me this year was to learn not to get annoyed by inconsiderate and annoying people around me, from associates, work colleagues, family members and my weak point - corrupt politicians.

We often joke about this, but how often in a day do you quietly curse someone in your thoughts, whether it's that inconsiderate driver that cut you off in morning traffic, or your boss that hasn't acknowledged that you were up the whole night sorting out a crises?

Here's the reality... we all have these feelings... everyday! Yes, even I have them! Sometimes I want to pop a blood vessel when I see the greed and corruption amongst our politicians. However, the only person getting upset is me! They are just carrying on as always, and no matter how much I jump up and down. When I scream at the driver and use foul language in the car and attempt to display every crude sign I can with my hands, odds are I am only enraging myself as the other person doesn't even realize it's them I am cursing at.

Unfortunately, most of the time we just annoy ourselves more than the other person. If anything I find this is the most difficult issue to come to terms with in my life. I have lectured, written about and put many videos on You Tube about dealing with hatred and letting go of the past. And I really try to practice what I preach. Nevertheless, there are ALWAYS and there always will be those people out there that WE ALL love to hate. Those people that ALWAYS annoy us, no matter how hard we try to remain calm. For weeks we can go about ignoring them, and then one day, out of the blue, grrrrr and all that pent up aggression explodes. The saddest thing of all is, we tend to take it out on those that are closest to us. Your spouse is cuddling next to you in front of the TV, completely relaxed and content in the moment, when you suddenly scream and jump up because of someone on the television, ruining the mood completely. Sound familiar? I've done it!

What about driving in the car and everyone is listening to a nice song on the radio, when suddenly someone three cars ahead does something stupid (which doesn't affect you) and you blurt out a string of abuse that would even embarrass a rap singer!

Hopefully I have put a little smile on your face as you maybe relate to what I am saying. At the time it's not funny, but afterwards, I have to embarrassingly laugh at myself acknowledging that I have just described me.

How do I learn to deal with this? Realistically, I feel there will always be inconsiderate people out there. However, it is up to us to try and control our reactions to them. Instead of blowing one's top ten times out of ten, don't you agree it would be better just to lose your cool one time out of ten. Of course it would be great if we could just all let go completely. But I am a realist... thus even if I only manage to half my outbursts – that's already an improvement.

With all of this in mind, I am going to share tips with you on how to cope with annoying people in your life. I have attached a PDF of my short E-Book: 25 Tips of Coping with Annoying People for you to enjoy. Should you want other E-Formats of the book, visit www.mindpowerpublications.com to download them for free.

Also, I have uploaded a new Quick Tips video with 3 tips on coping with Annoying People – although I must warn you, the 3rd tip (which I think is the most realistic and funny tip) may not be everyone's cup of tea – but I still think it's brilliant! Watch it at your own risk! Click here.

5 Tips on Coping with Annoying People

1. Becoming upset make you remember it longer
The more you acknowledge and think about the person or thing that has upset you, the more you etch that thought into your subconscious mind. You must remember that you are not dealing with a fleeting thought here, but a feeling that is filled with emotion, and intense emotion at that. This is powerful stuff and the more you harp on it, the better the odds of it becoming cemented into your long term memory and upsetting you for weeks and months to come. The solution is to give any irritation as little time and thought as possible.

2. Sometimes YOU are a fault too!
Admitting that one has made a mistake is a hard thing to do. The last thing you want to acknowledge is that you are weak and actually make mistakes too. If this is you – grow up and realize that ALL OF US are human. We ALL make mistakes. It takes a bigger person to admit when they are wrong. I have found that by being brutally honest with myself and actually admitting when I do make a mistake, that I have learnt to laugh at myself and not take myself so seriously. Those around me respect me for being so comfortable with myself and forgive me because I can acknowledge when I am wrong while at the same time (and this is so important) actually forgiving myself too.

3. Reacting can damage your reputation
Yes you may believe that you are in the right and have been falsely wronged! Guess what... if you lose your temper and start a fight, those around you will judge and see you in the same light as the aggressor. It may even make you look petty and unreasonable. Ever thought about it like that? Try not to react, you are better off for it.

4. Stand up for yourself and be clear about your boundaries
Nowhere is there a rule book that states that you must be friends with everyone around you. As humans we long for acknowledgement and recognition and many people fail to realize that not everyone will give you this. My dad always told me that I should not strive to have everyone love me, but instead I should strive to have them respect me. This is a very important point in life. We always try fit in everywhere, but never take a stand in what we believe. Then we wonder why people don't respect us. It is an unchangeable fact that not everyone will like you – there is NOTHING you can do to change this. However, you can get them to respect you. The only way you can do this is to stand up for what you believe in. One way to do this with annoying people is to clearly tell them what your boundaries are and what you will allow them to say to you. Letting others know about your feelings and boundaries helps them treat you in the manner you want to be treated.

5. Take your own advice
Instead of judging and giving advice to others, how about taking your own advice and practicing what you preach? Consider someone that is annoying right now. What exactly is it that annoys you about them and what advice would you give them to stop doing it? Now take your advice for this person, and apply it to yourself. Reality check – most of the time what you feel others should be doing, you need to apply in your own life.

That's it, the other 20 tips you can read in the attached E-Book. PS! Tip 25 is a bit rough, but it's the one that really works for me.

IMPORTANT NEWS! Everyone asks me when are you doing a live seminar for us to attend? Here's the deal, I intend doing a world tour soon. For now I will start in Cape Town and on 25 February 2013 at 18h30 at the Durbanville Golf Course. I will do an hour seminar on inspiration and teach you to Discover Your Magic. This is a once off FREE seminar and seats are limited. Do you want to learn how to fulfil your dreams and attain your goals? Then YOU need to attend! Please RSVP by Friday by replying to this email and booking your seat with your Name, Tel no. and number of people attending. I only have limited seats available – first come first served!

Thank you for reading to this point. I know it's Valentine's month and thus I want to offer you a special until 14 Feb on my book, The Art of Romance E-Book only. Spoil your loved one for ONLY €2.50. Learn how to be the dream romantic this Valentine's day for only €2.50! Click here.

Also, a very good friend of mine, Dorothy Ewels launched a new online magazine – it's FREE and this month it's all about Romance! Yours truly also has an article in it. Please view it at http://glossi.com/inspirante/6217-inspirante-feb-2013-editon

Have an incredible February.
Warmest wishes
Wolfgang

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I thought I would give everyone a week before sending out the first Useletter of 2013. Most people I know only get back to work on the 7th, so I figured that's the best day to start the year on a positive note! I trust you had a brilliant and deserved break and that all the batteries are recharged. If anything, it did me good, I switched off completely and let my mind clear – it's amazing how one needs this. I find that if you do something totally different, suddenly your thought patterns start changing and the creative juices start flowing again. The only problem is that now I have too many ideas! A great problem to have!

What did you do on the last day of the year? I put processes in place to start the New Year completely fresh. For the first time ever I practiced that philosophy of throwing out the old and starting completely new. During the entire December my wife and I threw out everything we hadn't used in 6 months. When I say threw out, most we gave away to people in need, and a few things we even sold on the Internet. Bottom line, we cleared all the old energy out of the house. It was interesting to note that items such as clothing and old paperwork were what had piled up the most. I am constantly amazed at how much stuff we collect, and then we buy a bigger house to store all our extra stuff that we don't need! Sometimes humanity doesn't make sense to me.

If anything, you can only live in one room at a time. So what's the point of having a palace if all it does is create more stress in your life via higher mortgage payments, rates and maintenance costs? For what, just to store your stuff and impress your friends? They say wisdom comes with age. Kinda makes sense as the years start ticking by and you realise that you have passed the half way mark. Right now all my wife and I want to do is sell our big home and move into a lock up and go smaller place. In fact that's one of our New Year's resolutions. Many people, especially younger people, become slaves to their own homes and spend so much time maintaining them plus the expected image that goes with the lifestyle, that they forget to live. Check out my new Quick Tip video on starting fresh here.

So my first message to you for 2013 is... start living. Manage your life's time to enjoy life with those that are important to you, rather than be a slave to what society expects you to do. I said to my daughters before Christmas that I wanted us to spend time together as a family and do things we had never done before. In fact I asked them to list 10 things they had never done before and as a family we went out to achieve this. Weird, one of the things on the list was that they had never seen a corpse. It just happened that Dr Gunter von Hagen Body World's exhibition was in town. Well, what an experience and incredibly educational. Not only my daughters, but I too now have a better understanding of the human body. It was great to see that this exhibition was incredibly popular and that so many people are showing an interest in what we look like inside. In fact I was impressed at how many youngsters attended. Due to this plastination process this man is educating the world with his exhibition. I just wonder if I would have gone had I not asked my girls to make up this list.

My one daughter had never had sushi before... so off we went. Again I learnt something new, I always thought sushi only had raw fish in it. I never realised you could get vegetarian sushi. Suddenly my wife could eat it too and as a family we have discovered a new dining experience. All this happened because we as a family tried something new! What new things have you done recently? Check out my 2nd new Quick Tip video on bucket lists here.

Many people find the festive season commercialised and complain that the true spirit of Christmas has flown out of the window. In all fairness, I can understand where they are coming from. Hence my goal with my family for this festive season was to embrace that spirit again. First thing I planned was that all 4 of us, (myself, wife & 2 daughters) had a €5 gift budget each, per person. The challenge was to buy each other a gift for €5 or less, BUT, the gift had to have meaning to the person receiving it. It's so easy buying Xmas presents today, but how much thought really goes into this process? My challenge for the family (including myself) was that we had to take a ridiculously low sum of money and find something suitable for each other. Plus when the presents were opened on Christmas Eve, we had to motivate why we bought them. It took about 10 days for each of us to buy those 3 presents. I write this Useletter with tears of happiness in my eyes. It was a most special Christmas. We spent over an hour opening each other's presents and listening to the reason why we were given the items. My daughters had put so much thought into this and it was a bonding process second to none. We laughed and we shared. I believe we experienced the Christmas spirit. What touched me the most was that at the end of it all, both my girls told me it was the best Christmas ever. They were genuinely happy with the presents they had received. This is when I realised we had raised our daughters properly. They didn't need the big electronic gifts, branded clothing and newest cell phone – they were happy with the true spirit and meaning behind the gifts that they received. They understood that this was a lifelong special memory that had been embedded in their minds.

Hence the tears. I was so touched at their genuine contentment and love for what we had shared. Admittedly, I too am human and wasn't sure how this would go down with my young daughters. So I had secretly gone and bought all the 'other' conditioned expensive gifts the day before, in case it didn't work. I waited for about an hour after we had opened our special gifts before I surprised them with the new ones. Looking back, I needn't have done this! But hey, the commercial side of Xmas had even gotten the better of me too... but now I know better! Plus I have the best Christmas memory ever! What memories do you have of this Christmas? Is it the same as all others, or did you do something differently? Check out my 3rd new Quick Tip video on the meaning of Christmas here.

Talking of the new, I tend to be an extremist at times, this kind of goes with the territory and passion I have for life and living. Similarly, you will have picked up over the years of reading my scribbling’s that I am also a realist. One cannot always be up in the clouds – there are days that aren't as great as others and there are things that annoy all of us. I speak for myself here. Yet I believe that by being aware of what is going on 'out there' one can at least knowingly try to be objective and try to see the brighter side of things. Thus eventually having more good days than bad days and allowing the balance to start tipping in one's favour to becoming a more enlightened and positive person. I found it interesting that some readers last month emailed me and commented that they noticed a little less positivity in me than usual, because I had called a spade a spade with regard to people actually opening and reading this mail. I fully respect your views and chuckled as I read them. I like touching nerves and fluttering feathers on occasion – it makes people look up and notice things. Everything I wrote, I did with much thought and good reason. It's time to clean house!

If you sat on New Year’s Eve and made tons of resolutions, I really hope they work out for you. However, I have a question.... what changes have you brought about in your life to make these resolutions come true? You see, if you always do what you have always done, you will always have what you always had. Have you cleaned your internal house, i.e. your thought patterns, your mind, your bad habits, your approach to others, your views, etc?

Yes the world is in turmoil, times are tough... are they really? Or could it be that you have been conditioned to believe this. Maybe you have been conditioned to lead a certain life which includes eating out 3 times a week, driving the latest car, living in the best neighbourhood and are really struggling to make ends meet. This is causing high blood pressure, stress, family feuds and general unhappiness in your life. Wake up! Does the new car and big house really make you better than someone else? Do you really need to eat out 3 times a week? By having a smaller affordable home, a more affordable car and spending more time eating home cooked meals as a family, life could suddenly become simpler, less hectic and more fun. But you have to change your behaviour!

It's no use telling everyone that 2013 is going to be the year you make it big, if you have no plan of action. Nothing is going to happen if you follow the same route as last year! You have to change your behaviour. I find that the philosophy of starting 'fresh' is misunderstood by many. Most people think that they can still hang on to the past and still include old habits and behaviours when starting fresh. No! Starting fresh means learning from your past mistakes and making sure you don't do them again!

I tend to be a firm believer in energy. Especially in what comes around goes around. I also believe that negative people spread their negative energy and leave it behind if they visit you. Hence I stay very clear from them. Because everything on earth is made up of atoms (energy) I also believe that old items breed on old energy around them. Hence if I am content, I leave the old stuff around me and enjoy the old energy. If I am a dreamer and want something new, I create new energy. If I want to go on a Caribbean holiday, I buy myself a big Gonk shell and put it on my desk. I put a poster of the beach on the wall. I see this every day and let the new energy embrace me. Couple this with visualising your goals – and things change.

Remember, we are the only beings that can create something from nothing. From a mere thought we can create a reality! It's all about working the energy! Another thing I did to allow me that fresh start was to check all my emails, and by the 31st of Dec I had answered all the high priority mails. Guess what I did then? I went to 'select all' and deleted everything that was left! I am truly starting the year fresh! Are you still dragging old energy along with you? Drop it!

And finally, yes we are all still here! The world didn't end on 22 Dec. I know many people that had a huge party that night, and then another one the following night celebrating that they were still here. In fact I even know some doomsday believers that sold off everything and went and built new homes in the middle of the Namib Desert!

What did I do? What I do every day, I lived in the moment and enjoyed every day to the fullest. Not one of us knows when this is all coming to an end, regardless of Aztec predictions, and psychic's premonitions. If anything, go into 2013 and live life to the fullest. Truly learn to live in the moment by starting off with changing your behaviour today so that you have that fresh start.

Finally I want to thank those of you that follow my daily quotations and jokes on Facebook, especially those of you that sent good wishes and prayer for my dad who underwent an emergency operation on Christmas. I really really appreciate this and can report that he is recovering well. That was the best Christmas present ever for me.

I wish you a fantastic 2013.
Warmest regards
Wolfgang

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That's it, the last 'Useletter' of 2012! I say this every year, but damn... this year went fast! This month I want to reflect over the past year and reinforce some of my past messages.

But firstly, as a holiday season gift I have attached a new e-book of mine called, “The Best Tips of 2011/12.” It's free and it's yours. Feel free to pass it onto your friends as well. If you don't like the pdf version and want a different e-reader version – you are welcome to download it free from here and hopefully it will be your preferred e-reader format. I trust you will enjoy the book.

Before I continue, there are two things I need to comment on:

1.) Thanks for the positive response to the new plain format. I never quite realized how many people had a problem reading the 'fancy' formats. Good to now know this works.

2.) As this year winds down and we recharge for 2013, I need to cover one more point. Is it just me that is noticing this, or is humanity becoming more selfish and self-centered? Since my health setback a year ago, I have changed my attitude to life somewhat, in the sense that I call a spade a spade and try not waste time on unimportant issues or negative people. Life really is too short. The great thing is, everyone now knows where they stand with me, plus I am now spending time with positive people that help me grow too!

Sadly, and I admit it, it took a heart attack to realize this and slow down. Last year I mentioned that 6 Dec will be my 2nd birthday embracing the year I have gained. Believe me, I am going to celebrate this new lease on life. It's weird when one thinks that one could have died a year ago!

During this last year I have also found that by sharing my inner emotions and thoughts, I have been receiving a better response and been able to touch more souls with my messages. I have also realized that even though my attitude to life has changed, the biggest gift we can get is to give back to others. Hence through sharing my messages with everyone, I have had an incredibly blessed year. If we connect and I change your life in even a small way, or even let you see an issue from a different point of view, I am glad and my goals are achieved.

Why do I make mention of this? I always try to remain positive and really try to help others live life to the fullest. Unfortunately it sometimes happens that one has to highlight a negative... but with the purpose of eventually turning it into a positive!

The company I use to send out this 'Useletter' gives me stats on how many people actually open the mail and read it. Sadly I see I have a 50% open rate. That means that 50% of the people receiving this don't read it. Um... why did you subscribe? I would prefer that these people 'unsubscribe' as they are wasting both our times. The only problem is they most probably aren't reading this mail! Plus, believe it or not, it costs me money to send out this free 'Useletter'. Rather let someone else subscribe that will read it and wants to benefit from it – then at least I am investing my time and money on people that really take an interest in keeping their lives positive. At the end of every 'Useletter' is an 'unsubscribe' link.

This is just one of the things that doesn’t make sense to me in life... why subscribe to something if you are not going to read it? Similarly, and this is a gem... last month you may recall that my topic was on 'respect'. My first point I made was, that we should not judge people of another country, race or religion. After all, how do you know you are right in what you believe? Guess what, I had over 1200 people unsubscribe because of the above comment! That was their free choice and I repeat, I respect that. However, what I found jaw dropping was that the majority were ALL from one particular religious group and many felt that they had to tell me where to get off. Mmmm, doesn't that kind of defeat the whole purpose of writing about respecting others? In hindsight though, what comes around goes around, and I actually had 1500 new subscribers join this month as well. Makes you think huh?

So… glad you are still here and I trust that you understood where I was coming from. If anything, I have gained a better understanding over the years of writing this 'Useletter' how people think and how views differ. Suddenly I see why there are so many wars, fighting and hatred in the world today. Way too many people have a problem being objective and putting themselves in someone else's shoes. If anything, 2012 has taught me to be more aware of other people's feelings, histories and beliefs. It has reminded me to count to ten before I react and above all it has taught me to ALWAYS put myself in someone else's shoes before I pass judgement. I really don't and never have believed that I am more intelligent or in any way better than anyone else. So how come I understand the concept of being non-judgmental and others don't? It doesn't make sense to me!

I hosted a World Aids Day concert on 1 Dec and was asked to make mention of the 16 consecutive days of non-violence towards woman. Apparently it's the first time in the world that this figure has been reached. I couldn't believe that I had to ask for a round of applause that this 16 day figure had been achieved! What is there to be proud of? Had it been 16 months, or 16 years I would have celebrated! Has the world become so sad that 16 days of non-violence towards women is seen as a milestone?

It all starts in the family how you bring up your children and how they see the relationship between their parents. It also starts with you standing up to your rights and not accepting violence and making your voice heard. Again, I don't want to sound negative, but we can't rely on politicians anymore, all they do is talk and don't take responsibility. The only option is that you take responsibility and stand up and respect your wife, girlfriend and ALL women around you. Do not tolerate disrespectful or violent behavior from other men at all. Next year on 1 Dec I want to stand on that stage and say that it's been 12 months of non-violence and not just 16 days... so stand up and respect all women everywhere... it all begins with YOU!

I have been pulling my hair out trying to figure out what makes people, selfish, disrespectful, judgmental, violent and basically nasty. Hence I sat and thought about this the entire November and have eventually come up with a possible explanation. Do you still believe in the Easter Bunny and Father Christmas? If not, I have a new character for you to believe in... And I have a huge internal debate to decide whether he/she is real or not. It's the 'Plunkey' (Pill + Monkey). Watch the FREE quick tip video by clicking here, or going to my You Tube Channel, 'inspiringtheworld'.

This is a mischievous monkey that carries a bag of 'idiot pills' with him wherever he goes, and he randomly sneaks them into people drinks, particularly on a Sunday night or early Monday morning! Ever watched how people behave in the traffic on a Monday morning? This 'Plunkey' also hangs out at airports and gives them to people before they board a plane. Ever noticed rude people in a store? Rude Boss?; Obnoxious work colleague?; Crazy family member?; ... the 'Plunkey!'

Added to that the 'Plunkey' buys his pills in bulk and as cheaply as possible. Hence he has some 'bad' batches of pills occasionally – these then don't result in 'stupid' behavior, but in 'judgmental' behavior.

There you have it – that's my explanation as to why certain people are so narrow minded and only see their way. In fact coming up with this explanation now makes me feel really sorry for these people and at the same time it gives me hope knowing that the effect of the tablet may eventually wear off – thus I should NEVER EVER give up and continue trying to make these individuals see the light!

This also means that anyone like this that you encounter can be cured! Don't give up on them. Kind words and understanding goes a long way! And if that doesn't work, silence is an incredibly powerful tool too! It reminds me of a great saying, “When arguing with an idiot, make sure you are not the idiot!” So sometimes silence is best.

What is the definition of insanity? To do what you have always done, and expect a different result!

Nice huh? During 2012 I have decided that I am going to live my life differently and take the advice of the Dalai Lama which is shared in February. In case you didn't read it, here it is again.

A question that was posed to the Dalai Lama which has had me thinking seriously on what is important in life. He was asked, “What thing about humanity surprises you the most?” His answer was as follows, “Man! Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he doesn't enjoy the present, As a result he doesn't live in the present or the future, but lives as if he’s never going to die, and then he dies having never really lived!”

It's been 10 months since I posted that story! So my question to you is, “Have you really lived this year?”

During December, while you decide on your New Year's resolutions for 2013, can I be so bold as to ask you to include respecting everyone around you and not being judgmental? Let's create magic in 2013. All the doomsday prophets are expecting the world to come to an end this month. Here's what I see. I believe that the world will and is changing and that all these predictions around the end of this year are about the beginning of a change in the mindset of humanity. More and more people are standing up to what is right. More and more speakers are doing what I am doing by sharing a positive and hope filled messages with everyone out there. I believe that slowly we are touching souls and people are spreading the positive message. Hence my prediction for the future is that this month is the beginning of a new mind shift change in humanity where people are beginning to become enlightened and the seeds are being planted for a better future world.

On that note I wish you a peaceful and relaxing festive season with family and friends. Whether you believe in Santa Clause or not, let the spirit and magic of this season rub off onto you so that you embrace the true gifts of giving and unconditional love over December and the year ahead.

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I have a somewhat longer 'Quick Tip video' I uploaded today, that covers the contents of this 'Useletter'. Click here to watch it. You can visit my YouTube channel, Inspiring The World, free and watch tons of inspirational messages.
Respect

Secondly last month I launched a website called www.mindskills4u.com where you can watch a completely FREE video where I improve your memory within 25 minutes! Plus I'll teach you a really great mathematics trick. I cannot believe the response, it's been phenomenal! Yesterday I uploaded the MATH Skills course. So if you have kids that can benefit from clever math tips – this is it! Click here and be blown away!

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Respect
6 Weeks to go to Christmas.... and I remember writing the January 'Useletter' only the other day! If anything, I have really enjoyed sharing my feelings this year as so many people have responded to me with emails and comments.

Firstly, I have moved the 'Useletter' into a simple format this month as some people write that their various e-readers don't always display the format correctly. So I would appreciate some response as to what you think of this plain format. All my links i.e. this month's Quick Tip, etc. are at the end of this email.

Secondly, people send me emails to subscribe, unsubscribe and even change address details to their subscription. If you read all the way to the end of the 'Useletter' there is a tab where you can do it! That's why it's there!

I am still amazed at how many people think that I don't read my own emails! Yes, I read and respond to all my emails personally! Having said this, I received a request two weeks ago that I should tackle the topic of 'respect.' Wow, if anything that is something that is lacking in many aspects of society today. Respect for religious beliefs, family, children, spouse, culture, country, etc. ...and the list goes on. I thought I would tackle 4 sub categories under respect this month; religion, money family and culture.

As I get older in life I realize that I am no longer scared to have my say and that I am comfortable with who I am. In the same vein I am also comfortable with making myself vulnerable and sharing deeply personal issues, feelings and questions. I also fully accept that I am not always correct in my views. However, I do always sincerely try and give an objective viewpoint. Having said this, there may be some people that may take offense to certain points I am about make. Believe me, it is not my intention to offend, it is my intention to educate and inspire. Respect is earned. In my eyes respect is about 'walking the talk' and standing up to what you believe in. Haven't the years of me sharing via this free 'Useletter' proven that?

Last year in my November 'Useletter' I received a number of complaints from subscribers that I had wished all my American friends a Happy Halloween – complaining that it was a pagan celebration. For those people I would like to suggest that you do a Google search on the origin of this 'All Saints' day... you may be surprised at who started it all! So maybe respect is a good topic for this month, as once again I sincerely wish all my American friends the best Halloween ever, despite the terrible hurricane that has struck the East coast. I would have loved to be there enjoyed the fun.

Who are we to criticize and judge others for what they do? Isn't this a sign of disrespect? How do you know you are right in what you believe? Personally I think most people see Halloween as a fun night to dress up and have a great party. If anything is bad I think it's that some people overdo the alcohol on this night. I doubt many actually see it as anything else but a good reason to party. Funny, I have also always seen it as a great festive event too. If I have fancy dress parties at my home, I always try to go for a Halloween, Rocky Horror or scary theme. It's the wackiness of the event. My favorite celebration is on 30 April in the Hartz Mountains in Germany when they have a Walpurgis Night party throughout the region. Children enact plays from Goethe, people dress up and it's a hoot. My oldest friend runs a hotel and restaurant there (Die Kleine Zauberwelt) and has a stand at the festivities. I go along (as someone with a big mouth) and assist behind the stand to pull the crowd and sell cakes and goodies. If anything we have a brilliant night out every year. Not once have I seen it as 'evil' or bad. Nor have I ever judged anyone that has or hasn't attended the festivities. This definitely does not mean that I am a devil worshiper – if anything I would like to believe myself to be a very grounded and spiritual person.

In all my teachings I have spoken in holy houses of every religion. Even though I am launching my first religious book in the next two months, it gives me no right to judge others if they follow a different belief system. That is just plain disrespectful. I have no right to do so. Who am I to judge someone that was brought up in another country under a different belief system? For all I know they may be 100 times more spiritual than me and 200 times a better person. Isn't respect taking someone's feelings, needs, thoughts, ideas, wishes and preferences into consideration? Isn't respect about valuing someone else's thoughts and feelings and accepting their individuality and idiosyncrasies? Proclaiming my religion to everyone out there definitely does not make me a better person. Nor does it make me right in what I do. However, walking my talk, practicing what I preach and living what I believe... that is what will make people look twice and take notice. Actions speak so much louder than words.

No one will ever follow me if they do not respect me! How can I earn someone's respect if I am forever judging and criticizing what they do? How have the various religions messiahs created followers? By being judgmental, criticizing others and being disrespectful? Or by leading by example and respecting everyone out there? Think about it!

If you believe that money and power will buy you respect, I have some bad news for you... it won't! How many politicians do you really respect? Look at people that have inherited huge sums of money, or become rich overnight. Yes they may have lots of people working for them in their company or at home and can afford to have anything done by anyone... but at a price. Does this power buy them respect? Just look at big name celebrities and sports stars that appear in the media because of a scandal. Do you respect them, even with all their money? I used to question why many people with money and power are so rude and disrespectful towards others. The answer is so easy. They sense that they are not respected, even with all that they have, and it frustrates them terribly – hence they pursue even more money in the hope that they will eventually get respect. Sad really! Of course our media doesn't help this plight either, as all they do is sell materialism as the answer to respect... another huge lie that you need to stand up against. Respect can never be demanded or forced, even though many people believe it can. That's not respect, that's fear! Realize that the ONLY way to receive respect is to send it out to others and then let it boomerang back to you.

Of course the biggest issues around respect occur within the family. Do you respect your spouse, your children, and your immediate family? You earn family members' respect by voluntarily doing things such as taking that person's feelings, needs and thoughts into consideration. Think of when a child is born... initially the needs are basic survival needs for food and nurturing. As the child grows up, an increasing need for autonomy and independence starts appearing. As an adult one needs to realize this and treat the young adult with increasing respect (letting go of the childhood needs) so that they begin learning to respect you in return in order to apply this in their adult life.

I know I've mentioned this before, but my wife and I talk to our daughters about everything, we listen to them and we explain the reasons for our actions to them. We show them respect and hence they show us respect in return. Everyone laughs at me when they hear my daughters are teenagers, and wish us 'good luck' with them. Funny, we have no problems with them at all! I wonder whether it has to do with the fact that we show them respect and are aware of their feelings. Maybe it's also because we spend time with them and share openly as a family. Or could it possibly be that we are approachable as parents and non-judgmental and the fact that they know they will not be judged, no matter what they share with us?

Similarly, never expect respect from a family member if you are not prepared to be respectful to them! Should you be treated disrespectfully within a family, you need to make sure you haven't treated the other person disrespectfully in the first place. If not, then the only other alternative is to stand up for yourself and confront the other person. In October my wife and I celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary. How have we lasted 22 years? Simple... respect for each other and open honest communication. Without respect there would be no relationship and we would be living a lie. We both know and understand this! Do you have the same relationship with your spouse? As hard as it may sound, if you have no respect for your partner, then don't stay with them. Then you are only disrespecting yourself.

Similarly, who are you to judge a beggar at a street corner and treat them in a disrespectful manner? Have you ever considered that they have a child/children and a spouse at home that look up to them and respect them?

And this leads me to the final point. As I watch CNN, Sky News and Euro News less and less, I notice how 'political correctness' and cultural issues are still such a hot topic around the world. I also notice how it's always one-sided and always one culture complaining about non-acceptance by another. It saddens me to see where the world is going here. Many years ago when I went through a near death experience out on an expedition in the Arctic, and we thought we were all going to die, I made myself a few promises should I survive. One of the biggest and most influential promises I made myself, and the one that changed my life radically was; I will never judge a person by their creed, culture, religion or race. I will accept and treat everyone I meet equally and show them ALL equal respect. I will give them the power to lose or keep that respect by how they treat me in return – but I will NEVER pre-judge them.

This has turned my life around completely and resulted in me having true friends all across this globe. We all need to learn to respect each other unconditionally and the world will become a better place for all.

As I finish off I realize that the most important answer to all the problems above always come back to one thing. People don't respect themselves! If you respect and love yourself and find comfort in who you are as a person, then all the problems discussed this month wouldn't be a problem. Think about it!

Have an awesome November!

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I have a somewhat longer 'Quick Tip video' I uploaded today, that covers the contents of this 'Useletter'. Click here to watch it. You can visit my YouTube channel, Inspiring The World, free and watch tons of inspirational messages.
Coping with Life

Secondly last month I launched a website called www.mindskills4u.com where you can watch a completely FREE video where I improve your memory within 25 minutes! Plus I'll teach you a really great mathematics trick. I cannot believe the response, it's been phenomenal! Yesterday I uploaded the MATH Skills course. So if you have kids that can benefit from clever math tips – this is it! Click here and be blown away!

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It's October! Is it an age thing or have you found that the year has also simply slipped away? Every year I say to myself that it will become better than the next, and before you know it, another year has passed with twice as many storms as the one before! These are the times I sit down in thought and try figure out what I did in my previous life and when my karma will be repaid that I am working off!

Does this sound familiar to you? Could you have written that sentence above? Is it how you see life and question the reasoning behind all the happenings?

If yes, don't feel badly! Believe me, you are not the only one. With the way the world has changed into this pulsating 24/7/365 society - stress levels have increased for everyone everywhere. Plus we tend to worry about everything and anything, which isn't helping either. This has resulted in many people not finding a balance in life anymore and questioning all the 'side-winder' events that occur unexpectedly in life.

I look at my year and it has been particularly eventful. However, I don't look at anything as bad or negative, but as learned life experiences that have helped me grow as a person. You see, it is my choice, and my choice alone as to how I react to events in my life. Agreed, maybe I am just a thick-skinned schmuck! But guess what, I consciously choose to always look for the learned reason behind events and I share them with others... just see all my previous 'Useletters'. I believe that we have to learn from events in our life, the good and the bad.

Many people ask me how I always remain so positive. The reality is, I also have my ups and downs, BUT I have many more ups than downs. It didn't start out like that! I had to work at it. Today, because of the way I lead my life and the things I do in my daily routine tend to have the upper hand when it comes to looking at the bright side of things. Hence I thought that this month I would share a few tips with you that really make a positive change in my life.

Here's my first tip... I have two bars in my house!

Ha, ha... that is actually my first tip... I joke a lot and try to find the humorous in everything around me! Laughter is the best medicine – this is a proven fact! Think back, when last have you laughed? How do you feel after you have laughed? It's an energy boost – you just feel 100 times better. Hence I figured a while back, if I can laugh at least 3 times a day, at least once in the morning, afternoon and at night – I have constant boosts to cheer me up. Hence I love speaking in front of live audiences, as it gives me the chance to make people laugh and show them the power of laughter. I received two great jokes in the email this morning...

A friend of mine quizzed me why I put superglue on his dart.... I said, “You just can't let it go, can you!”
And the other one that cracked me up...
After 4 years of therapy my psychologist said something that brought tears to my eyes. He said, "No hablo Ingles."

We may not all have the same sense of humour – which is fine, but a great joke anytime in the day just makes my day!
Please don't misunderstand me. I am not saying that we should laugh our life away. But we should laugh a lot more and find more reasons to laugh in and at life. I firmly believe that laughter is also a huge contributing factor to happiness.

However, crying can be too. Have you ever cried from happiness? Or does that sound weird to you? Again, this weird high tech society we live in has taught many people to separate from their emotions. I find that being in tune with your emotions is one of the most important skills we need in life. As men we are taught not to cry. But, damn, occasionally a good sob is good for the soul. When last have you watched a really sad movie and shed tears? It actually brings you down to earth again and grounds you. Have you ever cried from happiness? I find that many people have forgotten to be grateful, especially for the smaller things in life.... which in fact are the bigger memories at the end of the day. Spending an evening eating out with your family in the harbour, going on holiday; actually having the kids home for a weekend and the whole family snuggling together in bed watching movies – do you appreciate those moments? Seeing you parents and realising that they gave up so much for you and really do love you – isn't that a reason to cry from happiness and tell them from your heart that you love them so very, very much? We only tend to cry about the loss of things and people that make us happy. Maybe we should also cry from joy at having those 'magical' moments?

Thirdly, six months ago I bought us a cat, we have always had dogs, but I grew up with cats and always wanted a cat. We also have a small Jack Russell. Now when the cat and Jack Russell start playing I am constantly laughing and taking photos of the crazy things they do. It is a huge energy boost in my day. In fact I read recently on the Internet that the frequency of a cat's purring resonates exactly with the same frequency we are in when we are happy. Interesting, huh? See my picture at the top of the Useletter – that's 'Schmoesie'. Of course when I play with him, the dogs want part of the attention too and suddenly I have 3 animals around me giving me unconditional love. There are NO conditions, just simple love from 3 animals that do not judge or complain, but simply want someone to play with them. I find that switching off and just enjoying playing with them is like a vitamin injection which re-energises me tremendously and takes my mind off everything else. Plus they are so cute and so funny at times. It makes my day. Do you have pets that you can do this with too? If not, take a visit to a nearby park and feed the ducks. Believe me, they will make you laugh too and take your mind off the daily stresses.

Fourthly, a few months ago I made a conscious decision to only hang out with people that bring value to my life, not just to have fun times with, but also in terms of intellectual stimulation. For years I have found I am always the one making the phone calls, keeping the friendship alive, etc. I stopped doing that now and it's amazing how many people stopped phoning. Don't forget, I was a TV celebrity as well. It was a huge let down for me to realize how many people where my friends simply because of my status in society and what they could get out of me. Honestly, it took me a long time to come to grips with this and get over the hurt. I am a giver, always have been. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely believe in unconditional love and giving, and ALWAYS give without expecting anything in return. However, it is a disappointment when you realise that some people simply are leaches and will only associate with you for their own gain.

However, this feeling sorry for myself story didn't sit well with me. I could find many reasons why friendships didn't work. Again I had to be man enough and question myself. Did I check them out before embarking on a friendship? Did I do my part? Did I take into account their circumstances, etc. Eventually I realised that my life and my happiness is not dependent on others, but on me and my attitude. I could sit and find fault, or I could stand up and take responsibility for my own life. Instead of blaming others for hanging out with me because of who I was, maybe I should go out and make an effort to build up my friendship circle. Sitting at home wasn't going to help. Neither was going down to the local pub. I needed to think long and hard what it was I wanted out of a friendship. I also realised that many possibly good friendships had dwindled due to the strains of everyday life. Thus I made myself a promise to start looking up old mates again and to put at least one weekend a month aside to socialise with people that are important to me. It's been great and I have been rekindling old friendships.

And of course there is family. As I write this 'Useletter' my youngest daughter has just taken part in the national Rhythmic Gymnastics championship, coming in overall at second place with 2 gold medals, a silver and a bronze. AM I A PROUD DAD OR WHAT?

Nothing but nothing compares to having an open, caring and loving relationships with all members of your family. As corny as it may sound to some people, my wealth is my family. The fact that my wife and I share and discuss everything together is one of my secrets to a long and successful marriage. Now that our daughters are older we include them in everything. Firstly, that they can see how a husband and wife should respect each other and share openly, and also for them to know that they are respected members of my family. We all like to brag about our children, but everyone compliments me about my daughters, plus both will be completing grade 12 before the age of 16! Yep you read correctly, before the age of 16. I admit it; they got their brains from my wife!

Realistically though, how is it that my girls are so far ahead? Do you think it's because there is constant drama at home? Or maybe is it because they feel wanted, a respected part of the family and have parents that spend time with them and talk to them about everything? Just thought I’d throw that in.

As some of you know, I spent two weeks abroad with my oldest daughter last month. Having her attend a convention with me and having her listen in on my seminars and chatting with her afterwards was just so special. We even spent time in a theme park (Phantasialand) outside Cologne with my dad. For me to watch my daughter and my dad (who by the way is 78) on fantasy rides which were a 'first' for both of them was one of those 'crying in happiness' moments for me. The excitement in my daughter's eyes as she was enjoying the thrill of the ride and the wonderment in my dad's eyes as to how technology has created unimaginable experiences for someone of his generation were precious to me. However, in both, the child was apparent. The magic was there. Wow, that was just so unforgettable.

This month my message to you is to try and create more magic moments in your life, whether through laughter, through pets, friends or family, or preferably a combination of them all. The more of these moments you create, the less time you will spend fretting the unimportant stuff!

Go out there and have a 'magical' October!

Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', October 2012 Useletter, Coping with Life

Welcome to the change of seasons, whichever part of the word you are in! Whether you are heading into summer, or winter, I trust that only positive energy will follow you as we move towards the end of the year again.
Firstly, I have a Quick Tip video I uploaded today. Click here to watch it. You can visit my You Tube channel, Inspiring The World, free and watch tons of inspirational messages.

5 Tips of Gratitude

Secondly and this is EXCITING NEWS! Do you want to improve your memory NOW? I have just launched a website called www.mindskills4u.com where you can watch a completely FREE video where I improve your memory within 25 minutes! Plus I'll teach you a really great mathematics trick. No obligation, no strings attached – simply click here and be blown away!

I also have a completely FREE video course on 4 Life Truths. All you need to do is visit www.mindshiftguru.com and subscribe totally free. I also launched my full Discover Your Magic video course on the Internet. Check it out here.

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And now to this month’s topic:

Gratitude

How has your month been? Mine has been hectic in the sense that life continually throws emotional events at me that steer me back into being consciously thankful for every day. I don't know if it's just me, or if you experience the same, but it truly has been a few months of serious emotional roller coaster rides for me.

There are two scenarios I want to share, with similar lessons.
As I write this 'Useletter', I am sitting at the airport with my oldest daughter and the two of us are going to spend some quality time together, also visiting my dad. As you know, I have two daughters and they are everything in my life. A few months ago I made a decision that whenever I do long distance flights, I will take one of them with me and alternate between them. Obviously we have our family time as well, but when it comes to longer business trips I figured that rather than flying business class, I fly coach class, but take one daughter with me every time. In that way they get to see the world and I have quality time with them.

I need some serious time with my daughter! Why. She is a gymnast and a national champion at that. She does artistic gymnastics; that is the one where they do somersaults on the wooden beam and lots of physically difficult and challenging routines. I suppose because it isn't a mainstream sport like football or tennis, the parents of the gymnasts tend to know each other better. About two weeks ago one of the teenage boys that trains with my daughter came over to visit. What a nice young man and a youngster who showed an interest in what I did professionally and connected with me. Clever youngster to get the dad to like him first! Nevertheless, jokes aside, not two days later at practice, this young man slipped, fell and broke his neck!

Shock! In fact I am still speechless. He couldn't feel his legs or arms and was paralyzed on the spot. This all happened within a split second while everyone was watching him. Have you ever been in a situation where you just wanted to be able to take back the last 5 seconds of your life. Oh man this was hectic. On top of it all, the other gymnasts experienced this as it happened. Their young minds are so impressionable – the shock for them was incredibly stressful. No matter how old you are, you are never prepared for something this tragic, especially as a youngster.

I cannot begin to imagine what his parents must have gone through on receiving the news. In fact they arranged a room at the hospital next to their son. My daughter and all the gymnasts were visiting daily and communicating over the phone more than ever. If you have teenagers, you know they life on their mobiles!

I kept on asking myself over and over what the lesson could possibly be for anyone to learn from this? As a family we sat and discussed the turn of events, more in shock than anything else, and more as a comfort to each other. In the end the same message came out that I keep on writing about. We ALL need to be thankful for every day!

Do you wake up and give thanks that you are still alive and healthy? Whether you believe in your creator, or just give thanks to the universe out there – do you do it? Or do you take the world for granted and let events such as this shake up your entire life, only to be back in the rut a week later?

When last have you taken your child in your arms, looked them in the eyes and told them how special they are and how much you love them? In fact, when last have you done this with ANYONE that is important in your life? Man, from heart attacks, deaths, sick parents to I don't know what next – someone is telling me something here... and YES, I have been listening for many months now! Are you? Are you just skimming over this newsletter and deleting it? Or are you really taking note of the messages and changing your life for the better and living in the moment?

I am going to spend two very special weeks with my daughter and my dad now and creating magic memories. Why don't you make it your goal this month to do the same with those that are special in your life?

Why did I have a heart attack 9 months ago and survive? Could it have been to learn a lesson and be given the chance to change my life and live in the moment? Why did this young gymnast fall and break his neck? Maybe the bigger lesson was for me to write about it and shock you into changing your life! I know his parents, they are wonderful loving people, I am still trying to figure out the lesson they had to learn. Nevertheless, the good news is that he has started regaining feeling throughout his body, except his legs. But is responding well to treatment after an extensive operation. We all know that he will be able to a walk again. His accident has been a warning to all of us out there – don't take life and health for granted. Hopefully I will be able to welcome this young man into my home again soon and spend some time learning from him and the emotions he went through over this period.

My wife is my pillar of strength in times of weakness. Yes I am a mind shift guru and inspirational speaker and spend my life inspiring other. But hey, I am a human too and also have my ups and downs. I have a huge issue with high profile people that are hypocrites and who only care for themselves – hence one of the reasons that I refuse to watch the news or read newspapers. Believe it or not, it helps me tremendously and keeps me positive 80% of the time. However, there are certain times one cannot avoid seeing a newspaper banner or headline on a pole as one drives to work, or walks through an airport and sees all the TV screens everywhere. My wife already has this routine of steering me back on the right positive road every time I get back from a flight – as she knows that this affects me. Maybe it's age, but the older I get the more I become upset with corruption, corporate greed and religious double standards. The more I get upset with people who don't take a stand and who don't practice what they preach. Maybe that's why I spend the time writing my 'Useletters' and creating different courses and doing my Quick Tips. Maybe I am just trying to bring about a change for the better. I do believe it all starts with one person. You also have no idea how much I want to mention specific names and comment on the double standards of certain individual figureheads 'out there.' But then I sit back, calm down and realize that it is only though positive words and clarity of mind that I could possibly hope to bring about a change.

And on that note I tackle my 2nd lesson. Last week I was in a big city I heard the story of a fire in a shantytown where a 7-year old youngster watched his parents and sister burn to death. The entire media was full of this shocking story, and as per usual, the 'powers-that-be' had the same old comments, “Tragic, shocking, disgraceful, etc.” Yet these are the same comments they say every time something bad happens! They still don't do anything about, nor improve the circumstances for the poor. Sorry, they do... at lavish conferences where they spend tax payers money and stay in luxury hotels and then argue who is to blame, but never accept the blame themselves! Does this sound familiar? Worst of all, within a week there is another tragedy and everyone has forgotten about the 7 year old youngster and the emotional scarring he has suffered.

What kind of a world are we living in today? Sadly my above example pertains to ANY country on this globe. Why are people not standing up and making their voices heard? Why are people accepting this behaviour from our leaders? Just look at the circus in the world right now? Dare I question whether we have all become greedy and don't care for our fellow human beings anymore!

STOP! Stop being immune to the atrocities happening in the world everyday. Stand up and make yourself heard! You are part of the change. It starts with the little things! Stand up and say your say when you see an injustice. Don't be an impartial bystander. Become a pillar in your society. Become someone that people look up to and respect. Only then can we all start making a positive difference to the world we live in.

If you enjoy positive short life changing stories that you can read quickly and that will steer you in the right direction, have a look at the book, Life Lessons for the Heart, or Click here.

And don't forget... have a look at my new Memory Video where I teach you to remember any ten things! Visit www.mindskills4u.com, or also check out my free video course on Life Truths at www.mindshiftguru.com.

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Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', September 2012 useletter, Gratitude

Hello and welcome to the August "Useletter'. Firstly, I am trying a different format as I have had feedback from some people that their various electronic readers and phones didn't do so well on the last format. I trust this reads better.
Secondly, I have 2 Quick Tip videos that I uploaded in the last two weeks and will be uploading videos regularly every 10 days or so. You can visit my You Tube channel, Inspiring The World, free and watch tons of inspirational messages.
Have pride in what you do

Break down your walls around you

I also have a completely FREE video course on 4 Life Truths. All you need to do is visit www.mindshiftguru.com and subscribe totally free. I also launched my full Discover Your Magic video course on the internet. Check it out here. In this month I will be launching a free memory Training course as well. Look out for it on my website.
Did you know that I post daily quotations on my Facebook site - aslo Free! It would be great if you 'Liked' me on my page. Check it out here.
And now to this month’s topic:
A while back I asked for topic suggestions. Surprisingly enough, the majority of requests were around marriage, relationships and couple issues.
I can happily share with you that I have been with my wife, Sonja, for 30 years. She is my best friend and the most beautiful woman on earth for me. People often ask what the magic formula has been in our life. In fact people always come to us for advice and comment on how stable our relationship is.
Mmm, I always have to laugh... you haven't seen the things my wife has thrown at me and broken over my head! You haven't heard the yelling and screaming that has taken place over the years! I bought her a mood ring years ago. You know what that is? It's a ring with a big crystal stone. When she is in a good mood, the stone is green. When she is in a bad mood, it leaves a big red mark on my forehead!
Jokes aside, here's a reality check! We all fight, we all have disagreements and we don't always see eye to eye. You and your spouse/partner are two different individuals with different needs and wants. I think it is naïve to think that any relationship can be all that Hollywood portrays it to be in the movies! In fact, look at the reality of the messed up celebrity relationships in Hollywood... that's more true to life.
So what is the solution? How can I understand my partner better and how can I bring the romance and understanding back into a relationship? 
Here I need to refer back to my parents, whom I spoke about last month. At 78 my dad still wants to look after my mother, even though she has dementia, doesn't really recognize him anymore, and is overly aggressive. In fact when my dad drives her to the doctor, his whole arm is blue from defending himself in the car from her hitting him out of aggression. Then when my mom is herself again, she asks with care and concern what happened to my dad's arm. And my dad looks back at her and simply replies that he bumped himself. Wow, that's love.
They once asked children to define love and the best explanation for me was, "When my grandmother got arthritis and couldn't paint her toenails anymore, my grandfather did it for her, even though he had arthritis too. That's love!
On a current issue and the recent tragic Colorado shootings - did you read that three boyfriends offered their lives for their girlfriends by shielding them from the bullets - that's love!
What happens when you read the above? Dare I guess that you now have a lump in your throat? Why? Because these are touching and emotional, real life examples.
People look at me and think that everything just fell into place and we only experience bliss and happiness and that we have been blessed with a perfect life. Mmm - let me share a bit of our reality with you. In the first few years of our relationship Sonja became terminally ill and I had to carry her everywhere and do everything for her. About 7 years ago she had an allergic reaction, and her heart stopped. Luckily we live close to a hospital and as fate would have it, the doctors brought her back. Today she has good and bad days and we have to watch what she eats and hence we all live on a carefully balanced diet.
In the beginning years she had a good job when I started my entertainment career. It was tough, but she supported me. Many months we lived off Sonja's salary alone. As I got older and more established I told her to stop working so I could look after her, and today she is there for our daughters. Sometime I think she would have preferred a full time job... that's way less work than looking after two teenage girls! What am I trying to say? She was there for me in the beginning; I am there for her today. Not because of payback, but because of respect, unconditional love and caring. If anything, today she helps me in the office and is part of everything I do. She is the reason behind my success. She has been there, supported and grown with me over the years. It's been awesome. In everything we have done, we have included each other... that's so important... being part of each other's dreams.
Most people see what they want to see, but they don't realize the ups and downs and the traumas we have gone through. So how have we done it? What is the secret formula? In 3 simple words: Respect, Honesty and Communication.
I see so many couples that don't speak to each other. Have you ever watched couples in a restaurant? You can mostly spot an older (not in age) married couple - they are the ones not talking to each other! I know that's a generalization, but it's also the sad truth.
The other day I was having a serious conversation about marriage and how people don't stay together anymore. An interesting point that arose was that we live in a society where everything has to be updated continuously. Think about it, you change your phone every two years, your car every three years, your computer every 6 months, etc. So we have been brought up in a culture of changing the old for the new. Somewhere this is having an effect on relationships. I just thought this was an interesting point and something worth mentioning. Today it's just become too easy to get married and divorced. We need to focus more on the sanctity and seriousness of marriage.
Here are 5 tips which I trust can help you:
1. Realize and accept that you will have disagreements. It's how you handle those disagreements that count. Do you listen to your partner's side of the story? Or do you bulldoze them over with your pre-conceived views? Communication is the most important factor in any relationships! Speak to each other and listen to what your partner is saying. NEVER assume - it doesn't matter how long you have been together. Assumption leads to fights. We also live in a rushed world where people don't have time to talk and listen. Make a point of eating dinner together and NOT in front of the TV. Uninterrupted family time - if you have children. Use this time to talk about your day, your feelings, your worries, etc. If you have children, do the 'Talking Stick' thing. i.e. pass a stick around the table and the person with the stick is the only one allowed to talk. This may sound simple, but it forces everyone to listen and builds confidence in children to actually talk to their parents. However, I would recommend this for couples as well.
2. Honesty! This is top of the list. Always be honest with your partner. Once you have lost the trust of a partner, you are not going to get it back. If you don't communicate regularly, clearly and effectively with each there, how can you expect trust to be part of your relationship? Without trust there isn't going to be any depth!
3. Gentlemen... yes we are the less romantic gender. Again, conditioning has played a role. So re-condition yourself and learn to become more romantic and do the special little things for your partner. Here’s a simple example. If it's your wife's/girlfriend's birthday, buy her mom a bouquet of flowers with a card that says, "Thank you for bringing your beautiful daughter into this world and into my life." Need I really say more on the topic?
4. Always include your children in family conversations and issues. Let them feel part of the unit. Remember that they will model their relationships on how they see you and your spouse behave. Are you a loving couple? Do you love and play? Or are you distant from each other and never talk to each other. What kind of future adult do you think your child will become?
5. Look at yourself before criticizing your partner. Normally what irritates you about your partner is an issue you have to sort out in your own life. See this as a lesson for yourself. It is important that you are honest with yourself and sort out you own conflicts and issues. Only then can you approach your partner from an objective and non-judgmental perspective and give (and receive) the love you both deserve.
Should you want to really find out a lot more on the Art of Romance, have a look at this great book. Click here.
So for August I leave you with this thought... speak to your partner and practice honest open communication. Make time for each other and discover the magic of loving relationships.
Oh, and I have to leave you with an Olympic joke... Did you hear about the German fella that arrived at the Olympic village with a long bag? The security official asked him whether he was a pole vaulter. And the German replied, “Nein, I am not Polish, but how did you know my name is Valter?”
Okay, I thought it was funny and everyone is in the Olympic spirit at the moment. Wasn't the opening absolutely awesome, and all those volunteers that took part! It just shows you what a nation can accomplish when everyone stands together. My girls have been glued to the Gymnastics.
And don't forget... have a look at my Free video course on Life Truths at www.mindshiftguru.com
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Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', August 2012 Useletter, Marriage, Relationships

Welcome to the July Useletter!

Greetings from Frankfurt airport. Isn't technology wonderful? One can write and upload everything on the go! Lots of happenings on my side and lots of free videos and goodies I want to share with you.

I have 3 Quick Tip videos that I uploaded in the last two weeks.
Conditioning
Passion in the Harz Mountains: English / German
Enjoy Old Age

I also have a completely FREE video course on 4 Life Truths. All you need to do is visit www.mindshiftguru.com and subscribe totally free.

After last month's “Useletter' some people inquired whether I was stopping... No! This Useletter will always be sent out once per month and completely free. I have merely added an 'extra offering' for those of you that want more.

Over the years some of you have experienced me sharing personal messages and thoughts. Inspiration, being a calling for me, I believe that by speaking from the heart I bring about a shift in your perceptions.

This is one of those months!

It has been crazy and I have practically flown across half the world again. However, it has also been one of the most emotionally intense months of my life spending a week with my 78 year old dad who is looking after my mother who has dementia and cannot be left alone for even one minute. She is aggressive, doesn't recognize me and most of the time she doesn't recognize my father either. Three years ago my parents decided to move back to Germany as it is their birth country and they both felt they wanted to die in their home country.

I of course was not only shocked at their reference to death and their finality in wanting to move away from us in Cape Town at the time, but also the fact that they didn't want my support nor help, even though I wanted to build an apartment onto my place and be there for them. For many weeks I never believed they would take the step and when they eventually left, I was devastated. In the interim I have been visiting them as often as I can, and my mother has become progressively worse with my dad taking more and more strain to cope on his own. Being a German (stubborn) and also very ethical he feels that he cannot put my mom in a home after being married for 55 years. He married her for better or for worse, he loves her and he will be there for her right up until the end. I have such huge admiration for him, together with tears in my eyes at his honor of being there for her. At the same time I see the reality that she isn't aware of anything most of the time and that he needs to get her professional care. And so we go about trying to make the best of this situation. In the interim I managed to plan a ten day period for my dad and me to be alone together and catch up. First to give him a break, and secondly to talk about his life, the future and where to go from here.

In all my 'so-called' wisdom, it is the first time I have actually spent time with him, with the realization that it could be the last time I ever have this opportunity again. That is not a nice thought to have... even though it is reality.

His birth place was Hamburg and he showed me where he was born, went to school and the bunker they used to hide in during the air raids during the 2ndWorld War. It was such a special and touching experience to share this with my dad who had left Germany at a young age of 14. For him to openly share the stories of how they struggled, starved and barely survived. I shall never forget watching my 78 year old dad cry in front of me as he recalled how his mom died, and at age 9 he had to bury her. To think back of my youth how my parents did everything to give me stability and love me unconditionally, yet never shared the burden he had carried with him all these years. Can you imagine the emotional strain over the years? He shared the story of my mom's youth and how she never received the nourishment she needed as a child and hence the medical ailments throughout her whole life. Hence so much behavior from my parent’s side during my youth now suddenly makes sense.

I spent a number of days in Hamburg with him and we went everywhere. To see his eyes light up at some of the better childhood memories he had and the pleasure in being able to show me part of his youth was just so incredible. I have never felt so close to my dad before. Have you done this with your parents?

He shared a story with me of the farm they used to own in Prussia (now Poland) where the Russians arrived and gave them all 1 hour to pack up and leave. He says he will never forget how everyone ran around panicking and grabbing what they could, except for his grandmother. After 5 minutes she sat on the veranda with her blanket from her bed and a bucket of potatoes. He recalls asking her why she was so calm. She told him she had everything, a blanket to keep her warm and food to see her through the next few days?

How many of us would have looked at the future like that? If you look at the practicality of the actions – makes complete sense! Everyone else was gathering 'other stuff', while the grandmother in her wisdom realized what needed to be taken to survive for the next few days, as that is what counted right then.

We also spent a few days with my dad's older sister. They have now found each other again and are talking on the phone every day. She is somewhat older at 86 and like a second mother to me. I noticed that she wasn't her normal bright self when we arrived. Her partner had now also recently passed away so I assumed this to be the reason. As we started chatting she suddenly piped up that she had no reason to get up in the morning anymore! I was shocked and asked for an explanation. She told me that all her friends had died. She had out-lived everyone – there was no-one left! What was the point of carrying on?

Phew! I thought I had some insight into life, but never have a looked at life from that perspective! Worst of all, I couldn't answer her straight away, because I couldn't argue with her. I had never thought of, or imagined that scenario ever... nor do I think that thought would ever have crossed my mind, unless I achieved that age.

We sit and complain about life as young people. Can you imagine reaching an age where suddenly everyone you cared for is gone? Yes she has her brother (my dad), but he lives 4 hours away.

In the beginning I said this has been an emotional roller-coaster month for me... can you now see why?

Today’s medical advancements are giving everyone the opportunity of living longer and healthier lives. What will you be thinking the day all of your loved ones are gone? Will you have regrets? Will you be content? These are some serious questions.

I keep telling everyone to live in the moment and reach for their dreams. You see, as we get older the past catches up with us and it becomes increasing difficult to avoid the responsibility of facing the past. If you are in you middle age – now is the time one becomes more content with oneself and tends to slow down. Now is the time you need to start sorting out all the issues of the past. When you are older one day and the last one left – don't you think it may be a little tough trying to do it then?

You need to sit down now and ask yourself certain questions every day

1.) Am I living every day to the best of my abilities?

2.) Am I doing this with clarity of conscience?

3.) Am I living my dreams and goals and enjoying the trip at the same time?

Saying 'No' to anyone of these questions will leave you with regrets. It should be your goal to be able to say “Yes” to each question.

I look at these last two weeks, I have been able to connect with my dad on such a deep level and most importantly I have been able to tell him that I love him dearly. The fact that we have spent this quality time sharing and being open has given both of such an incredible peace of mind. Even with his sister and her view of life, I have been able to share tips with her which have not only made her positive, but have made me realize to do certain things differently and start appreciating my life more by being open, making friends and not having regrets. See my latest Quick Tips video on appreciating old age – click here.

So for July I leave you with this greeting, Take chances, go for the gap and go out and have fun. Live a life with no regrets and savor every sweet moment. And most of all, don't keep everything locked up within yourself. Share with loved ones and tell them that you love them!

"Make the most of all that comes, and the least of all that goes." (Author Unknown)

And don't forget... go have a look at my free video course on Life's Truths' at www.mindshiftguru.com.

Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', July 2012 Useletter, Aging, Old Age

Welcome to June's Useletter!

Wow, what a response to last month's Useletter with regards my request for topics from everyone... I have enough to keep me going for quite a while!
The first thing you will notice is the new look and feel of the 'Useletter' and I trust that it is simple and easy to navigate, plus that it plays on all e-readers, etc. 
Eventually... to this month's topic. I was surprised at how many people responded to last month''s request and who wanted me to talk on racism and discrimination, and how many issues there still exist in the world today. Some people consider it to be a controversial and difficult topic to tackle as someone somewhere will always be offended.

I trust that won't be the case today! Firstly let me say that it saddens me deeply that in a technological advanced and modern society of today, where information and issues can be discussed so freely, that people still feel the need to be judgmental on issues of race, religion and culture. If anything I am of the opinion that most wars and negativity on this earth are largely a result of this very behavior. Without sounding too naïve, I hope my small input here helps towards a positive shift of tolerance for all.

As you know, I enjoy sharing personal stories as I believe people relate to these more emotionally and also, through personal experience, others can learn and ponder and hopefully shift their perceptions. 

My situation is kinda unique, I finished my schooling in South Africa during the apartheid years and left the country due to the politics of the time. However, I had learnt English in South Africa - hence I had a South African accent. (I saw everyone else around me as having a weird accent!) Moving to England in the 80's trying to seek fame and fortune as an entertainer was a tough learning curve, as every time I opened my mouth, the British would label me a racist due to my South African accent. Of course, being originally German, I defended myself by telling everyone, "Nein, I am from Germany aus!" Guess what? They hated me more! Those were tough times. I had to go for elocution lessons, I had to learn to adapt very fast, become thick skinned, and not let other peoples false preconceptions bring me down. It wasn't easy. But it was a time that I personally understood the meaning of what it was like to be picked upon, merely by how you spoke and where you came from.

In later years in the early 1990's working on the cruise liners as an entertainer, I remember the first time docking in Barbados, where the officials locked my wife in our cabin and forbade her to leave the ship, merely because she had a South Africa passport. The same happened to her in Morocco! By the way, when I had met my wife in the 80's in South Africa, she was a nurse working in the poor areas delivering babies among the black population. Many of our friends at the time were black. Back to the ship story... simply because of the nationality of her passport, she was discriminated against! Myself, being German, had a huge problem with this and wanted to take on all these officials... but the cruise line threatened to fire me if I cause an incident! Mmm and that is once again when the sad truth about hatred and discrimination sunk in. Of course many of my black friends laughed at me when I mentioned this to them, claiming that racism can only be from a caucasian against other races, and not the other way around... I still haven't quite figured that one out yet?

You see, I have always been of the opinion that no matter who you are - regardless of race, religion or culture, if you judge someone else because they are different to you... you are discriminating against that person. If anything, life has taught me that not one of us can afford to be judgmental towards another person whom we don't know! By simply looking at a stranger standing in front of us, or on television and passing judgment without knowing anything about what makes that human being tick, is just plain naïve! The worst for me is that in many religions, the holy scriptures actually mention that one should not judge, yet many of the biggest hypocrites I have come across stem from these very institutions!

Here's the deal... every country, every religion, every race, every culture has good and bad people in it. Luckily the majority are good. However, why is it that we as humans, let a few rotten apples amongst a certain group of people, judge everyone in that group as falling from the same tree? What gives any of us the right to do this? The whole Iraq saga is a classic example of this.

So someone is different to me. Big deal! If anything this should intrigue me and make me want to learn more about that person, rather than shun them away! Surely this makes sense?

Last year I spoke in my 144th country! Guess what, I have laughed, cried and loved and will still do so in the future with different people throughout this world. I have eaten with the Bedouins in their tents in the desert, I have cried in shame with disabled friends at the way society tries to hide them away, I have stood up for my minority brothers when others have shamed them, I have held dying AIDS victims in my arms and comforted them while others have looked down on them, I have spent time in Iran and met the most beautiful people on earth, while the rest of the world has other views... I could go on and on! How often have we looked down upon a beggar at the side of the road and wrongly judged that person? Did you ever think that this beggar may also have a child and a spouse that looks up to them and respects them? So who are we to pass judgement?

It's time everyone woke up and pulled their heads out of their own...! It's time that we all learn how to accept other people unconditionally! Of course this is easier said than done, as we have all been influenced by socio-cultural circumstances within the country and culture we have been brought up in, plus learning the preconceived views of our parents hasn't help much either.

Interestingly, years ago my wife worked for the blood transfusion service and from her I learnt that blood is categorized as A,B,O positive or negative. Did you know that blood from an Asian person isn't yellow? It's Red! Blood from a white person is also red! Blood from a black man can heal an Indian man. Blood form an Italian person can save the life of a Hispanic person. Wow! Can you imagine this? Blood has no agenda - it brings life to everyone! Open us up, and we are all the same on the inside! Makes you think, huh?

I'll never forget my time on the cruise liners when we would sit in the wardroom at dinner with a team of people from all over the world around the table. We were all from different cultures, countries and all spoke different languages. After a while we would start picking up unique and wonderful words from each others' cultures and often one of us would utter a sentence using words from about 4 or 5 different languages, as each was so special and unique in that specific context. In fact I distinctly recall one contract where a group of us sat down one night and debated the whole race issue. Here we were, from so many different cultures, yet we all got on with each other, respected each other, and were true friends. Any guesses why?

Our conclusion was that there was only one boss on board, the Captain. He has one set of rules for all of us. No matter who we were, we all had to follow these rules equally. It was never about your beliefs, religion of race - it was about getting the job done. In fact we all joked and concluded that the only reason everything worked out the way it did, was because we had no politicians running the ship! Interesting point, huh?

In a nutshell, I would like to conclude with the following:

Stop judging others by past happenings around you.
Stop judging others due to learned conditioning from your peers, friends and family.
Stop being influenced by sensationalist media reports and hence passing judgement.
Remember that happiness will never follow you if you live in the past and if you formulate your own belief systems due to conditioned learning from others.

If anything, learn to love yourself first. Learn to look into a mirror and see your own face and say to yourself. "Hey, I dig you! You are awesome. I love you unconditionally for who you are!" And once you can do this, guess what? You will be able to start doing it to others you meet, no matter where they come from.

When you meet someone for the first time, consciously look into their eyes and think to yourself, "I will not judge you, but give you a clean sheet of paper and treat and respect you as I would every other human being." This is what my life has taught me. Give everyone a clean sheet. Leave it up to them to prove that they are not worthy of your love and respect, but NEVER pre-judge them. I always say, "I will never judge anyone to be a schmuck, he has to prove that to me him/herself!"

And yes, someone may treat you wrongly. But again you have a choice of how to handle this. Nobody can make you feel bad, except yourself. Today if someone behaves in a discriminatory way towards me, I choose not to be offended. This is my choice! In fact I have learnt to love myself, and because of this I actually tend to feel sorry for that other person as I walk away. You see, in my eyes they have not learnt to love themselves and are totally insecure in who they are - hence their negative behavior. If anything, my heart goes out to them.

Thanks for reading my rantings and I trust I have shifted your perceptions on the whole issue. Let us all learn to love and respect each other in a non judgmental way - don't your think the whole world would change for the better? I do! Be part of that change and spread this message to all around you. Let us all start the wheel turning to a more loving future for all.

Have a great June  and I look forward to chatting again next month.

And don't forget... go have a look at my new FREE Video Course on Life’s Truths at www.mindshiftguru.com.

Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', June 2012 Useletter, Racism, Discrimination

Welcome to May's Useletter!

Wow, did I get a lot of response to last month's Useletter... seems like everyone enjoys the direct approach! In fact it was great receiving so much feedback.

Also, you should see a vast improvement in the English/grammer as one of the subscribers, Harold Justice from Madison, Alabama in the USA has so kindly offered to check my Useletter before I send it out. So a big Thank You to Harold for this.

I am considering starting to do a monthly Webinar and would be curious how many of you would be keen on this. I am considering starting to do a monthly Webinar and would be curious how many of you would be keen on this. Also, this month's Quick TIp video, in English can bee viewed by clicking here.

Now to this month's topic!

When last did you really get angry? A month, a week or a day ago? Or what about this morning? Has it ever happened that your spouse, your child, someone at work, or even a selfish person in another car annoys you so much that you brood over it for a whole day? In fact your blood pressure goes up and you are in a lousy mood for days on end because of this one incident? For some people, just seeing a certain corrupt politician's face on the news creates this kind of anger! I actually stopped watching the news because of this! Sound familiar?

This month I thought I would deal with Anger Management as many of us, including myself, can become angry within seconds over all sorts of issues.

First we have to ask the question, “What is anger?” Ever heard of that saying, “I am so cross my blood is boiling” or “I'm so angry I can have a heart attack right now”? (I can relate to that!) Well this is pretty much what happens when you are angry - your adrenaline flows, your heart rate rises, and your blood pressure increases. And all of this is triggered by one small occurrence. It could be a perceived snide comment, or behaviour by someone else, or it could even be something as crazy as you catching your finger in a drawer while closing it.

However it is important to note that anger is neither good nor bad – in fact it is quite normal to feel angry when you have been wronged or even when you do something stupid. It is what we do with, and how we handle this emotion that causes problems. So the whole object of this month's 'Useletter' is to share tips with you and coping with and controlling these bursts of emotion.

Some people actually believe it is healthy to vent their anger and they do not realise the damage it can cause. Uncontrollable and constant anger can affect:

a.) your physical health. You become more prone to heart disease, diabetes, high cholesterol levels, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.

b.) your mind set (the part I like to concentrate on). You waste time harping on non-important issues which clouds your thinking and makes you subjective, rather than objective. Plus it leads to constant frustration, stress and depression.

c.) your work. By displaying short and angry behavior towards people at work – your career will suffer from every angle

d.) your relationships. Those around you no longer feel comfortable expressing feelings and emotions due to continued outbursts and causes communications problems plus lasting scars. Your loved ones are scared to speak to you and hence become distanced.

Here now are some tips to control anger control, in no specific order:

1.) Realise that you are angry and face the fact that it is affecting you. It is no use running away and denying your anger, or always blaming the other person for your anger – then you will never find a solution. At the same time learn to identify the trigger points that actually set you off. You cannot solve any problems if you don't know what causes them. This needs honesty with yourself and the ability to be man/woman enough to admit your faults and mistakes.

2.) Take a break – walk away. If you have been angered at the office, go outside the building and take a walk. If at home, take a stroll through the park and get out. It is much easier to think about a situation objectively when you are out of the environment that brought on the anger. Now when you return you can express your anger (if it is still there) in a lesser, non-confrontational way. The problem is we 'react spontaneously' rather than think about and analyze our response. This 'walking away' gives you the time to reflect and change your own behavior.

3.) Focus on the positive, rather than the negative. So someone has just reversed out of a parking lot opposite you at the same time as you started reversing. Luckily you both stop in time. Instead of screaming at the other driver, focus on the fact that you didn't have an accident and now don't have the hassle of contacting the insurance company, taking your car in for repair, etc. Be grateful that no accident occurred! Do you really think the other person purposefully reversed out of their parking at the same time as you with the intention of causing an accident? I doubt it!

4.) Accept the reality that there are selfish, unpredictable morons in the world who are more stupid than you! No matter how good and decent you are – they exist. They will always exist, and they will always annoy you. Also realize that most of the time they are so caught up in their own small worlds, they are not even aware of the fact that they are annoying you. The only person getting a high blood pressure is YOU. Accept this and half your anger will go away. Think about it this way, if we were all the same, the world would be boring!

5.) If you cannot control your temper by counting to ten and practicing deep regular breathing – then go take a run, jump on a trampoline or visit the gym. Don't laugh, a good session of strenuous exercise really helps get rid of the frustration and anger. This is another reason why you should exercise regularly. Similarly taking a 'timeout' is not just something children should do, but we adults as well. It also gives you a chance to think and collect your thoughts, before you speak.

6.) Swap “You” with “I”. In most heated debates you accuse the other person of the wrongful behavior or act. It's always, ”You did this. You said that, etc.” Change this around completely and bring yourself into the sentence by saying things such as, “I feel this and I am not.” By replacing the you with an I you are putting more focus on yourself. Suddenly you realize that maybe everything is only about “I” and that just maybe the other person (You) wasn't so much in the wrong after all.

7.) It goes without saying that you must 'let go'. Never focus on the past, hold a grudge or remain bitter. You will never be able to be clear and get over your issues. Remember that anger can be an excuse for masking other feelings and issues you may have such as shame, guilt and hurt.

8.) Food and sleep affect your moods. Make sure you get enough regular sleep and be aware of the foods that affect your behavior. Producers are adding so many 'unnatural' ingredients and sugars to food that they can and do affect your moods. Start becoming aware of how the food you eat makes you feel. This alone can make a huge impact on your life.

9.) If someone has an annoying trait, i.e. is always late – you should accept this as a characteristic of that person, hence you should expect it happening. Thus plan to use that time to catch up on emails, admin, etc. Use it to be productive, rather than just waiting – then it won't upset you so much anymore.

10.) Put your anger on hold. One of the more difficult tips to do, but it is possible. You just need to try! Hold back on that outburst and consciously tell yourself to come back to it later – maybe an hour or two, or even a day later. When you eventually look back at that 'anger' feeling you may well notice that it isn't such a big deal anymore.

11.) During the time you are calming down (whichever method you prefer) look for solutions to the annoyance/problem so that when you do confront the issue, you already have possible solutions to bring to the table.

12.) Be realistic and ask yourself 3 simple questions when you get angry:
1. Is there anything positive I can do about it?
2. Is taking the necessary steps to solve this worth my time?
3. Is my current reaction appropriate to the current situation?
Your answers to these should questions should give you a good indication as to how to solve the squabble at hand.

Well there you have it – twelve tips on coping with anger. I trust these can assist you in some way and that in the month ahead all possible conflict situations will now be transformed into moments of happiness, solutions and joy.

Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', May 2012 Useletter, Anger Management

Welcome to April and a 'slightly' different approach to my 'Useletter' this month.

I don't know about you, but lately I am getting really tired of greedy and selfish people. At first I always thought it was the politicians who made up the majority of this group. Now when I drive my girls to school, or just pop into the supermarket I find even more selfishness and aggressiveness on the roads. It's a sickness that is spreading. What is going on in the world today? Why is it that someone cannot take note of another car behind them, or just show a courtesy to let someone in front of them during traffic? Where have the basic decency values of humanity gone? People don't invite you over anymore because they want to enjoy your company, it's because they want something from you. No one gives you good service in a restaurant, because they love their job, it's because they want a big tip afterwards. What is going on in this world that humanity has become so materialistic and false? I was always taught that your word is your bond and that you always keep a promise. Was I the only one that learnt this? 'Practice what you preach', was drummed into me from childhood – what's with all the two faced-hypocrites today that blatantly lie to your face and then stab you in the back?

Is it age that is making me see this, or is it apparent amongst youngsters as well? Lately I have been questioning the point of it all and asking myself whether I am really making a difference in the world. Honestly, there are times I feel I am farting against the wind when I stand in front of a group and pour my heart out trying to make them see the light. You see, I have this theory... if one person does a good deed for someone, and each person follows through doing the same, then the world will become a better place within days! But it just isn't happening! Now I sit and think, okay, maybe the 'nice' approach isn't working anymore. Maybe I should just be more direct and too the point, and call a spade a spade. Maybe this will make people wake up and see the light.... so here goes!

As you know, I had a heart attack 4 months ago. Of course there are many people in the world that have gone through the same thing, or had similar life changing events happen to them. My biggest change since then has been how I eat and live. I was a heavy smoker before and now I stopped. I ate all the junk food on planes and in hotels, now I don't. I was always too tired to exercise, now I do so first thing in the morning. I never looked at the ingredients and fat content of the foods I ate, now I do. Hey, I'm losing weight and feeling healthier.

Now I look at friends in similar situations to me. I visit them to see how they are coping... they have not changed their lifestyle... they are continuing with what they have always done. I hear them coughing from the cigarettes, I see them eating the fat on the meat on their plate. It's like HUGE warning signs with flashing lights going off. I see this distinctly, and they don't! Huh? I immediately worry whether I will see them again next week and whether they will still be alive then? Now I begin questioning myself... why do I see the bad things they are doing to their bodies, and they don't? Why didn't I see this either before my heart attack? Makes me think of the definition of crazy! Do you know what the definition of crazy is? It's to keep on doing what you have always done, and to expect a different result! It's almost as if they have had a heart attack, and been given a second chance, yet expect the cardiologist to give them the right tablets to look after their heart, rather than change their lifestyle. It's almost as if there is a conditioned mindset out their which is preventing people from taking responsibility for their own lives.

If you are not happy with your life and events around you, you need to change your behavior. If you don't, then you CANNOT expect a change in your life. But no – it's easier to blame the past, your parents, the government, your teachers, the local priest, or even your upbringing, than to take responsibility for yourself.

I changed my life around 180 degrees! And guess what, I am not more fortunate than you, I do not have more discipline than you have, nor do I feel that my upbringing played a role in giving me the strength to make these decisions. Basically I do not see myself as any different from anyone else. Actually I lie, I am different... see I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth, and I had to work for everything I have today. In fact I started my career sleeping on Euston and Victoria Station in London, because I had nothing.... so if anything, the odds where against me back then already. Today, yes I am successful, and according to the 'Society' magazines and my current social status... I should be partying it up every night, taking drugs, getting drunk. Ah, there's another part of the problem... STOP reading this type of hyped up drivel! You will NEVER find happiness if you follow the lifestyles of the crazy 'personalities' out there. Since when do most of them have any understanding of the realities of the real world, and especially the people writing the news?

Stop being conditioned by what the media wants you to do and be! You will never find happiness or make any correct decisions in life if you base them on what 'other people' out there are doing and saying. You have to make decisions and changes in your life based on what feels right and true within your own heart. This takes guts! It's takes responsibility! Above all, it take being honest with yourself!

How did I do this... I took responsibility... and from what I have learnt I have started sharing this information with friends, family and everyone in a similar situation around me.

Greed and selfishness left my life loooong ago, I have always been a giver, but that hasn't been enough. I have learnt over the last few months that you need to focus your giving to people who are open to receiving it and doing something with the knowledge you share. Just to give aimlessly is pointless! There are way to many 'takers' out there that will literally suck you dry without remorse and without giving anything back into society.

So, here are some lessons I have learnt over the last few months coupled with 'follow-through' decisions I have made. Some or hard, but they have given me a deeper sense of contentment and simplified my life tremendously.

1.) I watch people. I watch how they behave. Here I refer to friends, colleagues and business associates. I watch how they treat other people, how they behave when they drive, how they behave in a supermarket, what they say during a private conversation with me. Basically I have become a critic! I suss them out in everything they do. Then I compare myself to them. This is the hardest thing to do, especially if you want to be honest with yourself. I look for similarities in our behavior, positive and negative. I also look for those things in that person that are important to me.

Now I make a decision, whether I want this person as a friend, or associate in my life, or not. If I don't, I add in a possible second chance by asking myself, are the bad things small enough that I can accept them, and maybe even assist this person in changing their mind-set. If yes, I take it further, if no, I focus my attention elsewhere.

I often share with companies during my customer service presentations the following advice. Spending money on training people to change their attitude often does't work and results in wasted money and time. To prevent this, why don't you just employ the right people with the right attitude in the first place?

Same with people in my life now. Life is too short. Some people just don't want to change and are set in their selfishness and negative behavior. That's fine with me, but I don't tolerate them anymore. Learn to do the same. (Footnote: Please understand that by no means do I believe that I am perfect and without faults, and I really don't have the right to judge others according to my own set of standards... but the reality is that if I try fit in with everyone and please everyone, will I ever be happy? Hence I need to reach a point in life where I make certain decisions based on what I feel is right for me. You need to do the same.)

2.) Similarly, the same now applies to my social circle. I always find I am the one inviting friends over to my place. I am the one making the effort to keep in touch. When I question so-called friends how come we haven't seen in other in the last year, they say that work and life has just been too hectic! Mmm, kinda sounds like those people that never have time for their children either! It's more important to go on a dinner date with a possible client than to spend time with your child. It's more important to be seen in the latest restaurant, than to visit your friend of 5 years that sat with you in the hospital for two weeks when you were ill. See.... here comes that greed and selfish attitude again. Humanity is all about ME! Get out of this mindset. Don't be the person with the excuses and the reasons for not having time to connect with your friends. Make a conscious decision to change this. I will now invite people over twice, after that I leave it. If they don't invite me back, I figure they didn't click with us and don't take it personally. If they phone me after a year with various excuses as to why we never got together, I politely decline. I want people around me that care the way that I do. I want a friends that will be there for me when I need them and who know that I will be there for them. How often have you heard people say that they can count their 'real' friends on one hand! Isn't that just sad? Maybe it's because they don't spend time nurturing friendships and waste time on those relationships that are fruitless?

3.) ME time. There are only 24 hours in a day. Between 6 – 8 of those I should be sleeping. Subtract another 10 hours for work and transport, that leaves me with 6 hours free time. That's less than a third of my day for social, relaxing, family and ME time. Kinda frightening huh? Of these remaining hours you MUST find some time for yourself so that you can recharge your own batteries and spoil yourself. Even if it is only 10 minutes. And by this I don't mean ten minutes sitting alone on the loo reading a gossip magazine! That doesn't count!

4.) Start saying “I Love You” to the people you do love. When last have you looked into your spouse's eyes and said this? What about your kids? What about your good friends? What about adding the reasons why you love them to this conversation? I have had two good friends die this year already, both knew I loved them dearly. It doesn't take the sadness away, but it gives me added closure knowing that they knew someone cared and that I had the chance to tell them this!

In the same vein learn to say, “I don't have time for you in my life.....” to the energy vampires and the 'users', so that you can focus on those people that are important.

5.) Finally, GET OVER your PERSONAL ISSUES! The only way you are going to do this is to let go of the past. I personally believe the world has become completely messed up because of all these self-rightious groups and 'political correctness'. Think about it, all these issues only serve the group they are aimed at, and not the rest of the populace. Hence most of these issues are flawed by design! Something I was taught when I was younger was that NOBODY can make me feel inferior unless I ALLOW IT! I need to repeat this as the majority of the world just doesn't seem to get it – NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT!

Which part of this is so difficult to understand? Whether you are gay or straight, black or white, Christian or Muslim, that is who you are! Do you have a problem with it? It appears to me that most people do! Why else would they carry on the way they do? It doesn't matter what anyone says, NOBODY can change who you are inside. So why do you let them? We come back to greed, selfishness and people not practicing what they preach... then yes, I can understand why people react the way they do. BUT, if you truly are content with yourself through being honest, respectful of others and non- judgmental, surely it doesn't matter what anyone thinks or says about you? They don't have to live with you.... you do!

No matter what live throws at you, your worth will never diminish... it can only grow. Watch this month's Quick Tips. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtSEtTMLk3s

Learn to be be happy with and love yourself first, then it doesn't matter what anyone else says about you. Guess what, as soon as you reach this point in life, your attitude will change to those around you too. It's only when YOU are content with yourself, that you will be content with those around you and not be judgmental of them either.

In summary,
Become aware of how those around you behave – it says a lot about who they are.

Choose your friends carefully.
Practice 'me' time.
Tell people you care, regularly.
Be happy with who you are.

Try implement just one of these tips in April, and the whole month will be a better one! Try implement all 5 and you could be part of the first step in changing the world!

Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', April 2012 Useletter, Coping with greedy and selfish people

This month, a slightly different format to the 'Useletter'. As we move into the change of seasons, the year is well on it's way to running away with us again. I look around and I see people back in 'survival' mode. I speak to friends and colleagues and everyone keeps commenting on the fact that they are extremely busy, yet have nothing to show for it, and basically only surviving. Sound familiar? Everyone is running around and trying to keep their heads 'above the water' and in the meantime they are not living their lives to the fullest. Of course the pessimists among them say that the current economic turmoil and uncertainty in the world is a justifiable cause to behave like this... no one knows what's coming! Huh?

That's the problem, people are trying to justify their insane behavior and not taking time to stop, and actually think about what they are doing. Whatever shape the world is in, good or bad, none of us know what's going to happen tomorrow. So why let it affect you in the negative? Yes times may be tougher and spending habits are changing, and yes this is causing more stress for a lot of people, however, there are ways of dealing with this in a simple manner.

First of all, YOU have to realize that you have value, and that you are important to many people out there. Here's a nice example I like to use in my lectures which puts the 'Importance of 'You' into perspective...

I hold up a €50 note and ask my delegates, "Who would like this note?" Hands pop up immediately. Then I follow up by saying, "I am going to give this €50 to one of you but first, let me do this." I now crumple up the €50 note, roll it in my hands and basically also try and age the note. Now I again ask, "Who still wants it...?" Still the hands go up in the air. "What if I do this?" And now I drop the note on the ground and start to grind it into the floor with my shoe. When I pick it up, it's crumpled and dirty. "Who still wants it now?" Strangely enough, hands still go into the air.

A very valuable lesson is shared and learnt by the delegates through this visual example. No matter what I did to the money, the audience still wanted it. Nothing I did to the note decreased it's value. It was still worth €50, no matter what I did to it. No matter how old and dirty I tried to make it look.

Isn't this what our lives are all about? How many times are we dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way? We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened, or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by who we are. You are special. Don't ever forget it. Count your blessings, not your problems.

Yes the world is tougher and it has changed, yet your worth remains. Understand this and the rest becomes a bit easier. Here now are a few practical tips on coping with the current economic situation in the world today (These tips are also on my Video Quick Tips this month. Click here for English, German & Afrikaans):

• It goes without saying that you should try save money rather than spend it. But many people don't know where to start, plus don't want to drop their quality of life. The reality is that you can save a lot by working smart.

• Create a daily budget so that you can avoid those unnecessary impulse spends, such as the coffees, snacks, etc.

• Pay your bills on time to avoid penalties and interest. And at the same time, don't make new debt.

• Anything you don't use in the house, sell it. Then use that money to cover debt... and not to buy a new TV!

• Get rid of unnecessary 'like to have' things and focus on the 'need to have' items. If you have two mobile phones and a land line, don't you think you can get rid of one and save some money? What about shopping around for a smaller cable package, or an all inclusive one which includes your phone line, internet, etc?

• Yes it's cool to eat out and be seen, but it's a lot healthier and way less expensive to prepare your own meals and eat at home. Invite friends over and have a picnic in the living room. It's fun, cheap and an unforgettable experience... and cheaper than inviting everyone to the latest Sushi bar!

• Put your ego in your pocket. Keeping up with the Jones's will not and never has brought happiness to anyone. Learn to be practical. That new Mercedes may be a nice car, but so is the new Hyundai and it most probably has more features and better after sales, for half the price. Stop being a slave to status marketing - I repeat - this will never bring you happiness.

• The most important thing in life is your physical and mental health. Without this you cannot make good decisions in life. Take the time to look after your own body and mind. Without health and a positive attitude in life, you will not cope.

• Never give up! No matter what people say or where the world economy ends up - you and only you can decide what to make of any given situation. By not giving up and remaining a fighter, you have a reason to live.

• Stop being a 'sheeple'. Educate yourself as to what is going on in the world. Don't believe everything you hear and read from one source. Instead, get your information from as many different sources as possible so that you can formulate your own objective opinions.

• You also need the support of a loving partner to stand by your side during these times. Rather than let the economy and tough times cause a rift between you and your partner, you need to learn to be there for each other. Here's a nice story that puts this in place.

• It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions. After a while, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth. Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the warmth that came from the others. This way they were able to survive.

• Moral of the story: The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person's good qualities. Learn to live with your partner, rather than fight the whole time. Today we need to stick together more than ever, from your partner to your friends. Let go of the judgmental behavior and learn to accept the little faults which we all have.

• And finally, on a lighter note, I need to share this cute story with you...

• A guy is 87 years old and loves to fish. He was sitting in his boat when he heard a voice say, "Pick me up." He looked around and couldn't see anyone. He thought he was dreaming when he heard the voice say again, "Pick me up." He looked in the water and there, floating on the top, was a frog. The man asked, "Are you talking to me?'" The frog replied, "Yes, I'm talking to you. Pick me up then,
  kiss me and I'll turn into the most beautiful woman you have ever seen. I'll make sure that all your friends are envious and jealous because I will be your bride!" The man looked at the frog for a short time, reached over, picked it up carefully, and placed it in his front pocket. The frog queried, "Are you crazy? Didn't you hear what I said? I said kiss me and I will be your beautiful bride." He opened his pocket, looked at the frog and said,  "Nah, at my age I'd rather have a talking frog."

• Have a wonderful March and thanks for spending the time reading this 'Uesletter.'

Tags: Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', March 2012 useletter, The Value of Life

Welcome to February! So much for slowing down, the year started with a bang and it just looks to get busier.

Firstly, I had some great exposure on a morning television breakfast show, called Expresso – click on the links to see the motivational messages. What is Wealth? & Wake up Positive! There will be more interviews in coming weeks, I will be posting the links on Facebook and the 'inspiringtheworld' page on You Tube.

December and January really have been enlightening months for me with many happenings resulting in me seeing life a bit differently. When we returned from our break in January, we landed at the the airport and immediately attended the funeral of my wife's best friend. We had just seen her 3 weeks ago. What a shock! What hurt the most, is that we were not there when it happened, we couldn't say goodbye, and we were not there to support her husband at the time. Couple this with my experience a month before, and I get the feeling someone is trying to give me a 'major' message here. Live life to the fullest!

On top of this, I recently read about a question that was posed to the Dalai Lama which has had me thinking seriously on what is important in life.

He was asked, “What thing about humanity surprises you the most?”

His answer was as follows, “Man!”

Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he doesn't enjoy the present. As a result he doesn't live in the present or the future, but lives as if he’s never going to die, and then he dies having never really lived!

Wow! That literally says it all. As we are at the beginning of a new year I think this is a very powerful message we all need to follow, so that we can look back at 2012 in 11 months time and say, “Hey, I really lived this year.”

I would like to add a few 'Rules' to follow to make 2012 more fun.

1. Keep it simple
If you have seen me speak live, you know I am a KISS man (Keep It Simple, Stupid). I cannot believe how many people over-complicate their lives believing complex issues and solutions must be better than simple ones, just because they are complex! Huh? If you are run-down and over stressed, slow down! No pill or psychologist is going to change that hectic pace – it's up to you to slow down. If you want a different year this year to last year, then do things differently this year. You cannot behave the same as last year and expect different results!

2. Take responsibility

Accept that everything in your life happens because of you! Stop blaming your parents, the government, your dog and anyone else you can find. You will never be fulfilled or happy if you do this. Realise right now that YOU and YOU ALONE are responsible for your own happiness.

3. Be satisfied with what you have!
Count your blessings! What is it with the whole materialism issue? Are you really that gullible to believe everything the media tells you on television? Do you really think that a bigger car, the latest computer, or the newest moisturizer is going to make your problems go away? Wake up and be happy with who you are and what you have. It's simply a mind-set. Decide to be happy with what you have and who your are and suddenly you become a different person. Don't knock it until you have tried it. Think about this... have you met those people at work that are always happy and always joking? They are not particularly rich, or better off than anyone else, yet they seem to be content. Don't they just annoy you? It's time you took a deeper look and realise that beauty really does come from within. Part of beauty is contentment. If you are content, you radiate a different energy and attract different things.

4. Laugh at yourself
One of the greatest lessons in life I have learnt is to laugh at myself. If mates catch me out with a joke – I will laugh louder than them, because I was gullible enough to fall for it. We all make mistakes, we all get caught out every now and then – that's life. Learn to accept this and take yourself a little less seriously. Life does start becoming fun then... really!

5. Welcome everything that comes your way

What makes us disapprove of something? It's our preconceptions and our expectations in life due to conditioning. So how about trying to dispel all your preconceived ideas and not judge anything that comes your way? Instead welcome it and try look for the deeper meaning. In other words, keep an open mind in everything you do and stay away from expectations and other agendas. It calms you down and makes you appreciates many different and new aspects of life.

6. Stop being judgmental and learn to practice objectivity
Imagine everyone in this world would give every person they met a clean slate and not judge them at all? We would be living in paradise! No matter what you think of a person of another culture, race or creed – stop pre-judging and being prejudice. Give each person the same chance in life – and you might be very surprised. Never make decisions based on emotions, instead look at all the facts – your life will flow much smoother.

7. Open your whole self up to every experience

Many people has been hurt in love, then they never want to love again. They become weary and withdrawn in future relationships. This is so sad as this person misses out of experiencing love and life in the fullest, simply because of one bad experience. By opening yourself up to every experience, and giving off yourself 100% every time, you live a complete life in the moment.

8. Live in the moment
Yes there is the need to make calculated decisions on occasion – but to hold back and wait for a better or different opportunity, or to hold back because of fear and ignorance, denies you experiencing life to the nth degree. I mentioned this last year and someone retaliated on You Tube saying that this is they dumbest thing they heard. He mentioned that if he blew all his money tonight and drank himself to a stupor, he wouldn't be happier tomorrow. On that note let me say that I fully understand that some of us don't see the meaning of my messages in the same vein as others do. Thus let me clarify 'living in the moment.' By this I mean, experiencing the moment you are in now to the fullest, as in 100%. Be there in totally with your body, mind and spirit. Stop being distracted and thinking of other things while talking to your children, or your spouse – that's not living in the moment. When you are in a park – don't just look at the monument in front of you, but look at everything else around you, the trees, the people, the children playing, the roses, etc. That's living in the moment!

9. Practice 'ME' time
You need to relax on your own. You need to have a place where you can be quiet with yourself and by yourself. The mad rush of today's world is not good for you. You need a place to recharge your batteries. Whether it is a calmly decorated room in your home, or sitting on the side of a riverbed in the park. You need to allocate at least 10 minutes a day for yourself.

10. Be happy
If you are down, go stand in front of a mirror and smile at yourself – but from within! Guess what, it does cheer you up, even if it is only a little. Now practice this more and more until cheerfulness becomes part of who you are. Smile at people around you and feel the warmth returned.

11. Stop interfering!
Why is it that people always interfere in somebody else's business? They stick their noses into things that don't concern them. Yes, obviously if there is some criminal or cruel behaviour going on, then something has to be done. But most of the problems arise from people who simply stick their noses into other people's private business. Who are you to judge others for their interests which are different to yours? You are not above anybody else, so then why should you dictate how they must live? Rather accept that person for who they are and learn to live as friends and colleagues. Rather find out what makes them tick and learn to respect the differences between you. That's what makes us all unique.

12. Don't just forgive others, but yourself too!

Besides learning to forgive others, learn to forgive yourself. Granted, there is nothing more annoying that making a stupid mistake. But that's life, accept it and learn to laugh at yourself, it will make it much easier to get over it. Just remember, everyone makes mistakes, just try not make the same mistake twice!

13. Spend more time with the important people in your life.
Your spouse, your children, your family and friends – that's where true wealth lies. Make a promise this year to spend more quality time with family. Plane dates a few months ahead for socials with good friends and stick to them. If you don't the year will just run away with you.

I trust that these 13 tips give you some ideas on making 2012 a lot more fun and allowing you to make it the best year ever.

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It feels like only a few, maybe 4 or 5 months ago, that I wrote the Jan 2011 Useletter. Even my girls have commented on how time has flown this year... so it's not an age thing anymore!

Well, here we are, Christmas behind us and a new year ahead. Have you made any plans for 2012? Any real concrete goals? Remember, if you do what you have always done, you will still only get what you always had.

You may, or may not have seen on Facebook, on 6 Dec I had a heart attack. Luckily I was not on a plane or in a hotel, but at home and my wife , coming from a medical background, picked up what was coming and rushed me off the the 24hr emergency. To say that I made it to the hospital with minutes to spare, is an understatement, and I am grateful to be here today.

Why do I share this with you?

I feel that here is a message for the new year for each and every one of us. Funnily enough a few weeks earlier I had been talking to my wife, saying we had to sit down and seriously change a few things for 2012. And of course with the end of year rush and other issues taking priorities – we never got to this. Kinda the same as the year before. Sound familiar?

Now those of you who have heard me speak live, know my story of running aground on an expedition near the North Pole way back in 1997 where we all thought we may die. We said 'goodbye' to each other and really didn't believe we would make it out alive. The experience changed my life, and truly taught me the meaning of living life in the moment, trying to be non judgmental and trying to love everyone equally. The biggest challenge from this experience was that I had to learn to practice what I learnt!

Lying on the hospital bed with many wires attached to me, seeing my life flash in front of me with my wife and daughters standing wide eyed next to me... made me think seriously about what I have been preaching all these years. In fact it made me look at myself and question whether I had indeed learnt from that 1997 experience. I always say to a live audience that if ever I was faced with death again, I would never want to be in that same situation I was in back then where I had regrets. Back in '97, realising this could be the end, all I thought about was, 'What if?” What if I could have done this or that? What if I had only said this and not that? Etc. etc. Ask most people today what would go on in their minds if they had an hour left to live – I guarantee that the most would say the same – they would have regrets at the things they didn't do.

I have always boldly and publicly stated that I have learnt my lesson and that when I am ever faced with death again, I will have no regrets and will never again ask, “What if.” I have made a point of really tackling all my dreams and desires and truly living in the moment.

Well, 3 weeks ago I was given the chance to validate or nullify this philosophy of mine which I so love preaching to others. There I lay, not knowing when, or if another heart attack was going to hit. Would I survive, or wouldn't I?

Firstly I can 100% confirm that I was not scared of dying. I lay there content with my life and my accomplishments. I truly had no regrets with regard to following through on my dreams and the things I have achieved in life. I have also always said that if my time comes around again, I think my only regret would be, not seeing my daughters grow up and leaving my wife alone.

I always knew it would be tough, but never once could I have ever imagined how that thought would really make me feel! Right then and there on that bed, NOTHING else mattered, but my wife and daughters. What made it worse... they were standing right there next to me, even more afraid than I was, whether I was going to make it or not. I will never ever forget that distressed look on their faces and I hope to never see it again.

With everything I have shared and preached to everyone, I would never ever have thought that this experience would have such a huge impact on me and at this stage of my life. Right there and then I saw how much they cared for me. Yes of course I knew that, but no words could have expressed the love in their eyes I saw then. It was kinda like someone saying to me, “Yea you always talk about how much you love them, but you have no idea of how deeply they love you. It made me realise that too often I make it all about me, rather than about us.

I really try and spend time with my girls and believe that we are very close as a family. As a rule I will NOT work if they have a sporting event, school evening etc. My family always comes first. Yet, it still hit me hard – what if I had left them alone! The last 3 weeks my mind has worked overtime trying to figure this out. Why has it affected me so much? Surely I have done my bit and should feel no guilt? It just doesn't make sense!

Firstly, let me backtrack and put your mind at ease... I had an angiogram and two stents put in and feel like a new man right now. In fact that cardiologist said I should feel 15 years younger... I do! This had been coming a while and I had both front and back arteries to the heart blocked. Luckily there was no muscle damage and I am basically as 'good as new.' In fact... better... plus I have learnt another huge lesson.

A friend of mine visited me the other day and said, “But you don't look any different?” Huh! What did he expect? I definitely don't look any different on the outside, but believe me, certain things have changed on the inside … especially my way of thinking!

In fact I have decided that the 6 Dec is now my 2nd birthday to a new life and second chance in life. I spent about a week in hospital and when I got home, did I look at my family differently! I didn't just hug my girls, I really hugged them. I didn't just say I love you to them, but I looked them in their eyes, held their hands and really told them I loved them with my entire soul. For the first time I really opened myself up to them, and could now really see that same love in their eyes.

You see, life does go on, it is a rush and a constant stress on everyone. Especially the way the world is changing at present. And yes we all think (myself included) that we are spending that quality time with those we love... but are we really? Or is it all part of our daily conditioned routine? All too often we only think of our feelings towards others, and not realise just how much they care for us too. To kiss your wife goodbye every morning and think that you are a caring husband is one thing, but to really kiss her, to look into her eyes and into her heart and tell her how special she is to you – that's the little extra we tend to forget to do. To see her smile back at you and kiss you back with that same depth – that's what we tend to miss. My heart attack was a big reminder not to take things for granted, especially your family.

I also learnt that the same applies to friends. Just because someone hasn't spoken to you or seen you in a coupe of months doesn't necessarily mean that they don't care. Again I made the mistake of 'pre-judging' some people. Arriving back home and seeing the Facebook comments, having people visit me and just open up so intensely has made me cry more than I care to admit. If anything, it has made me realize that even though the world does at times appear to be filled only with greedy and selfish people, there are actually many more that are caring and loving, and I am honored to call many of them my friends.

Hence you are also getting your Jan 2012 Useletter a few days early, I am taking my family on a cruise and doing some serious catching up!

For 2012 I ask you to learn from my experience and at the every least, try and spend more time with those you love and learn to appreciate them, but also see how much they care for you too. Tell them how you feel daily. Care for those around you and don't be scared to express your feelings. Life is too short and can be taken away at any moment. Make 2012 the year of living 100% in the moment, telling everyone how you really feel.

I wish you a truly love filled 2012!

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I don't know about you, but I cannot believe it is December already. Is it just me, or has this year just flown by? Even my girls are commenting on how fast the year has gone. If anything it has taught me to really savour every moment and enjoy all the family time I can.

So I trust that over the holiday season you will be catching up on a well needed rest and spend that time with your loved ones. In a sense I think that most people are already in a good mood with the festive season on the doorstep, so I have been playing with many ideas on what to write about. Then it struck me.... this is the time of the year where everyone splurges out on all sorts of items they don't need... and then moan in January when all the credit card bills arrive.

Hence I though I would share some money saving tips with you with the hope of making you a touch more aware that money and gifts don't always buy happiness and that through careful planning you can still have a great holiday season, and also enjoy January without stressing about paying off all those bills.

Firstly, not everyone was born with a silver spoon in their mouth. The media would like you to believe that there are thousands of wealthy people out there and that everyone should be able to afford the nice things in life. If only this were so!

The reality is that the major majority of the world can just make ends meet, yet the media focuses on the wealthy. This causes many people to attempt to live above their means and results in huge problems, including unhappiness, stress, depression, etc.

If you consider the above from a deeper spiritual perspective, what does happiness really mean? Is it the amount of money you have, or is it the inner contentment you possess and the memories you have created?

In today's world the reality is that you need money. However, there is a difference between things you need to have, and things that would be nice to have. As human beings, we need a roof over our heads, food, health and a good social environment. In reality not much more. Look at all the technological gadgets that are shoved down our throats every day by the media and big corporations. Do we really need them, or do they mostly make us introverts and stop social interactions between people under 4 eyes?

One day when you retire, what are the memories you will have? That new car or computer you bought, or the first steps your child took? Think about it?

However, one needs to be objectively practical about the matter as well and realise that money does play an important part in our lives. Yet if one looks at the use of money in pure objective terms and does not fall prey to the clever marketing out there, you can survive with a lot less, and still be happy.

When it comes to Christmas gifts, we all enjoy spoiling our loved ones and money is never an object... except in January!

So here's the first tip... if you have young children include some cheaper items amongst the gifts. For a child it's the excitement of unwrapping the present. The more presents, the more excitement. Yes by all means get them something special. However, if you go into a bargain store there are many cheap toys you can buy for under 10 bucks. Simply get a few of those and make the Xmas pile look bigger. Your child's face will be priceless, plus it won't cost you an arm and a leg.

On that note, try focus on items that bring the family together, like a puzzle you can all build, or a game you can all play together. Don't always focus on items that get the children to keep themselves occupied. No wonder we have a society on loner today!

In terms of your loved ones, i.e. spouse. How about making that gift special. It's not always about the money, but the thought that went behind it. Try make something on your own using memories and items that mean something to your partner. It's more about the thought, time and effort that went into it. Today on the internet you can have complete photo books printed as a one off. Imagine collecting all those special memories and putting together a book called, 'Reasons Why I love You' and it is filled with all those special photo moments in your lives. Not only will it rekindle special memories for you while you piece it together, your partner will be blown away too.

Make a special effort to spend more time with family and play games, tell stories and just have fun. Think back of your own memories of Christmas - what do you remember? I really don't think that we are all that different from each other. If I look back at my childhood memories, I can't really remember all the toys I got. But I can remember the Christmas we spent in the mountains, and the Christmas nights in front of the fire waiting in excitement for Father Christmas to arrive! The family meals we enjoyed around the table and the visiting with friends and family on Boxing day.

Right now I look at my own girls and my memories of the last few years, is the look of anticipation and excitement on their faces. The fact that we go for a ride on Christmas Eve and look at all the lights and how people decorated their homes. The fact that we sit around the Christmas tree and talk about the year that was and share all our highs and lows of the year with each other. I am already wondering what kind of card my daughters will make for me. They always spend days designing and making their own cards - just the thought, time and love that goes into this is so very special to me.

It's not just about the gifts, but the special times that you create with loved ones over this period.

The days you have free, go for walks int he forest or by the sea. Do stuff together as a family that you don't have time to do in the year. Last December we all went fishing for the first time (and threw the fish back we caught) - what a cool memory, especially that my girls caught more fish than me and that they eventually touched the fish they caught. In the beginning they were scared of them. We had picnics in the lounge, put out a blanket and made a social event inside. I am already scheming and planning what new things we can try this year.

The wealth you have is the memories you create. It is a time of giving and loving. Make the most of it and have a truly magical festive season.

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Firstly, Happy Halloween! I had so many children knocking on my door tricking or treating - what fun! And the parties... I always enjoy the end of October, what fun.

Now on to November! One of the most wonderful aspects of writing this 'Useletter' is that many people send me comments and requests as to the topics they would like to see discussed. And it truly does make me feel that the messages are being read and helping others. Two weeks ago I received a request on how to deal with family problems. This is a huge subject and falls into various categories. I suppose most families have at least one 'problem' member, this could be the black sheep, the hormonal teenager, or even an over eager, but caring mother-in-law. These people try our patience and we often have major issues trying to deal with them, which in turn leads to anger, stress and even arguments with those close to you.

Yes, it is normal to get angry with someone that seems unreasonable, but unfortunately this just results in retaliation and ends in heating up the situation even more and damages any chance of meaningful communication to resolve the issue. Trust from either side is lost and the situation is never resolved, as mostly, each person blames the other - and a vicious circle is created from which their is no escape.

Put yourself in that family member's situation. There is a great story that says you need to wear the shoes of this family member and walk a mile a day in their shoes. Ultimately in 10 days time, you will have their shoes and they will be 10 miles away! If only it was so easy!

This months Quick Tips cover 5 tips on coping with family problems. Again, they can be viewed at the end of this email, or simply click on the language of your choice here; English, German & Afrikaans.

Here are some general tips on coping with some of these situations.

1. Listen
This is easier said than done... but it is possible. Hold back on your built up frustrations and for once just listen to the other person. Show them you are willing and open to try and understand where they are coming from. Don't just wait for your turn to talk, or for the opportunity to snap back with a hurtful comment - actually take a step back and really listen to what they have to say. Whether you agree with them or not is not the issue here! Just listen and grasp their point of view. Don't sit there and think of them as stupid, unreasonable, selfish or over bearing - hold back all your preconceptions and judgements. Yes that may be difficult to do. But you can do it if you want to!

Am I saying you must give in? No! I'm saying you must listen. Even if you believe you are in the right and they are in the wrong. This isn't the issue here - it's about one of you actually listening and seeing the other person's point of view. Odds are they didn't read this article, hence won't be the one listening - so it's up to you! It's a mind set change. You may well find now that you are actually listening, you see the situation differently. Even if they are still in the wrong, by listening you can objectively think about their point of view - the emphasis is on becoming objective. Most family issues are emotional, hence become subjective and based on personal feelings. As soon as you can take this out of the situation and look at it objectively, perspectives change!

2.) Separate the behaviour from the person
This goes hand in hand with the above. Often the feud is with a cousin, or brother that may for some or other reason have always 'been the favourite', 'married rich', etc. and we judge this person due to their circumstances or background. They could be in a relationship where they always get their way, and now trying to do the same with you, which is resulting in the argument. Instead of retaliating with, "You are an arrogant bully", rather say something like, "You behaviour is offensive to me." By doing this you are not attacking them personally which should prevent them from getting defensive. This is a subtle change but it gives the other person a chance to detach themselves from their own behaviour.

3.) Step back
Think about the problem without bringing emotions into the picture. Ask yourself a few questions; How does this affect me? Does it affect any other family members? How can I help? What will everyone else think about my solution? As soon as you step back and take other factors into consideration, it makes you more objective and lets you analyse the problem on another level.

4.) Patience
Hand in hand with the above, comes patience. It may take a few attempts of listening before the real truth comes out - the core issue of the feud. Here you need to be man/woman enough to give it time and listen, until the truth comes out. Remember that it will only be natural for them to rant and rave the first few times you listen. It may be the first time they have had a chance to express themselves without you interrupting. So it will only be natural that they will vent their own emotions and frustrations initially. Here it will take not only patience, but understanding that this is only normal.

5.) Keep your voice down
Nothing is more frustrating than when someone doesn't want to see your point of view. Often we need to raise our voices to be heard. In turn the other person raises their voice too, and it becomes a shouting match. Calmness is the secret here. Practice remaining calm and keeping your voice low. Think of any good debate on TV, the person that usually wins is the one that remains calm and collected.

6.) Don't brood over it
We tend to brood over family arguments and think about them the whole day. We analyse over and over looking for answers. This is like worry - whether you worry or not, it doesn't change the final outcome. It's the same here. The more you brood over it, the more you are going to depress yourself. Learn to let it go and give the other person a chance to calm down. After an argument, do something else, take your mind off the event. Odds are when you look back at it, it won't be anywhere as serious as it was the day before. As humans we tend to overburden ourself with thoughts about feuds which makes it worse. Thinking of something else and letting go lessens the emotions substantially.

It reminds me of a story of a man that would hang 'nothing' on a tree outside his front door when he arrived home at night. The next morning he would take this 'nothing' off the tree again before leaving for work. His neighbour watched him doing this for weeks before quizzing him on this weird behaviour. The man replied, "When I get home, I hang all my stresses and irritations from work on the tree and leave them outside so that I don't bother my family with them. The next morning when I leave is the first time I pick them up again and think about them. Guess what? In the morning they are nowhere as bad as they were the night before!" Isn't that a great analogy?

7.) Consider the outcomes
Yes, often you would like to tell the other person exactly what you think of them - it's a way of letting off steam... but that's all it is... a way of letting off steam. It may do you good temporarily, but it may cause problems for years to come and ruin future relationships. Rather hold back on personal attacks and only give an 'objective' opinion when asked for advice.

8.) Don't gossip!
This is one of the biggest causes of feuds. One family member does something wrong, and then you make a point of phoning everyone and gossiping about it. Don't do this! If someone doesn't need to know something, why stir and tell everyone? What does it say about you? Don't be one of those people that derives pleasure from other people's mishaps. Do the honourable thing and keep it quiet. If you want your family to trust you, you need to learn to be a person that can be trusted, and not gossip about every happening.

9.) Don't let them get to you!
Yes, most/many families have someone that loves stirring and antagonising other family members. You know the type... the one person that always has negative things to say, or can never be happy for your successes. Here's a reality check... you get these people everywhere and they may never change. This leaves you with two choices, get annoyed with them, or accept them for who they are and limit contact with them. That's it! It boils down to you being the better person and not letting them get to you. Ignore them long enough and don't fall into their trap of setting you off, and they will soon realise that they cannot manipulate your emotions anymore.

Keep visits with them short. If they do still manage to annoy you, excuse yourself politely and leave without causing a fuss. They may soon confront you on this, as they will see they are not getting their way. At this point don't become personal... apply point No. 2 and separate the person from their behaviour. Don't tell them you find them irritating and obnoxious (too personal), instead inform them that you see their behaviour towards you as offensive. It is then up to that person to decide whether they want to change or not.

10.) Be yourself
They say peer pressure pays a role in a teenager's life... well, family pressure plays a role in your whole life. Yes, your parents may have wanted you to become a doctor, but instead you became a street cleaner. So? Are you happy in your choice of career path? Why should this cause conflict. Imagine my family - being German - I still have an aunt who is turning 85 this month who asked me not a few months ago, "When are you getting a real job?"

You must remember, other people's contexts of what you do are not always correct. At the end of the day you have to live with yourself. Are you there to lead a fulfilled life with purpose, or always fit into what your family wants you to do? Yes they care for you and only want the best for your future, but have you gently stood your ground and tried to make them see that what you do makes you happy. Obviously if you have made a bad choice somewhere, take their advice, but if you know in your heart who you are and want to be, then don't let others change you. By standing your ground, they will eventually see your side - after all shouldn't they love you unconditionally?

Have an awesome November.

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SURVIVAL & FEAR

I trust you are doing well and enjoying the change of season. Can you believe it's less than 3 months to go before Christmas? Where did the year go? Once again I have been living on planes and in airports, but have also had an incredible time meeting and chatting to so many new people. It appears to me that so often, one just 'clicks' with someone one meets and the discussion becomes deep and philosophical within minutes... or maybe it's just because we are all moving to a new level of consciousness? Nevertheless, a common topic that keeps coming up is the crazy events happening around the world at the moment, which in turn is causing a lot of worry and fear in many people.

Hence I though I would try and tackle this topic and share some insights on overcoming fear and becoming more optimistic.

But, before I do this, in my Quicktips videos this month, I share 5 tips on overcoming view. You can view them below, or click on the language link of your choice: English, German & Afrikaans. Also, I have just launched a DVD (in 3 languages) of the last 25 Quicktips - a great inspirational gift and good to show extracts around specific themes at conferences. Available from www.mindpowerpublications.com.

Now back to the topic...Firstly, here is a 'reality' that most people need to realise... Most people are a product of society, a materialistic, mind controlled 'sheeple' (sheep + people) that merely acts on learned impulses and habits, rather than insightful deductions of each unique situation.

Add to this technology and instant access to information that is making me more informed than ever before. Couple this with the corruption of governments, corporations and various other institutions that have a direct clash with our conditioned up-bringing, and people are starting to ask questions about the inequality in the world today and are becoming weary of the double standards and hypocrites. This is resulting in much frustration within daily life, even if it is only subconscious for many.

People just aren't excited about life anymore. Just sit on the London underground and look at everyone's faces. No one smiles. If you do smile at someone, odds are you will get arrested for being a public nuisance. It's the same in the traffic in any city in the mornings - just look at the faces of the people in the cars next to you - no one smiles! It's as if the majority of people today have lost the will to live and have fun in life.

Many years back, I actually met someone who was having fun. I was sitting in the peak hour morning traffic on the M25 around London, when the man in the car next to me suddenly held up a board which read, "Hi, great morning, isn't it?" In fact he had a whole conversation with everyone around him using these boards. He had found a way to make the traffic fun!

On top of that, there is just too little free time and life goes by too fast. I am constantly reminded of a saying by another unknown author: Life is like a roll of toilet paper... the closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

Isn't that so true? The older we get, the faster time seems to go by? Even the children of today are commenting that their days fly by. Surely then, if this is the case, why doesn't humanity make the most of every moment they have, seeing that it all goes by so fast? Why don't we all let go of fear and stop only focusing on survival, but rather on living life to the fullest?

Expectations are the root cause of all problems!

We live in a society of instant gratification and expectations. What do I mean? Think about it... no one does anything today without expecting something in return. I work, because I expect a salary. I make an appointment with a potential client, because I want/expect them to buy my product. I will pick up your children from school, because I expect you to do the same for me next week. I'll do the dishes for you tonight honey, because I expect some action in the bedroom later. Get the point? No one does anything anymore because they want to do it out of the kindness of the their heart. It's all about, "What's in it for me?"

Don't get me wrong, there are many people who don't follow the above example - but, those are the passionate ones! Those are the people that are enjoying their life and living every moment to the fullest. Unfortunately, they are very much in the minority!

Think about it, we have been brought up and conditioned in a society where 'expectation' is the norm. As a child you were conditioned to behave. If you behaved, you got things. In school we were taught to learn and pass our grades. In return we received our diploma. Then we had to study at university to get a degree, so that we could get a good job, etc. Expectations, expectations, expectations!

We have been intrinsically conditioned to expect. But, and it's a big BUT, in reality things do not always work out the way we expect! That's when disappointment takes over and we start losing the zest and passion for life, and start questioning the purpose of it all. If you really think about it logically, it's a system that is bound to fail!

Plus of course the media via big business and governments had conditioned us to fear. You need the newest car - it will protect you in an accident. You need life insurance in case you die!? You need a job and must earn money to support your family. These are all fear based mind control mechanisms to make you conform to what 'big brother' wants you to do. This results in people going in 'survival' mode based on the induced conditioned false fear reality out there!

If it is in the media, it must be the truth! This is what most people believe! This brings me to my 'all time' favourite saying:

It is easier to believe a lie that one has heard a thousand times than to believe the truth that one only hears once!

We have been so conditioned to accept everything around us as the norm, that we are too afraid to look within ourselves. We simply don't know any better. We forget that through inner reflection and honesty with yourself and who you really want to be, is in fact the start of finding a solution to leading a more fulfilled existence. Yet we have been conditioned to fear this! It's easier to follow the masses and be accepted, than to stand out!

You need to realise that the first step is... becoming aware of all the control mechanisms in society today and realising that they affect each and everyone of us. We also need to understand that we cannot change this overnight, but we can change it! In fact, it starts with just one person deciding to do something about it and make others around them aware.

People who wait for changes to occur on the outside before they commit to making changes on the inside will never make any changes at all.

Just knowing how we are controlled suddenly makes you think twice before buying a product, or becoming annoyed at a negative newspaper headline. This awareness in turn makes you react differently and suddenly you find yourself not following the 'sheeples' out there anymore, and hence you start changing from within.

'Two Eagles,' a native American Indian was asked by a white government official, "You have observed the white man for 90 years. You've seen his wars and his technological advances. You've seen his progress, and the damage he's done." The Chief nodded in agreement. The official continued, "Considering all these events, in your opinion, where did the white man go wrong?" The Chief stared at the government official for over a minute and then calmly replied. "When white man find land, Indians running it, no taxes, no debt, plenty buffalo, plenty beaver, clean water. Women did all the work, Medicine man free. Indian man spend all day hunting and fishing; all night having sex."Then the chief leaned back and smiled. "Only white man dumb enough to think he could improve system like that!"

For one moment just think about what you think about during your day. Spend 10 minutes going over your day and your thoughts. You will be surprised at the amount of negative thoughts you had. Become aware of these and start eliminating them for your daily routine. This alone will make a huge difference. Remember that we are all energy and we create reality with our thoughts. This means that your inner thoughts control the energy vibration of your outward behaviour. Thus you need to focus on 'real' issues in your life, rather than all the negativity out there. Redirect your thoughts to the things that bring joy into your life - focus on living in the moment and appreciating the little things in life.

Start learning to do things from the heart. Stop doing 'what is expected' , but rather focus on doing 'what is pure and good' and makes you happy. Suddenly you realise that you are doing it without expectations - but from a purity of heart perspective. Now you can no longer be controlled and be disappointed - as there are no expectations. Instead, the law of the universe (the energy) will now reward you with unexpected blessings (as like energy attracts like energy) and your life becomes one purity and giving, rather than fear and survival.

If you really think about it, what does a human being really need to be happy? Health, food, family and friends, and a roof over their head. Look around you and objectively analyse what is making you unhappy, and you may well realise it's all the conditioned non-important fear based issues. When you start focusing on the 'real' simple stuff and truly live in the moment, your reality changes and your start living life as it should be.

Have a great October!

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If you have been following me on Facebook, you will know that this month was kinda crazy as far as travelling goes. I added 3 new countries to my list (now at 128) and basically spent the month in planes and at airports, and then sadly, my mom in law passed away while I was in Iran.
Often people email me and comment on my lifestyle, expressing a desire to be able to travel like I do. In many respects they see what I do as a fantasy life. This month I thought I would talk about this a little and put it into perspective. Everything in life requires choices, and with those choices come sacrifices. For each and every one of us we have to decide for ourselves what we are prepared to sacrifice in order to achieve the lifestyle we desire. Plus, it may not always be what we dreamt it would be.

LOSING ONE'S TEMPER:
Often friends and business colleagues come up to me and comment about my bubbly personality and the fact that I always joke around and see the positive in life. It's a choice which works well for me and I see no difference in the effort involved in being bubbly, or down. So I choose the fun side and enjoy life to the fullest. However, saying that, I am also a normal person with normal emotions. Which means I can also get upset, depressed or angry - yes it's true! Spending too much time at airports and talking a lot on Customer Service in my seminars, I was particularly tuned into 'service' this month. When an airline gave me bad service twice in a row and bumped me off a flight - especially after being away from home for two weeks and desperate to get home to comfort my wife - I lost it. To say I carried on like a 'fish wife' in Doha is an understatement. I lost my temper with the airline and used words and expressions very unbecoming of a motivational speaker.

Right now I am sitting on a new airline, as a result of my 'tantrum' and thinking about my behaviour. Would I have gotten the same result had I remained calm? Was I justified to my outburst? In fact I feel quite guilty right now. The thing is, we are all human, and we all have emotions. When one has added stresses in one's life it is easier to flip than normal. However, I thankfully managed to calm down relatively quickly because of what I do, as I managed to 'remind' myself to practice what I preach. How did I do this? Simply by using that old principle of counting to 10 before opening my mouth again.

I know this may sound basic, but isn't it the simple stuff in life that works? I had this sudden burst of emotion where I lost it. My focus was on getting home to support my wife and family. So right then and there I was only focused on my needs. We cannot always be in 'control'. I think that is unrealistic, but we can be aware and try to maintain a certain level of control, or regain it if we lose it. It's all about a higher level of awareness and honesty with oneself where you can acknowledge that one has lost focus. Many people have a problem in acknowledging their own mistakes or faults and this holds them back to improve themselves. Luckily I don't have that problem, my wife reminds me of my faults regularly!

So, in a nutshell, if you do suddenly get angry and even if you do scream at someone, by being aware of your own emotions, and simply stopping, counting to 10 before you carry on, you find that you calm down tremendously and then the issue suddenly doesn't send your blood pressure to boiling point anymore. There are certain things in life that cannot be changed, no matter how much you rant and rave about them. By stepping back and taking a breath and counting to ten, one realises this much quicker.

MAKING UP YOUR OWN MIND - PRACTICING ACCEPTANCE
Yes, for the first time in my life I visited Tehran, in fact I did so many seminars and was so busy, I ran! (I always wanted to use that line somewhere!) Would you like to visit Iran? Especially with what you see in the news? Another truth was reconfirmed for me this month... don't believe everything you read in the media, especially when they are controlled by governments with their own propoganda agendas.

I thought long and hard before accepting the contract in Iran. Many fellow speakers had been there before and it is they who actually convinced me to consider it. I put Iran in the same boat as Iraq, Afghanistan, etc. and expected war, terrorism and much religious suppression. Well let me tell you something, it has been a long time since I have felt so safe, had so much fun and been surrounded by so many beautiful (yes - good looking and inner beauty) people. I never knew Iranians where the original Persians. Did you? What a history. Did you know they have their own fuel called CNG (Clean New Gas) completely environmentally friendly and about US$6 to fill a tank? Mmm, I haven't seen that anywhere else - maybe that's why the big oil giants are pushing western governments to be against them? Just a thought!

Travelling is truly the university of life, and the biggest thrill for me is meeting people of different cultures, beliefs and religions. There is a huge difference between western and eastern cultures. And this month I discovered that there is another culture right between these two - and that's the Iranians. Like all countries, the youngsters think that there are greener pastures outside, and yes there is discontentment with their government... but in which country is this not the case? What struck me like a lightning bolt was the gentleness, humility and friendliness of the people. Did you know they have no beggars in Iran? It's because family look after each other and people care for their neighbours. Something that is lost in western culture. We were driving from Isfahan to Yazd (somewhere in the middle of the country through desert). Suddenly we go a flat wheel. No big deal, 3 men in a car, we could sort that out quickly. We hadn't even stopped the car and another car had already stopped next to us. The teenage sons in that car were already changing the tire by the time we had figured out where the car jack was. Total strangers immediately came to help. How long would it take in the western world for someone to stop and help you? Every time we got into a taxi, conversations were held with the taxi driver and there was laughter!

I was honoured to be invited to a private wedding ceremony at a magistrates court. I was married in a magistrates court and it was a typical short affair. For the Iranians they have a whole ceremony. It's romantic... even in the magistrates court! In fact part of the ceremony is that the bride and groom both dip their small finder in honey and sugar, and the other licks it off..... kinda erotic if you ask me! The point of it all... to bring sweetness into their marriage. Isn't that the cutest and most romantic touch? It is these little things that made me look at these people in a different light and again reminded me that we should NEVER judge people, or cultures by what the media wants us to believe. In fact how often to we pre-judge people by what friends, family and colleagues have told us? Go look for yourself, make up your own mind. Hold judgement back and go into any situation openly and objectively - you will be amazed at how beautiful the world and people suddenly become!

It reminds me of a story of a group of frogs that took part in a race to a mountain top. Much advertising was done for the race. All the other frogs around thought it was madness to attempt a race to the top of the mountain. They talked among each themselves and commented on how difficult the race would be. When it started, the contestants started falling out of the race, one after another. In the end it was only one frog that stayed in the race and finished. There was jubilation and all the frogs around were amazed and this one frog's achievement. On asking the winning frog on how he had achieved this impossible task, all the other frogs suddenly realised that he was deaf!
Yes, he was deaf! He never heard the negativity spoken around him before the race, hence he was never affected, nor did he had preconceived ideas. He simply took part to win and believed in himself!
How often is our behaviour around us affected by what we hear others say?

COPING WITH GRIEF:
Finally I want to share my thoughts on grief and death. It was trying for me to be away from my wife when her mom passed away last week. That again is the downside to my travelling. However I came home as soon as I could. We had spoken about it before and we had looked at every scenario. How many people actually do this? It's as if they are scared to face reality. Death is a fact of life for all of us. Have you spoken about it with your spouse and family? Have you decided what to do in case something happens. It's not being negative, but instead being responsible. There is nothing worse than an unexpected loss. Also, when someone does die, do you speak to your partner about it and let them share their feelings with you. Do you listen to how they are feeling and share in their loss?

The memories we have one day when someone passes remain with us for the rest of our lives. What do you do to create memories? Do you keep photos and videos? Do you part with love in you heart when you say goodbye, or do you have unresolved issues? It is so important to live a life of forgiveness and love. You never know when your time may come. I see so many people who have regret when someone passes over, and this is so sad. When last have you said, "I love you" to the people that are important in your life, including your children. To often we take love for granted. It's important to share your feelings and be open with your feelings. In this way you create good memories. Remember, that one day when you are older, the materialistic things won't be remembered, instead the emotional bonds like that first kiss, and the first steps of your child... that's what gives you peace and contentment when you are older, and in turn makes you accept life for what it is. So, in conclusion this month, go out and create great memories so that you can lead a life with no regrets.

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I trust you had a great May. Don't forget to check out my new Video Quick Tips for June - simply click on the language of your choice: English, German & Afrikaans.

I have had a number of people ask me to write on being happy with what you have. How many people really appreciate how much they have and are content with life? We always try and compare ourselves to others and fall into the trap of materialism & and being judgmental.

Normally I would give my views and insights on the topic outright. This month I want to try something different and use 3 stories from the mails I receive in reply to this 'Useletter'. I will add my comments at the end and really feel that these stories may bring home some good food for thought.

THE BEGGAR:
Here is a very nice story about a beggar who found a wallet in the street with $500 in it. As he picked it up he saw a notice on a street lamp which offered a $50 reward for a lost wallet. The beggar, who was an honest man immediately went to the address to return the wallet to it's owner. The owner, a banker, immediately counted the money and said to the beggar, "I see you have already taken your $50 reward money." The beggar protested that he hadn't and that there was exactly $500 in the wallet when he had picked it up. An argument ensued and at the same time a policeman walked past the house. Noticing the commotion between the two gentlemen, he went up to them asking if he could assist in the matter. Each presented their case to the policeman, who in turn looked at the banker and told him that he believed him. The beggar was devastated. The policeman then took the wallet from the banker and gave it to the beggar, saying, "Here's the wallet, it is yours to keep."
"Who do you think you are? What are you doing?" shouted the banker at the policeman. "Oh I believe that you had a total of $550 in your wallet sir. However, I also believe that the beggar is an honest man too. He had all the opportunity to run away with the wallet, but he didn't! So for what possible reason would he then have brought the wallet back to you? I can only assume then that this is not the wallet you lost and that it belongs to someone else. Therefore, until the right owner is found, the wallet must stay with the beggar."

"Hey, but what about my money?" asked the banker. "Well," replied the policeman, "You will have to wait until someone finds your wallet."

Isn't that a great story? You see, sometimes we become too greedy and end up outsmarting ourselves. Think about it, how often have you pre-judged someone just by the way they look? We need to learn to give everyone the same respect when we meet them for the first time, no matter what their status, culture or belief system. We have been conditioned to judge people by what we see in the media and learn from the press. Wake up, not every beggar is a thief, not every white man is a racist, not every religious person is biased, etc. I firmly believe that the whole world would change overnight if everyone just dropped their biased judgmental ways. I consider myself very fortunate to have travelled and met so many different people from so many different races, cultures and belief systems. Often as a young man in the entertainment industry on cruise liners we were thrown together with fellow artists for months, and forced to get on with each other. I clearly remember the first time this happened to me. I felt uneasy and not happy. A few days later I realised, hey this guy has the same issues, feelings and problems I have. Suddenly we started becoming mates. Our differing backgrounds disappeared and all we saw was two similar human beings. (It also helped that their were no politicians on board!)
Luckily this happened more and more, and during my life I very soon learnt that besides the politicians and media, it was the insecure individuals out there that always found fault - due to their own issues! You need to let go of the past, and open your heart to each and every person you meet ,openly. If you have never tried this, then it's also wrong to have an opinion right now. Do me a favour - just go out there and give everyone you meet the same chance. I bet you, you will be surprised to see how many people out there are actually likeable and not always what society has labelled them to be. In my view no one is a fool, I give each person I meet a clean slate - I leave it up to them to show me who they really are. And even if they do show me a negative side, or something I disagree with, I still have to learn to accept them for who they are. And it definitely doesn't mean I have to hate them for that! In order to find fulfillment in life, you need to learn to practice acceptance - and this is where it starts. Hand in hand with this we also need to listen to others and not always bombard them with our opinions.

I shudder at the thought of how much time people spend during their day moaning and criticizing others whom they don't like/agree with. The most precious thing in life that you own is time. Why would you want to waste your life time on this? It doesn't make sense to me. No wonder people aren't fulfilled. Rather go out there and do good and leave a legacy at the same time.

The second story also deals with appreciation, but on a deeper level.

WHAT MEMORIES WILL YOU HAVE?
One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say “good-bye”, say "I love you." So while we have it, it's best we love it, take care of it, heal it when it's sick & fix it when its broke.
This is true for marriage... and children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, ageing parents and grandparents.. and old cars. Some things we keep - like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what. Life is important, like people we know who are special.. And so, we keep them close!
Mmm, lot's of truth in that story! Here's a thought, one day when you are older and retired and on your own, what will you be thinking about? will you recall every gadget you bought and every new car you owned? Or will you be thinking of your loved ones that have passed on and have regrets for not spending enough time with them? Here's a reality check... nearly every elderly person I have spoken to (95% plus) has regrets. Regrets about time lost and wasted! What is it with humanity - why can't we learn from this?
My girls are now 12 & 14. Everyone laughs at me and warns me of the teenage tough times ahead. Funny, I haven't noticed any changes so far. I give them hugs every day. When they go to sleep we hug each other and give a goodnight kiss. As their dad, I still get goodbye kisses when I drop them off at school. Other kids want their parents to drop them around the corner. Huh? My wife and I spend time with them, we talk to them, we help them with their school projects, we involve them in everything we do. They are secure. No matter what happens I know that I have and am still creating great memories for myself and for them. Yes I know you have a job and life's commitments get in the way, or at least that's what society has taught you to believe! Hello, I fly around the world and am often away from home as a speaker. How come I have great relationship with my wife and daughters? Am I special or just lucky? No! I make the time, I give 100% attention and I respect them. When we are together, we enjoy each other's company and we talk to each other. We don't all sit in separate parts of the home watching different soap operas. Get the point? I don't know about you, but I believe I have a choice in my life whether I want to create great or sad memories for my old age. I kinda go for the great ones - it's a choice you have to make.

And now the final story...

THE HORSE & THE PIG:
There was a farmer who collected horses; he only needed one more breed to complete his collection. One day, he found out that his neighbour had the particular horse breed he needed. So, he constantly bothered him until he let him buy the horse. A month later, the horse became ill and he called the veterinarian, who said,"Well, your horse has a virus. He must take this medicine for three days. I’ll come back on the 3rd day and if he’s not better, we’re going to have to put him down."
Nearby, the pig listened closely to their conversation. The next day, they gave him the medicine and left. The pig approached the horse and said:, "Be strong, my friend. Get up or else they’re going to put you to sleep!"

On the second day, they gave him the medicine and left. The pig came back and said:, "Come on buddy, get up or else you're going to die! Come on, I'll help you get up. Let’s go! One, two, three..."
On the third day, they came to give him the medicine and the vet said, "Unfortunately, we’re going to have to put him down tomorrow. Otherwise, the virus might spread and infect the other horses." After they left, the pig approached the horse and said:,"Listen pal, it's now or never! Get up, come on! Have courage! Come on! Get up! Get up! That’s it, slowly! Great! Come on, one, two, three... Good, good. Now faster, come on.... Fantastic! Run, run more! Yes! Yay! Yes! You did it, you’re a champion!!!"

All of a sudden, the owner came back, saw the horse running in the field and began shouting, "It’s a miracle! My horse is cured. This deserves a party. Let's kill the pig and have a feast!

Kinda a sad ending huh? Isn't life like this too sometimes? Often in a workplace the boss doesn't really know which employee actually deserves the merit of success, or who is actually the backbone of the organization and contributing the most support to get things done? I have news for you - that's life! Learning to live without recognition is what humility is all about. Learning to be comfortable in the knowledge that you have made a difference, even though no one else knows it, is being fulfilled and comfortable with who you are. Don't always look to become a person of success (as society defines it), but rather become a person of value. Because then, and only then will you be able to be part of the process of changing the world for the better.

In Summary, leading a fulfilled life is to not lead a greedy life, accept others for who they are and be comfortable in knowing that the good you do is changing the world for the better, even if no-one sees you do it. Remember, leading a life where you give unconditionally without expectation, will make the laws of the universe look after you in return.

Have a wonderful June , and I look forward to sharing some more inspirational ideas with you again next month.

Tags: Fulfilment, Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', June 2011 Useletter

May is here and the new season is well on it's way. April was really great for me, speaking at the Global Speakers Summit in Holland and the Professional Speakers Association convention in Cape Town. I mention this because it's so great meeting new and old friends in the industry who have a positive outlook on life and share their experiences openly with each other. Often people ask me as a speaker how I stay motivated? Well, this is one way, sharing ideas and getting together with peers who may have a different take on life and see things in a new light. So I am very thankful for this experience. It's kinda like a vitamin injection boost full of positivity! I had the opportunity to really connect with life long friends and it's been a really busy time. I also met some great new people and will be part of a world-wide whole day internet motivational day on 23rd September where we will try and get more than 10 000 people logging in - more details about this to follow. Definitely a day you should diarise. Many people have asked me to write more on last month's topic on fulfilment and talk more about it. This has become more of an issue of late for many, especially with the global events of the last six weeks and the escalating natural disasters, wars and violence. So... this month, let's talk about inner satisfaction and being content with life, and where you live. I am finding more and more that people I meet, keep on asking me where the best place on earth is to live? Especially when they know I have travelled the entire world and been to nearly every major city on this earth. They tend to feel that the grass is greener on the other side and that they will find happiness somewhere else. I understand why people ask this question, especially now with the financial crises in the States and Europe, plus the disaster in Japan - people are looking for safer places to live. Politicians are no longer trusted to look after the interests of the people, the media is controlled and only prints sensationalist news to sell their papers, wars are looming and hatred is increasing everywhere. Everyone is trying their best to plan for their old age, and not sure whether their savings will still be there in years to come - especially with the current economic climate - hence there is much desperation and questioning as to the point of it all. Firstly, it doesn't matter where on earth you live! Yes I have a home in Cape Town and in Frankfurt, but these two cities differ vastly and my reason for being in each are completely different. Singapore is another favorite city of mine. Istanbul is fascinating with it's incredible history. Geiranger at the end of the Geiranger fjord in Norway is breathtaking. Inverness in Scotland is magical. I can say great things about every city I have been in. But, will the scenic beauty, architecture, people, or history bring me the inner fulfilment I am looking for? The simply answer... NO! Take a quick example, many people recently immigrated to Australia and New Zealand in search of sunshine and a better life - just look at the disasters this year in these countries. No one knew that this was going to happen. I am sure some of these people are regretting their choices of moving, and may even have lost everything in these recent events, plus are maybe even considering moving back to their original countries. The bottom line is that we need to stop judging our happiness in terms of external factors. Here a reality check for you. In my opinion, politicians are corrupt everywhere. They are all sycophants with only their own interests at heart. You may not be happy with the current state of your country, but is another country really going to have more honest politicians and a safer economy? Just look at the big USA who last month nearly 'closed down' due to no money. Who would ever have thought that? Europe is facing a major Euro crises with the Greece and Portugal financial chaos. Beurocracy is messing up so many countries. The UK - well, no comment! It seems that today the future countries are China and India, hence the new term, 'Chindia'. So, running away isn't going to change things. Yes the grass may be greener on the other side - but, this could be due to more manure in the grass! This also means that you will have to mow it more often! To come back to the question of where to live to find happiness and fulfilment... Wherever you are healthy, can make ends meet and have those that you love around you, i.e. family and friends - that's the place to live. And that can be anywhere on this globe, whether in the desert, on an island or in a city. Natural disasters are part of the course - this can never be your reason for choosing one place over the other. Just look at the floods in Australia - no one would ever have thought this possible. Here we come back to that philosophy of living in the moment and every day to the fullest, as if it is your last. Here's a great quote by Paulo Coelho: "Too often we decide to follow a path that is not really our own, one that others have set for us. We forget that whichever way we go, the price is the same: in both cases, we will pass through both difficult and happy moments. But when we are living our dream, the difficulties we encounter make sense." Now let us look at more spiritual side of fulfilment. In the dictionary fulfiment is defined as "developing your full potentiality." However, for each of us this means different things, as we all experience different emotions, growth, connections and feelings. We all have different value systems which have been conditioned by the society and culture we have been brought up in. When in reality, we should ALL have the same universal values. Once you know and understand these, then life starts having meaning. We all need to learn to live in the now! I cannot stress this enough. Most people are living in the past and brooding on all the bad things that happened. Wake up - there is nothing you can do to change this! Let go of the past. You don't have to forget the past, but you DO have to let it go, otherwise you will never find fulfilment. Imagine if everyone in the world could just let go of all the hatred and issues from the past - the world would change overnight. In the same vein stop living for the future and with the philosophy of 'one day when...' That day may never come! Anything can happen to change this. So what's the answer? Live in the moment. Of course it is important to plan for the future, but make the journey towards that end goal fun as well. 99% of the work in reaching a goal is the journey towards it. It's usually only the final 1% that makes the goal reality. Take the example of wanting a new car. Buying the car and signing the papers takes 10 minutes. It's the months of planning and saving up for the car that's 99% of the work. So why make this journey unpleasant - it should be fun too. And this brings me to the second point that you have to be honest with yourself and live in tune with who YOU really are. Stop living the life that the media, politicians, family and friends (the Jones's) tell you to live. It's your life, you have to live with yourself. If your life is all about 'keeping up appearances' and 'fitting in with everyone else', I have some bad news for you - you will NEVER find fulfilment. I make this comment with a strong internal belief that it is true because of personal experience. I do not see myself as any different from anybody else. When I left school I had to study and get a decent job. To the shock of my family and friends I decided to become an entertainer and see the world. Today all those people from the past look at me with shock. Most have the secure job, have done well in life, but are still searching for that inner truth. I in turn, have had fun, followed my heart, given back to the world and enjoyed every single moment. When it comes to a fulfilling life - I have practiced what I preach. Make no mistake about it, oh yes I have also had my ups and downs, positives and negatives. I have also had my good times and financially tough times. Yes, I know you may be thinking I have been lucky, or born with a gift and hence things have gone my way. Definitely not! I have had to sacrifice many things in my life and gone through many tough times, and may still do so in the future. But, and this is the huge but - I have been honest with myself and followed my heart. This means that when times are touch, at least I am still being true to myself in these times. This makes them a lot more bearable than if I was living a lie. It's all about the journey. Life will throw you curveballs, that's a given, but during this journey of ups and downs - it's the being 'true to yourself' that will make you overcome tough times much easier. This brings me to my third point on finding fulfilment. Know the difference between pleasure and joy. Things that bring you pleasure in life are temporary. Even your spouse and children are 'pleasure principles'. That is why you need to be there for your children and savor their youth. Never have regrets that you didn't spend enough time with them. Same applies to your spouse. One day your children will leave home and your spouse will die - so yes, they are only in your life temporarily. The 'joy' can only be created by making memories that will last a lifetime. That is why most people are unhappy, because most things in life, especially those advertised in the media and which have 'monetary value' are temporary. Joy is an inner feeling, it is a way of life and a contentment. It is finding inner peace with who you are and it has to do with your values and purpose in life. During April while attending all these speaker conferences, I met a Scottish speaker, Neil Dorwood who was a funeral director for 30 years. Today he speaks on what legacy you leave. He poses the question, "If all your friends are at your funeral and speaking about you - what will they say about your life?" Exactly that- to find joy you need to find your purpose and ask yourself, If I look back on my life, what difference did I make in this world?' If you can find the answer to this, then you start finding joy. And please, don't equate this to anything materialistic! You may be a housewife who sees no point in running the household and bringing up the kids, playing moms taxi and doing homework with them. Never forget that it's your value system you are sharing with those children, you are moulding them for the future. One day they could be the first 'honest' president of your country. Maybe that's your purpose. Among speakers world-wide there is the famous 'Starfish' story. A chap walks along the beach and sees thousands of starfish washed ashore. He begins throwing them back one at a time. Another person walks past and asks him why he is doing this. There are thousands of starfish on the beach, what difference is throwing one starfish back going to make. And the man answers, "It's going to make a difference to this one!" Just smiling at someone, or saying something supportive to someone you don't know - could change the future of the world. Never see your purpose as too big or too small - just have one! Remember, it's not always the big things in life that give it meaning, it's also the many small things! In summary, you too can find fulfilment by being honest with yourself and finding your purpose in life. Follow through with it to create joy in everything you do. This will then teach you to live in the moment and practice unconditional love towards all around you. Suddenly life will start having meaning again.

Have a fantastic May and learn to live in the moment.

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Welcome to April 2011! What a month behind us. I have had so many people email me seeking advice on how to digest recent world events. The tragedy of Japan with the global catastrophe of the nuclear fallout, and the war in Iran - what is happening in the world? It's during times like this that many people start questioning the meaning of life and the purpose behind our existence.

What saddens me the most is that the current nuclear fallout was apparently the result of greed and profits, as officials wanted to save the costs of keeping normal safety regulations in place. Then we go to Libya and look at the blatant suppression of the people, yet those waging the war are apparently more interested in the oil. On top of it the media is focusing on Libya, rather the the long term effects of Japans nuclear fallout which is poisoning all the oceans world wide. C131 and radioactive iodine (most probably with plutonium) will be carried by currents and tides to all oceans of the world. This means that all living things in the sea will be affected. On top of this, the recent earthquake moved Japan's coast by 8 feet and moved the planet on it's axis by nearly 4 inches.

It is completely understandable that many people are becoming despondent and even predicting the end of the world. However, we do need to look at the bigger picture and realise that the world has gone through many natural disasters in it's history. However, it's the more recent and frequent man- made damage that is becoming alarming.

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This brings me to this months topic. What does success and fulfilment really mean?

It definitely doesn't mean risking the safety of our planet for profits!

On a smaller scale, we can relate this global event to our lives. How often do we risk our health and happiness of our families for greed? Most people I know spend their lives trying to keep up with the Jones's, buy what the media sells them, and never have time for family and friends. Look at certain luxury car brands who are now advertising there vehicles under the banner of: this car will bring you happiness, inspire you and make your life complete! What a load of hogwash! Yet so many people believe this and fall into the rat race of believing that success and happiness is connected to materialism.

You see, part of the reason so many people are questioning the meaning of life right now is that they have seen the huge tragic losses suffered by the Japanese. Sadly they don't focus on the 'life' losses, but the materialistic losses. I have heard so many people this month talk about how devastated they would be if they lost their house, car and all possessions in a natural disaster. In fact, many have phoned their insurance companies to tried and add 'natural disaster' cover. How screwed up is that?

Not one person I have spoken to has stopped what they were doing and gone to their spouse and children and spent some quality time with them. Neither did they ever talk about what would happen if they lost a loved one. That's the thinking in the world today! How sad is that? Then they complain that they are questing the meaning of life and the point of it all. Maybe, just maybe, these same people should question their own attitude and re-analyse their priorities in life.

Yes, we do live in a global village and money has sadly become the driving force. But, and it's a huge but... money and materialism should never become your main focus. If anything, the lessons we should all learn from these global tragedies is that we need to spend more time with each other. Love and respect each other more, and create special moments.

Realistically, just think about it is honestly,if you were suddenly in a natural disaster, or a war stricken country, what would your priorities be? Packing your new laptop, or making sure that your child was safe? I think it's naive to just look at world events and think that it will never happen to you. Three months ago, who would ever have thought that the such a terrible disaster could happen in Japan?

I am definitely not being a doomsayer here, I am trying to make you think! If an earthquake did take out your home and you did mange to survive, what would your definition of success and happiness be then? Dare a suggest, your survival and the survival of your family. Having food to live and water to drink, plus shelter to stay warm.

That's about it really. But in today's world that is no longer good enough. We strive for every conceivable new materialistic gadget we can, and cannot, afford. Then we believe this will bring us happiness and success.

I need you to re-focus your priorities. Yes, it's 'nice to have' pretty things and the products of the modern world we live in. But they do not and never will define who you are as a person. Neither will they complete you as an individual and help you find inner meaning.

Here's something my wife and I did with our daughters after we saw the disaster in Japan. We all sat down together and firstly spoke about a 'disaster plan.' If an earthquake struck - how would we get out of the house? Where would we run to? How would we make sure that we would all meet up again if we were in different places in the city? As we spoke about this as a family, we all started realising that the worst thing that could happen is if we were separated and didn't know if the other person was alive. Do you have an action plan? This is not being negative, it's plain practical reality and being prepared.

Suddenly, we also all re-affirmed to each other how much we love each other and that nothing in the world is more important that being together. Then came the part in the discussion as to what would we take with us! We all decided we would each pack a small bag which contains a basic pocket knife, some water, some dried food, a medical kit and warm clothes, plus an old mobile phone (in case one could still get reception). I added one extra item to my bag... a folder with important documents, i.e. passport, birth certificates, health insurance, etc. Documents which say who we are. If you lose these and have no back-ups - you have lost your identity.

Interestingly enough none of us added our iPod, laptop, jewelry and other materialistic items. The focus was on basic survival and the importance of being together. A few days later we sat down again (remember my daughters are 12 & 14) and we spoke about what was important in life to each of us. The result... more time with each other and doing fun activities as a family. Going on walks, playing games, talking to each other and creating memories.

So, back to the definition of success and leading a fulfilling life. Yes, there are many 'nice to have' items in life, but could you be happy without them? If not, I suggest you do some serious internal soul searching and think about the importance of those you love in your life. I often tell my delegates that the society we live in today is a game. You need to play this game in an objective manner. Whether you win or lose, you play the game to the best of your abilities, but at the end of the day it is still a game. The more you play it, the better you get and the better the odds that you make enough money to be comfortable and enjoy the pleasure that the modern world brings. However, if you lose, can you pull yourself away from the game and still be happy? Happiness at home and within yourself is the only true definition of success. Because if you are happy there, then your attitude is right. When your attitude is right you extrude a different kind of energy around you. A positive energy. It is this positive energy that then attracts positivity towards you and enables you to play the 'game of life' successfully.

And finally, start becoming aware of our environment and look after nature. Don't leave a carbon footprint - leave a future world for our children.

We need to love more and we will find fulfilment. See what some youngsters between the age of 4 and 8 have to say about love.

'Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.' Emily - age 8

'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.' Nikka - age 6 (We need a few million more Nikka's on this planet.)

'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.' Tommy - age 6

'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my Daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.' Cindy - age 8

'My Mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.' Clare - age 6

'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.' Mary Ann - age 4

'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.' Lauren - age 4

'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it,you should say it a lot. People forget.' Jessica - age 8

The cherry on top was a four year old child whose next door neighbour was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbour, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."

Make it your goal this April - learn to love more and savour the simple pleasures of life.

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March 2011 ‘Useletter’
Here we go again, the year is running away with us. This month has been short and very busy, from Mykanos to Heidelberg to Johannesburg - talk about traveling! Hence I thought I would have a bit of fun and do something more light hearted in the 'Useletter' this month. Three different stories, the first more food for thought, and the last two aimed at 'us' older folks and our relationship with the youth of today - thought you might enjoy some lighter insights for a change too!
Don't forget to check out the latest Quicktips at the end of this 'Useletter' or simple click on the links if you cannot view them. Over the last few months, more and more companies have asked me to combine tricks with motivation, as the trick captures the attention and then the message sinks in more visually. I have always kept the two separate, but have now seen the light. This combination is a winning formula - so this month's Quick Tip is a really cool trick with a powerful message - make sure you watch it. Click here for the Eng, Ger or Afr version, or view below.
Also, I have completed a new mini book, called, How to be Successful: Tips and tricks to achieving your goals. it's completely free and you can download it from my website by clicking here.

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JUST HOW FLEXIBLE ARE YOU IN COPING WITH CHANGE?
A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as when one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.
The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg,or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

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HOW DO YOU SEE THE YOUTH OF TODAY?
WHAT IS GENERATION Y?
Hmm, I've always wondered this myself... now I know.

- People born before 1946 were called The Silent generation.
- The Baby Boomers are people born between 1946 and 1959.
- Generation X people have been born between 1960 and 1979.
- Generation Y, are the people born between 1980 and 2009. Why do we call the last group Generation Y? I never did know, but recently a cartoonist explained it very eloquently below... Learned something new today!

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THE UNDER-30 CROWD - DO THEY HAVE IT EASIER THAN WE DID?

If you are 30 or older you will think this is hilarious!
When I was a child, adults used to bore me to tears with their tedious diatribes about how hard things were.

When they were growing up; what with walking Twenty-five miles to school every morning.... u... barefoot...ways etc.I remember promising myself that when I grew up, there was no way I would ever the same boring stories on my kids about how hard I had it and how easy they've got it! But now that... I'm well over the ripe old age of thirty can't help but look around and notice the youth of today. They have it so easy! I mean, compared to my childhood, you live in Utopia!they have no idea how good they have it.

When I was a child we didn't have the internet. If we wanted to know something, we had to go to the library and look it up ourselves, in the card catalogue!! was no email! We had to actually write somebody a letter - with a pen!you had to walk all the way across the street and put it in the mailbox and it would take, like, a week to get there! Stamps were 10 cents!

Child protective services didn't care if our parents beat us. As a matter of fact, the parents of all my friends also had permission to kick our butts! Nowhere was safe!

There were no MP3 or Napsters! couldn't 'download' music - you had to wait around all day to tape it off the radio and the DJ would usually talk over the beginning and ruin the whole song for you! There were no CD players! We had tape decks in our car. We'd play our favourite tape and "eject" it when finished and the tape would come undone.

We didn't have fancy things like Call Waiting! If you were on the phone and somebody else called they got a busy signal, that's it! We were not slaves to mobile phones - that was Star Trek science fiction stuff. And we didn't have fancy Caller ID either! When the phone rang, you had no idea who it was! It could be your school, your mum, your boss, the tax man, a collections agent, you just didn't know! You had to pick it up and take your chances!

We didn't have any fancy Sony Playstation video games with high-resolution 3-D graphics! We had pinball and the Atari 2600 with games like "Space Invaders and Asteroids'. Your guy was a little square! You actually had to use your imagination!! And there were no multiple levels or screens, it was just one screen... forever! And you could never win. The game just kept getting harder and harder and faster and faster until you died!
You had to use a little book called a TV Guide to find out what was on! There was no such thing as channel surfing! You had to get off your butt and walk over to the TV to change the channel! REMOTES! Can you imagine that! There was no cartoon network either! You could only get cartoons on Saturday morning. We had to wait ALL WEEK for cartoons!

And we didn't have microwaves, if we wanted to heat something up we had to use the stove! Imagine that!

See... I have become just like my parents - the children of today have it too easy! I wonder if they would have lasted lasted five minutes back in 1980 or before!

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I trust you are getting back into the swing of things and have settled into the year nicely. It's been tremendous receiving all the feedback from everyone about this newsletter, especially the topics different people want me to tackle - keep them coming!

January is always my 're-branding' month and getting all those things done that the latter part of the previous year didn't allow. So if you are keen, check out my new website and let me know what you think. At the same time I have two new free E-Books, The Easy Self Improvement Guide and Unlocking the Niche Code which you can download by clicking on the links. I intend writing at least one new one per month for you to enjoy.

I received a request to write about coping with terminal illnesses, especially when one has friends who are suddenly diagnosed with this, or even one of their family members. I always find December/January very trying when I hear of deaths and sicknesses over this period. Once again this year I lost two good friends and found out about another two that don't have much time left. Yes this is an inspirational newsletter, and it is my aim to make you positive with it. However, it is also there to instil hope and help you master life skills so that you can cope with what is happening out there. The reality is, death and sickness are part of every day life and I find very few people really know and understand how to cope with this. Why do you think I keep talking about savouring and enjoying every moment and living in the now?

I am going to share 7 tips with you, and have also put them on video in my monthly Quick Tips again in English, Afrikaans & German. You can click on the links here.

7 Tips on Coping with Family & Friends who are Terminally Ill.

Tip 1:
For most people, when they hear that someone is suddenly seriously ill, they close up and don't visit this friend. or they become very distanced. They don't mean to do this, it's almost subconscious - but it is a reality. Why does this happen? There are various reasons, but for most people, the biggest reason is guilt. Believe it or not, they retract from the friendship because they feel guilty that they are healthy and their friend is sick. They don't know what to say, feel awkward in their company and hence have difficulty communicating and making the time to visit. It tends to be a very common human reaction. Here's the deal ... there is nothing you can do about it. It's not your fault! That is the way life is. Some of us get sick, others don't. The sooner you accept this fact and realise it has nothing to do with you, the easier it will be to carry on that friendship and give the support that is needed.

Tip 2:
Listen! The most important thing you can do when someone close to you is going to die, is to listen to them. There are things they need to say and get off their chest. You may once again feel awkward just sitting there and not knowing what to say. You don't have to say anything, just let them talk. They need someone to listen to them. At the same time you must never be judgemental - but only listen. Once you let them talk, you will see that they will go through many natural emotions such as anger, fear and frustration. This is all part of it, and this is where it is important that you don't take what they say personally, but merely be there to support them by listening.

Tip 3:
Ask them what they need. Most of the time we tend to become so sad and worried about their wellbeing that we get caught up in our own thoughts and forget to ask them what they need. You need to ask them if there is anything that they want from home, whether it's their favourite music CD, a teddy bear or a book to read. This is the time where you need to be attentive and aware of the needs of your friend.

Tip 4:
Offer to assist the family. Again, we tend to forget about the other family members who are also going through an incredibly stressful time. As an example, your best friend's husband is suddenly diagnosed with terminal cancer. Besides going to the hospital to give moral support and assist where you can, ask her if she needs help in her daily routine. She may be running around like mad fetching the kids from school, cooking dinner for the family and working herself into the ground just so that she can spend that extra hour in the evening with her husband. Why don't you offer to make dinner for her kids, or have them over at your place two nights a week and fetch them from school? Guess what, it suddenly gives her more time to spend with her husband. She is less stressed which in turn he will notice immediately and hence their remaining moments together become so much more meaningful. These are the little things you can do which mean a lot in a friendship. Saying you are there for them is not the same as actually doing something. We all tend to say, "Phone me if you need me." Friends don't want to be a burden and odds are they won't phone. If you really care for someone, you will make the effort to go and offer real practical help.

Tip 5:
Make a video recording. I know this sounds odd. But often when someone is terminally ill, everyone around them runs around to get everything done. There is such a rush to finalise legalities, look for money to pay for costs, etc. that again not enough time is spend with that patient during their remaining time. So while everyone else is running around, why don't you take your video camera and ask that person if there is anything they would like to say. They could want to leave a message for their spouse, their children, or even grand children. It would be almost like an extra inheritance or food for thought for posterity. Just think about it, how many people do you know where the partner has died? Don't you think it would have been special for them to have a video with a personal message on it?

Tip 6:
Think of the small things. Maybe this person want to see an old friend just one more time. Something which the rest of the family doesn't place importance on at that moment, as they have other issues to finalise and sort out. This is where you come in and try find this friend and bring him/her along to visit. What about their favourite chocolate - find out what it is and bring one with. As a society, and a write about it often, people are way to materialistic and place importance on the wrong things in life. It's unfortunately only at times like this that most people get that reality check and realise that they have focused on the wrong things in life up until now. Suddenly that photo album of the kids when they were small is important. You may see some of these things as small, but to that dying person they mean the world. Focus on the emotional things and try and help where you can. It makes a huge difference.


Tip 7:
Never, never ever say that you understand what that person is going through. Many people believe when they visit a dying person, it is comforting to say this. Hello! How can you ever understand what they are going through. You are not the one dying and leaving a family behind. There is no way you can know what is going on in their minds. So don't be so naive and insult your friend by saying this. Rather apply the other 6 tips above and in that way give genuine sincere support from the heart. That will be way more appreciated.

Finally, I trust some of these tips have hit home and given you some food for thought. For many of us it is a very tough and trying period as well when we see someone close to us slipping away. It makes us feel terrible and question life. But, and this is a big but - do we ever take the life lesson home? Look at tip 6 again - terminally ill people suddenly realise it's the small things in life that count. Saying the "I Love You's", giving that kiss or that hug, spending time often with those close to you. Realising that doing admin at home at night is not as important as spending time with your child, etc. etc. Live in the now and savour every moment - you do not know how long it will last! The day you have to say goodbye, will you have regrets, or will you say that you sucked every ounce out of life and enjoyed it to the fullest?

On that note here are a few last thoughts on making your future all it is meant to be:

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow ON trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured IN plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
5. Play more games & Read more books than you did in 2010 .
6. Have more fun than you did in 2010
7. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
8. Sleep at least 7 hours.
9. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts on things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
3. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
4. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
5. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes in the past, that will ruin your present happiness.
6. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present. (Aimed especially at our politicians)
7. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
8. Smile and laugh more.
9. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...

Society:
1. Call your family often.
2. Each day give something good to others.
3. Forgive everyone for everything.
4. Spend time with people over the age of 70, and under the age of 6.
5. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
6. What other people think of you is none of your business.

7. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

1. Do the right thing!
2. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful, or joyful.
3. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
4. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
5. The best is yet to come...
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thanks.

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Happy New Year!

This is the time when we reflect back on the past year and catch up with the family. Most people I spoke to - clean the house out and do the things you didn't have time for during 2010. I must admit, I have spent the last 3 days doing that - cleaning the house, at the same time talking to my wife and daughters about their dreams and expectations for the year ahead. It has and during the next few days, still will be a good time for reflection and bonding as a family.

Many people are thinking of the obstacles and challenges ahead for the new year, and this morning I found a great saying which I posted on my Facebook page, "As you go into 2011, remember that fear is the opposite of everything you are, and so has an effect of opposition to your mental and physical health. Fear is worry magnified." If anything, you need to let go of all your fears and try see them rather as challenges. If you think about it, challenges are what makes us grow and give us the drive to reach our goals.

As I was doing my daily post this morning, my wife was tackling her side of the walk-in closet and came down to me with a letter written by my oldest daughter, Sabrina. My wife and I sometimes ask our daughters to write down their thoughts as interesting insights come to light on what is going on in their minds. Sabrina asked me a while back, what it meant that I billed myself as a 'Change Management Expert', so we chatted about it and I asked her to write down her thoughts on change. She wrote it in her own time, and gave it to my wife while I was out travelling. She put it away as a keepsake. Of course today she found it again in the closet and asked me to read it. Wow! The insight my daughter has and to see what goes on in her mind at age 13 was very interesting. So most of this morning we chatted and I learnt from my daughter again! Of course I immediately asked her if I could share it with you this month.

Here now is a 13 year old view on the world and in many senses what lies ahead of us in the upcoming year. I have added my comments in italics at the end as not to break the flow of her letter.

MY STORY
by Sabrina Riebe
Once upon a time was me. I was born as a perfect little child. I rely on my mom and dad for everything and am completely hopeless without them. Then I got a sister, Alexis. She also relyed on my parents for everything, she too was helpless without them. Life was perfect, our family was perfect, BUT still it has CHANGED!

CHANGE, it is the most scariest thing for me. It is scary how life isn't the same as it was even 50, 40, 20, even 10 or 5 years ago! Everything has changed! 50 years ago people didn't even dream of owning a big screen TV, the latest Mercedes Benz, computers, or even cell phones! SCARY isn't it? People have become so materialistic! They must have everything, do everything that other people do or have. They do not appreciate life anymore. Especially not the 'small' things like just opening your eyes in the morning, being able to speak to your family, having a family, waking up in a warm bed, their bodies, and many more things!

Even for me, just as young as I am, 13 years old, I can even see how everything has changed, how technology is taking over. I can still remember the first day Alexis and I had our first 'real' fight. What causes you to fight with your brother or sister for the first time? When you are born you don't know about fighting, or swearing, or anything worldly. So what causes you to have that first fight with your brother or sister? CHANGE! That's what causes it. You become older, you change! You grow up. Even Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy - people, children, just don't believe at a certain age anymore, because they have CHANGED. Yes, life does change us and make us wiser, but inside ourselves we must always keep that special magic alive, then it makes understanding life much easier.

Isn't that just amazing how she sees life? Do you realise the impact you have on your child's life? Does your child feel secure in your family? Often I ponder at how we need a licence to buy a TV and drive a car - today I feel adults should have a licence before they can have children! Often we don't realise the huge impact we play in a child's life. The silly things we say which can leave a negative impact. We need to be so aware of how we treat and speak to our children today. Our aim should be that they are totally secure in the family and completely comfortable with who they are. Make that one of your goals for 2011.

With the new year ahead - are you scared? It is the most natural feeling to be scared. Here that 'fear' comes in again. I sat with Sabrina and explained to her my comment above, that fear should be seen as a challenge. Challenges are exciting and lead to the possibility of growth. Those challenges that are ahead of us should be turned into realistic goals which are divided up into weekly and monthly smaller goals, ultimately culminating in the achievement of the challenge that lies ahead. Often people forget that achieving your dreams is only 5% of the goal/challenge. The other 95% is the trip you take towards achieving it. Hence the importance of breaking it down into numerous manageable goals which are fun - then the whole trip to the final goal becomes a pleasurable experience.

I feel proud that my daughter has realised how materialistic the world has become. Sadly the economic downturn in the last two years has been the only major reason that some people have become aware of the materialist conditioned society we live in. When the economy turns, I wonder if they will fall back into the same rut again? Taking a break now over Christmas I have caught up with many friends on Facebook and have numerous comments about how exciting my life was in 2010 with all my travelling, pics and posts on Facebook. In fact during November at many conferences many people made the same comments. I am always a bit stunned by the fact that people see me as being lucky of having these opportunities. LISTEN! It has nothing to do with luck. It has to do with 'Thankfullness, Humility and Honesty.' And guess what, we all have tough times, problems and set backs in life. You aren't the only one! But when you live your life being honest, humble and grateful, it makes those hurdles easier to jump over. I firmly believe that life gives back to you what you throw at it.

As Sabrina realises at her young age, how many people are thankful for the simple things in life? The fact that you are healthy, have a family and people that love you? A week ago we all spent a day at the beach. On the way home my youngest, Alexis seemed to be down. I asked what was wrong and she said that she was sad the day had come to an end. It was the best day of her life! At 11 even she realises that the latest computer game is not what brings happiness, but time spend with your family enjoying simple pleasures such as walking on the beach and playing in rock puddles. We even bumped into friends at a caravan park - the kinda holiday I wouldn't have thought about. Did I learn a thing or two. Everyone's children were playing with each other, families ate meals together around fires and the whole vibe is fantastic. Do you really need that 5 star hotel? I don't think so! By being thankful for the small things around you they suddenly become big things. I was speaking to a very wealthy lady the other day (own their own private jet). Her daughter has terminal cancer and she flies her around the world looking for a cure. Guess what she said to me? she would give up all her wealth if only her daughter good be healthy! Mmm - so what are you thankful for?

Humility is a big issue for me in life. Why do you want to keep up with the Jone's? To be like them or better than them? Why? It's not going to change who you are! And when you have everything and more - will you really be better? Nothing saddens me more that self centred people (celebrities, senior corporate people, politicians, etc) who think they are better than everyone else. How many real friends do they have? If they lose everything, will all the leeches still be around them? If you treat everyone around you equally and have an attitude of 'servitude' rather than one of 'taking' - life gives back to you in so many ways. Make it a goal in 2011 to give more and take less. Expect less and savour the moment more. Get over all your political, racial, religious and cultural issues - respect everyone equally - it's really not that hard to do! Remember that with humility comes contentment and acceptance - surely our world can do with a lot more of that! It all starts with you!

Honesty is the core of my existence. Firstly, and most importantly, be honest with yourself. Only by honestly seeking the answer to happiness in your own heart can you do something about it. Stop letting others tell you how you must feel and behave. Then 2011 won't be much of a change. In the same vein tell others (family, friends and co-workers) how you really feel. If those around you understand you they may be able to help guide you along your path. But if they only see a 'front' - how will they ever know you.

That brings me to the core of Sabrina's story of Change. Yes the world is changing and it isn't the same world as even 5 years ago. People are worried what 2011 holds for us all. However, understand that change is what drives progress and builds you as a person. Fear for change comes with insecurity in the self. It all starts with your children. Give them a secure childhood and make them understand that it's all part of growing up. Then they will only see challenges, rather than fear. And if you find life difficult today, remember it's all about attitude. To wake up negative involves exactly the same amount of effort as waking up positive - so why not try choosing the latter. It takes 3 weeks to get into a new habit. Make an effort to wake up positive, spend time with family and friends, smile more, look for opportunities in even the bad things around you.Guess what, by the end of this month you be in the habit of seeing life in a more positive light and 2011 can only be great.

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DECEMBER 2010 ‘USELETTER’
I feel as if just a few weeks ago I was writing that it's 12 months to Christmas... and now it's December again! If I look back at the people I met, the places I travelled, it has been an awesome year. Yes the world has changed, and times are tougher, but if nothing else, the last two years have taught me to appreciate every moment of my life and to make the most of every opportunity that comes my way. I firmly believe that because of this attitude I have made so many new friends and created so many awesome new memories which make me thankful on a daily basis. No complicated theories here, simply a case of making the most of every moment and trying to see the positive and every situation and person I meet. It's really not that difficult to do.  I want to leave you with some food for thought over this holiday season and summarise what I shared with you this year with some wise words. 

How to lead a more fulfilled life and find happiness
1. Stop comparing yourself to others and what the media says you should look and behave like. You will never be happy trying to be like someone else. Look inside your heart and be honest with yourself and find what suits you.  Also remember that we has a society have been conditioned from childhood to behave in a certain way and expect certain things. That's not the real you. Understand and identify these problems and re-condition yourself to do what make YOU happy. When comparing yourself to others, remember that you never really know what goes on in their minds - usually it's all a show and a case of keeping up with the Jones'. 99% of the time they are not happy - so why would you want to be like them. 
2. In the same vein, envy will destroy you. Believe it or not, you already have all that you need. If you have the love of family and friends, are well fed and warm - what more do you really need? Think about this. 
3. Do not, and I repeat, DO NOT live in the past. You cannot change the past. Stop reminding yourself, your partner and others of the things they did wrong. This will ruin any possibility of living in the now and being happy in the moment. Remember that every day well lived today leaves you with good memories of yesterday and much to look forward to tomorrow. It's all about making peace with the past and realising that you cannot change it. Learn from it and make sure you don't make the same mistakes again. The most important asset you have is 'Time'. so stop gossiping and moaning about those people that you don't like. Are they really worth giving up your life's time for? Imagine spending the last hour of your life complaining and moaning about someone you don't like and then you die. Kinda a sad way to go. Personally, I'd rather spend the last hour of my life telling the people close to me how much I love them. Think about it! Forgive everyone for everything - it will release a big burden on your life.
4. When setting goals,keep them realistic and within your limits. Remember, achieving the goal is only 5% of the process. 95% is the journey (planning, preparation and implementation) to get to that final point. Surely it makes sense that that should be a fun and learned process too. This is only possible if you are realistic. 
5. Spend time alone to pray/meditate and re-energise. Use this time to dream, be thankful and think about all the goodå things in your life. Remember that NO ONE else except you is in charge of your own happiness. Similarly stop taking yourself too seriously. Start by learning to laugh at yourself and be comfortable with who you are. In school we where taught that failure is bad (another falsehood we were conditioned to learn), however, it is only through failure and mistakes that we learn and grow. It is these mishaps that teaches us and also makes us experts in our field. So realise that life is a school which teaches us new lessons every day. It is OUR choice whether we learn them or not. Remember that pressure is what turns coal into a diamond - problems and mishaps are part of life - they will fade away. It's he lessons we learn from these that last a lifetime. 
6. Learn to laugh more. As children we laugh over 200 times a day, as adults we laugh maybe 10 times a day. What went wrong? The biggest killer today is stress and high blood pressure. Stay away from those tablets - learn to laugh more everyday - it's the best and healthiest relaxant around. Try make at least one person smile each and every day.
7. Give something to someone every day of your life. And I don't mean materialistic items. Even if it just an insight, or causing someone to smile, or spending time comforting them. The more you give the more comes back to you. 
8. Spend much more time with your family and children. Kids grow up so quick these days. Make those special memories with them while they are young, and...  create special memories of their childhood too! On that note spend more time with people under the age of 6 and over the age of 70 - they kinda put things back into perspective for you. 
9. It doesn't matter how you wake up in the morning. Get up, dress up and and be thankful that you are alive. Arrive where you have to and on time. Do this with a smile on your face and the day WILL become better. When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams. Choice is yours.  Here's a great quote to put everything into better perspective, "First I was dying to finish my high school and start college, then I was dying to finish college and start working. Then I was dying to marry and have children. Then I was dying for my children to grow old enough so I could go back to work, but then I was dying to retire, and no I’m dying and suddenly I realize I forgot to live." NEVER let this happen to you! Learn to live in the moment.
10. Throw away, or get rid of anything that you haven't used in the last 6 months, isn't useful or joyful. 
And if this is all too much to read, here are short pointers which have been learnt from the elderly.

1. Life may not be fair at times, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
4. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
5. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.
6. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
7. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
8. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
9. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
10. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
11. Everything can change in the blink of an eye... never forget this. So learn to enjoy the moment.
12. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
13. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
14. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
15. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
16. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
17. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
18. The most important sex organ is the brain.
19. Frame every so-called mishap with these words, "In five years, will this matter?"
20. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
21. Believe in miracles.
22. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
23. Growing old beats the alternative... dying young.
24. Your children have only one childhood. 
25. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved. Remember that saying... "It is better to have loved than never to have loved at all."
26. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
27. The best is yet to come...
28. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
30. Never explain yourself to any one. Because the person who likes you doesn’t need it, and the person who dislikes you won’t believe it. 
31. When you keep saying you are busy then you will never be free, when you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time, when you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come. 
32. Don’t make promise when you are in joy. Don’t reply when you are sad. Don’t take decision when you are angry. Think twice ... Act wise. 
33. Time is like a river. You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life.
34. Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you will have no leg to stand on.
35. Nobody cares if you can't dance well - just get up and dance!
36. Learn a lesson from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colours - but they all manage to love in the same box!
37. A truly happy person is the one that enjoys the scenery on the detour!
38. You maybe only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person - never forget that!

Apply these in your life and consider them when you make your New Year's resolutions, and the year ahead can only become great.

I wish you a restful festive season with much family time and look forward to inspiring you again next year.

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NOVEMBER 2010 ‘USELETTER’
This month I am sending you the 'Useletter' from Madrid. Half written on a plane, and the other in-between speaking here on conference. Two months ago when I requested some topics you would like me to cover, I was asked to write about leading a fulfilling life - so that's my topic this month. I talk about this in many of my presentations and have found it to be a difficult topic for most people to come to terms with.

Most people today walk around questioning the point of their existence. In fact I am writing a new book called, 'What is the Point?' where I believe I am answering this question. The problem is, I have re-written it 5 times! Every time I think I have the answer, someone comes up with a new twist for me. However, early next year I believe I will have it ready. To tackle this topic in a monthly newsletter such as this, with limited space is actually quite difficult, but it also gives me the chance to focus specifically on certain core issues, of which I will cover a few essential tips for you to become more content with who you are and the world we live in.

Like anything in life, before you can find the solution, you need to identify the root of the problem. Of course there are many schools of thought on this, but one of the main reasons people are questioning their existence, is because of social conditioning and the technically hectic and advanced world we live in today.

Firstly you need to understand that reality is not about having a Barbie doll figure, driving the latest luxury car, living in a villa by the sea and having tons of money in the bank. That's what the media and big business want you to believe. The only people fulfilled in life from that philosophy is the companies who sell you all these luxury goods and sucker you out of your hard earned money - and they are doing this extremely well - hence all the internal frustrations people are experiencing today. We all complain that life is moving to fast, but compared to ten years ago, technology has advance at such a rate that we are constantly bombarded with news, marketing and information. Whereas in our parents generation things moved slower and people were more content, as they were not that exposed to all the marketing hype as we are today - the technology wasn't there. Do yourself a favour and go look on YouTube at some of the videos called, 'Shift Happens'. That's 'Shift' with an 'f'. That will put it nicely into perspective for you.
Recently a radio station started a campaign on being more positive and making the country more positive. Hello? Who made everyone negative in the first place? It's them with their negative news broadcasts! Everything is sensationalism and aimed at stirring emotions. There are two ways to report the news, i.e. 10 killed in horror crash, or Ambulance arrives in 5 minutes and saves 3 lives. Guess which one they always go for? To top it all, they have the nerve to ask the listeners to sms them with their positive ideas. But the sms's cost a nice sum of money to send. Not only are they part of the problem, now they still make money out of the people falling for their deception. No wonder everyone is confused and feeling down. How many people actually realise what is going on? Furthermore, reality is not sitting in bistro's and drinking coffee as you see in most soap operas. Reality is also not attending every social bash in your town just to be 'seen.' Nor is it going to religious or social gatherings once a week just to see what everyone is wearing! Reading the likes of the 'People' magazine and being up to date with which celebrity is doing what and who they are sleeping with, is not reality either! However, I am shocked at how well these publications are doing. Often I see such magazines at someone's home and make a dry comment, only to get the reply that it was left there by 'someone else.' I repeat ... if you compare yourself to the Jones' next door and most of the crazy celebrities out there - you will NEVER lead a fulfilling life.
Wearing the lastest brand name watch or designer label DOES NOT and WILL NEVER make you better than the person who doesn't.

Stop believing the sales pitch you are sold on every commercial you see or hear.
Stop being a slave to what society expects you to be.
Stop comparing yourself to others and judging who you are according to their standards.

The answer lies in looking deep within your own soul. There is a great saying by Goerge Moore, "A man travels the world in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it." In other words, it takes man a lifetime to realise that the secret to happiness lies within your own heart. It is all about being honest and true to yourself. Keeping up appearances just so that other like and accept you is totally crazy. If someone isn't prepared to accept you for who you are, is that really a friend? I think not!

I will never forget as a young man when I worked on the luxury passenger liners, I could never understand why the majority of passengers (who were generally all retired people) were negative a aggressive. Let me explain. Here I was as a young man starting out in life and had this opportunity of working on luxury liners and being surrounded by 'rich' people. In fact it was that dream life as marketed to me in every magazine and TV advert I had seen as a child. I was suddenly leading the conditioned ideal life, sailing in the Caribbean, eating Caviar, etc. Yet most passengers were bitter and had long faces. It took me months before I actually approached an elderly gentleman and asked him why the majority of people didn't laugh more? Why most had long faces? They all had money, they were all on the 'Love Boat' - what was wrong? I'll never forget what this man said to me. He said, "I am not happy, because I am alone!" I didn't understand him at first and asked him to explain what he meant. He then replied that most of his life had been taken up with working and the pursuit of money. He had not been at home much and always worked extra hard to save money for a cruise the day he retired. 5 Years ago his wife passed away unexpectedly and his sons had been killed in Iraq. He had no-one, he was completely alone. Today he was bitter that he had made money his god and not spent more time at home with those he loved and that were important to him. In fact if he could have his life over, money would never have the same hold over him again.

His story was re-confirmed to me by everyone I met over the next few months. In fact the majority of people who have reached retirement age have the time to reflect back on their lives and think about those memories that left a lasting impression. Interestingly enough, the new designer clothes, or the latest computer, or buying the newest car where never mentioned. Oh, they did remember having debt and working hard to pay it off - but can't really remember for what. However, memories that do come to mind immediately are those of falling in love, their first kiss, the first steps of their children, the holidays they spent together as a family, the first school concert where their daughter was dressed as a flower, etc. They also strongly remember the regret of not attending the sports days of their children, or the graduation ceremony of their son due to 'work commitments. They regret not forgiving other friends and family members for feuds and disagreements - most of which they cannot recall the reason for happening. They also clearly remembered those that stood by them in times of difficulty. It all boiled down to relationships and social memories that left a lasting impression.

So, in answer to how one leads a fulfilled life.
Spend more time and make time for those people in your life that are important to you, i.e. family, friends and co-workers.
Yes, money is a reality of the world we live in today - but it does not, nor ever will define your happiness. With all my travels in over 125 countries, people often ask me where the most beautiful place on earth is. Here's my answer... it's where I can live with those I love, be healthy and make ends meet - that's the most beautiful place.

If you do allow yourself to be influenced by the media and marketing out there, then you cannot lead a life of fulfilment. Understand the way the world works and understand that the really important things in life that give meaning, are those things that have been given to us for free. Just think of the country you live in and the natural scenery around you - can any man-made item come close to it? Just look at the Grand Canyon, Table Mountain, The Alps, Glacier Bay - you stand in front of these natural wonders in awe. Nothing is as powerful as this. If you start practicing to appreciate the real beauty of the world, and especially the smaller things such as flowers and plants you start becoming more peaceful within yourself. Why do you think the elderly spend so much time in their gardens and appreciate the natural beauty around them? In a similar vein, take any child on a walk in the forest, they will be constantly distracted and fascinated by the plant, animal and insect life. It is a world of magic and wonder for them. Is it still the same for you? If not, you have to sit and re-analyse your life.
Also stop judging people by race, colour and creed and stereotypes. When you meet someone, stop and look inside their soul. Get to know them, what makes them tick, what their desires are. Guess what? You may just see another human being in front of you with the same feelings, desires and dreams as yours - another person who also just wants to be accepted and loved - just like you.

If you objectively analyse us humans and what makes most people happy, we are a social species that want to be loved and accepted by others. Today we don't even communicate with our children anymore, it's way easier to put them in front of a computer game than to sit down and play a board game with them. Then we wonder why our children don't talk to us anymore. Duh?

Don't get me wrong, money, the mass media and technology all have their place in today's society, but it's the application of these where things have gone wrong - hence this ever growing feeling amongst people today that something is missing.

Most younger people are forever on the run. They just cannot slow down. Ask them why, and they usually don't have an answer. However, if you as a younger person can grasp and understand the concept that the memories you create now, and the time you spend with family, friends and co-workers - especially the good times - will be the ones that give you wealth later on in life. If you want to enjoy a social night out with close friends, but cannot afford to go to a restaurant, have you ever thought of having a picnic at home? Just put a blanket on the floor in the living room and everyone brings something small, and you just enjoy each other's company. I challenge you to try that and compare the memory you have of that evening, compared to what you normally do.

Look after your body, eat healthy and stay fit. And above all, learn to appreciate those walks on the beach, or in the forest. Learn to appreciate the natural wonder around you. Guess what, suddenly you will become more peaceful within yourself and life will start having meaning. It's all about keeping a balance in life.
I really don't see myself as different to anyone else. As a youngster I always wanted to be an entertainer. My typical German family had other plans for me. Even to this day I have relatives asking me when am I going to get a 'real' job? My whole life was about following my passion and helping others. Nothing can compare to that feeling. Strange, the universe has looked after me - maybe it's because I listened to my heart. What is stopping you?

I want to end of with a quote from David Germond who said, "When I was young my mother taught me that the secret to life is to be happy. In school my teacher asked me what I wanted to become when I grow up. I said, "I want to be happy!" My teacher replied that I didn't understand the question. I replied, "You don't understand life!"

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OCTOBER 2010 ‘USELETTER’
Greetings from London and welcome to October's 'Useletter'. Isn't technology wonderful? Wherever I am in the world I can always make sure my motivation goes out in time.

Firstly a big thank you to everyone that sent in suggestions as to topics I should cover ... there were so many - I don't know where to start!

One that caught my attention was, Forgiveness.

This I feel is so important in today's world if we look at all the wars, general hatred and intolerance towards others that seems to cover most of the news today. Personally I feel that this is one of the major problems among humans, and also plays a large role in why so many people are depressed and despondent about life in general. It's no use blaming 'everyone out there' for all the wrongs in society. The bottom line is that it's up to you to change and learn the art of forgiveness. It all starts with one person - and that person is you.

However, before I explain how to forgive, please be aware that forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it immediately take away the pain. However,it does start the whole healing process rolling and helps you to cope and release yourself from the burdens & pains of the past, plus it enables you to focus on the positive, rather than the negative.

The first stage in learning forgiveness is to identify it. Many people have become so caught up in hatred, they have forgotten where it all started. Firstly you need to ask yourself honestly who or what it is that you hate? Be completely open and honest? Is it a family member, a co-worker, a politician, or someone that just killed innocent children? Is it because of something that happened to you personally? Or is it as a result of conditioning by those around you or the society you live in?

Then you need to ask yourself why you hate them! Did they do you an injustice? Did they hurt your feelings, or do you simply disagree with their life philosophies? There can be many reasons.

Now comes the reality check, and what I like to see as the 'fun part' - try and calculate how much time you actually spend thinking about this person and complaining about them. It may shock you to see how big a part of your life they actually take up!

On that point I need to ask you a question ... "What is the one asset in life that once lost, can NEVER be replaced?"

I find during my live seminars that very few people are able to answer this. Most will suggest that it is love, health, respect or even money. Last month I had someone shout out, "Virginity!" That was original, I haven't laughed that loud in a long time.

The answer is, "Time!"

Why? Quite easy, not one of us knows how long we are going to live. The most valuable thing we have is the time that we are alive on this earth. Yet so many people waste this time on unnecessary things. Just think about the elderly people you know. How many do you know that have regrets for not doing things in their life while they were younger? Many I know regret not asking forgiveness for those they hurt. Others regret their hard headedness for not forgiving those that hurt them.

Do you want to be like that one day? Maybe you are young and already like that!

Look at it this way ... if you hate someone and continually complain and moan about that person, what are you doing? You are giving them part of your life's time on this earth. Are they really worth it? Besides, in many instances they are not even aware of your feelings and the only person being negatively affected is you! Now how dumb is that? You are the only one living with the hurt and pain. That's just totally crazy!

Here's a fact - we are all different, and you will always get good and bad people on this earth. You have to accept this. However, I firmly believe that most people are inherently good - it's just life that has thrown them a curve ball, and they have never had anyone that has helped, or taught them how to deal with it.

At this point most people tend to feel that this is not their problem. Guess what, it is each of our responsibilities to make this earth we live on a better place. If everyone just has the attitude of saying that it's up to the governments, or our parents - I doubt anything will change. It hasn't as yet! So something has to be done about it. It's the same with the AIDS epidemic. People who aren't HIV positive claim it's not their problem. Guess what - it is! Because the more people that are infected, the higher medical costs go up for everyone out there, the higher the staff turnover in your company which results in loss of institutional memory, depression amongst workers, higher re-training costs of new employees, etc. It goes on and on.

This is exactly the same with harbouring hatred and not forgiving. Just look at the world we live in today - do you think all the hatred, wars and discrimination are due to forgiveness? I don't think so! It's exactly because humanity is not tolerant and does not forgive, but rather lives in the past. If YOU don't change, how do you think the world will cope? It will just get worse and suddenly all the armageddon predictions may well start to make sense!

Let me simplify hatred for you. Right now you are reading this with your conscious mind. However, all your painful thoughts, issues and naughty fantasies (yes those too) - sit in your subconscious mind. The most powerful of these is the hatred issues. Imagine hatred like a thorn that is clawing into the walls of your subconscious mind. The more you hate, the deeper the thorn digs into that subconscious wall. It's almost like a catch 22 situation, the more you think about it, the deeper the hatred becomes. Thus the more it controls your life and the more subjective you become in your feelings towards that person or thing.

You need to let go and release the anger, issues and pain of the past. By practicing forgiveness you suddenly learn to live in the now and the present. It is only by living in the present that you can really enjoy life to the fullest.

I know, it's easier said than done, or is it? I firmly believe in the KISS rule. Do you know it? (Keep It Simple Stupid!) I have also always been a believer in offering solutions that are practical, useable and implimentable. So here is my suggestion to you.

Identify who or what you hate and why.
One thing you cannot change is the past! Come to terms with this and realise that you can start changing your attitude today!

Tomorrow morning when you wake up, the first thing you do it stand next to your bed and visualise the person or thing that your hate in your mind. Once you have done this, imagine pushing that person or thing away from you and forgiving them at the same time. And as you do so, this person or thing disappears into thin air.

Only now do your start your day. Do this EVERY MORNING for THREE WEEKS. Each and every morning imagining yourself pushing this person or thing away and it/they disappear.

Ever heard of the saying that it takes 3 weeks for a habit to embed or release itself from your subconscious mind? This is fact. By you imagining every morning for 3 weeks that you are throwing the hatred way from you and it disappears, you are releasing the grip the thorn has in your subconscious wall. Eventually after 3 weeks you will have let the hatred go, and suddenly you can stand outside yourself and think objectively again. IN fact you will suddenly wake up and feel their is something missing! Yep, it will be the hatred! Now you can use this time on positive things.

If you don't move on, not only do you make your own life miserable, but also the lives of those around you. You have the choice to live in the past, or to live in the now. This simple exercise helps you release these negative feelings from your subconscious so that you can move on.

I challenge you to try this exercise. If you still display aggressive hatred in 3 weeks from now, you will only have yourself to blame. We can all change the world through practicing love and forgiveness. I am trying to do my bit with the advice I am sharing with you. All you have to do is try the exercise and become part of that change too!

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SEPTEMBER 2010 ‘USELETTER’
Check out this months Video Quick Tip on my You Tube Channel, 'inspiring the world'.

It's time to be inspired again! Before I start I have a request ... if there are any topics or issues you would like me to cover and talk about, please feel free to email me and let me know. After all, the whole object of this 'Useletter' is that you use it and benefit from the information and advice herein.

This month I want to talk about relationships and family. Promise no tear jerker, but instead, some serious advice. My daughters are both doing their gymnastics competitions and once again I am a proud dad with gold medalists. I think back on this last month, the photos I took and the memories I will have for the rest of my life.

My question is, how many parents actually spend time with their children today and savour these times? In fact, how many couples actually spend time talking to each other about their day and really share their feelings with each other, especially the older married couples?

Here's a scenario that puts it into perspective.

A man spends the night drinking with his friends. His wife is mad and tells the children not to open the door when their dad knocks late that night. About 1am the next morning there is a knock on the door and the husband asks the wife to open up.

She shouts at him, "Go away, go back where you came from. You are not putting your feet into this house!"

He replies, " No my darling, I'm not here to come home, I just want to get my credit card. I am having such fun with the guys, I want to go back and party."

The wife rips open the door and grabs him by the arm, "No ways, you're coming into this house right now and getting into bed!"

I had to share that with you, I thought this story was very funny and clever psychology.

On a serious note, how do we communicate as couples and families today? Is the stress of surviving and paying bills taking all your time? Is it making you edgy and stressed out? To the point that you snap at each other and don't appreciate what you have anymore?

Sadly, most people are in such a situation. A rut, for want of a better word. It doesn't matter how stressed your day is, the biggest mistake is bringing your stress home and having it affect your family life. A few months ago I shared a story about a man that stopped at his front door before entering, and hung up an 'invisible' something on the tree in the pot plant next to the door. Eventually when his wife asked what he was doing, he replied, "That's the nonsense and stress of the day that I hang up outside. I don't bring it into the home. Tomorrow morning when I go out again, and look at my stress of the day before, it suddenly doesn't seem so bad anymore."

Now how's that for a great attitude? We as humans tend to worry about things we cannot change, and affect everyone around us with our negativity. Last week I read about a sad bus accident where a number of children were killed. I immediately thought to myself whether the parents had spent time with those children the night before, or whether there had been arguments in the home instead, or even stress and depression about work? Did they miss the last sports game their child played at sport? Makes you think, huh?

You see, none of us know when it's our time. You could come home tonight in a really bad mood and snap at your spouse and the children. Tomorrow something tragic happens and you live the rest of your life with regret. Think about it. Actually sit down and think really hard. Did you spend quality time with your family last night? Did you look your spouse and your children in the eyes and tell them that you love them?

Or did you just breeze past, say "Hi," and just carry on working on your laptop?

When last did you actually play a game with the whole family? In my youth, before internet and satellite TV, we played games. We sat around the kitchen table and we spoke about out day. Fair enough, fuel is more expensive today, but back then we went for a Sunday drive. We stopped for an ice cream. We sat on the beach. We didn't have much money then either. But a picnic basket and a blanket at a picnic spot on the side of the road made for many a memorable occasion. What about doing a picnic on the floor in your living room - there's a novel idea!

A typical scenario today is that if everyone is at home, the children eat their dinner in front of the TV, the mother eats while cleaning the kitchen, and the husband eats in front of his computer while answering some emails. No wonder we have a substantial increase in divorce and domestic violence.

No matter how much we want to blame the society we live in, you cannot do so. The final responsibility rests in your hands. You need to take control and realise that only you can make the difference. Even if the rest of your family thinks you have suddenly gone nuts. You need to bring about the change and make the difference.

Todays lifestyle has also created problems in parents communicating effectively with their children. When something does go wrong, the parents usually say, "I never saw the change in my child!" It's because they don't talk to their children. Did you ever use the 'Talking Stick' as a child? If not, have you ever heard about it? A great concept which works so well, and gives everyone a chance to have their say. You will be amazed at what comes out. Basically, as a family you sit around a table and one person gets to hold the stick. This person is allowed to talk and say what is on their mind. No one else is allowed to comment, or pass remarks. Only the person with the stick is allowed to talk. When they are finished, the next family member gets the stick, until all have had a chance to speak. Often the stick gets passed around and around until the issues have been sorted out. It's a healthy way to communicate without other family members interrupting. I strongly recommend this if you have young children. They see it as a game and you will be amazed at the things thy say.

As far as couples go, when last have the two of you had your 'own' time together? Whether it's a meal together, or just sitting on the bed and talking about how your day has been, while the other person listens?

No matter how unrealistic this sounds, it is something all couples need to do. And, the TV must be off! I find it fascinating at how often I need to speak to companies on 'negotiation skills.' Literally hundreds of staff attend and learn. Yet when it comes to their personal lives, they cannot 'negotiate' with their partner, or find a solution to solve a problem.

One of our human basic instincts is that of love and partnership. But like anything in life it does take work. There is no 'secret' formula - it's a known formula - it's all about honest communication, spending time together and respecting each others opinions. You may not always agree with the way your partner sees an issue, but it doesn't mean they are wrong. There is also nothing wrong with backing down, or giving in once in a while.

Let go of your ego and just be human. In the beginning years of my marriage, my wife and I would argue. I thinks that's all part of getting to know each other. Eventually I gave up arguing and would just say, "I love you," no matter what my wife said.Today we look back at those times and she confesses how it just blew her away. Here we were in a heated debate and I would flaw her with that. It wasn't the time and the place to say "I love you." But guess what, it worked! However, it took one partner to step down and bring balance back into the equation. Surely that's not too difficult to do?

In summary, why not just try spend a few minutes every night communicating with your spouse and your children. Even if you only start with 10 mins per evening. Build it up every week so that by end of the month you are nearly spending an hour of quality time together which you never had before. Don't you think it will make a huge difference to you and your family's life?

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AUGUST 2010 ‘USELETTER’
Okay, before I even start ... this month is a tear jerker! I recently received a very thought provoking email about how we treat others, so my focus this month will be on exactly that. You must admit, I am really tackling an array of topics, from the financial last month, to the emotional this month. Who said life as boring!

I have also uploaded some new 'Quick Tips' this month, and they all have to do with tips on travelling. Really practical information, so make sure you check it out before you fly again. Seems that today, it's the norm to jump on a plane and fly off to a foreign land. These tips are sure to make your life easier. Just click here to view.

When I took over as National President of the Professional Speakers Association SA this year, my theme for the year is one of 'Giving'. This month's inspiration kinda ties in with that. Stop being judgemental and complaining about how bad life is, but rather practice giving to others. For one moment just consider if everyone around you did that, then suddenly everyone you meet would be giving you something. And I don't mean materialistic, but simply respect and time. When last have you erroneously judged someone negatively on your first impression, then afterwards realised that your judgement was cruel and unfair?

It doesn't matter how another person behaves, there is always a reason for their behaviour. Once you understand this, you are in a position to deal with them accordingly and to make a positive difference in that person's life.

THE PERFUME
As she stood in front of her primary 5 class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her pupils and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Koko Bassey. Mrs. Thompson had watched Koko the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Koko could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Koko's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise. Koko's primary 1 teacher wrote, "Koko is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around." His primary 2 teacher wrote, "Koko is an excellent pupil, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle." His primary 3 teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to| do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken." Koko's primary 4 teacher wrote, "Koko is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class." By now, Mrs. Thompson realised the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her pupils brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Koko's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Koko stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Koko. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Koko had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Koko became one of her "teacher's pets."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Koko, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Koko. He then wrote that he had finished secondary school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.
Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from the university with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life. Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer....The letter was signed, Koko A. Bassey, MD. The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Koko said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Koko remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Bassey whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference." Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Koko, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

Warm someone's heart! Just try to make a difference in someone's life today? Tomorrow? just "do it".
I think they call it 'Random acts of kindness.' Find time to laugh, but not at others weaknesses!

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JULY 2010 ‘USELETTER’

I really try to bring in a variety of issues into this newsletter. From general stories to personal experiences and tear jerkers to put life into perspective. (Don't worry, this month I won't make you cry.) Personally, I feel the need to add more personal views (which I believe are objective) and which make you think about your life and how you live.

This month I would like to talk about keeping up with the Jones's. If I look at people today, especially with the 'tough times' out there - is it really tough? Or are we all just messed up and missed the point somewhere? Spending a lot of time in Europe, with the current Euro crises, its interesting to see how many people are complaining how hard times have become. Strange, compare them to the average person living in Africa, and they have no idea what tough really is.

But it's not just the first world, with the internet and globalisation, many people have suddenly been exposed to a different 'man made and controlled' way of life which they believe is what life should be about. Materialism has taken over from humanity.

I recently received an awesome email about Warren Buffet, the world’s second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. He says ...

"The HAPPIEST people DO NOT necessarily have the ‘BEST’ THINGS.
They simply APPRECIATE the things they have”

Isn't that interesting? We as humans are not happy anymore with the simple things in life. I recently watched the movie, 2012. If you haven't seen it, its a typical action and very entertaining. Afterwards I spoke to my daughters, as we always do after a movie, and we as a family questioned, "What would we do if disaster struck and we lost everything, our home, car, technology etc? Could we survive and would we be happy?"

Pretty deep conversation to have with a 11 and 13 year old! I am happy to report that we were okay. And I mean, only okay, but we did have a few problems to solve. Where to get food, how to make a fire, etc. But solidly we all acknowledged that if we had each other, that's all we needed in life.

On that note, how are you coping with life right now? Are you over your head in debt? Do you try keep up the 'image' to impress those around you. Or do you enjoy the simpler things in life and savour every moment?

Let me get back to Warren Buffet. He was interviewed on CNBC for an hour and I want to share with you a few things he said, plus add my own comments.

Here are some very interesting aspects of his life which I am sure you didn't know.

1. Warren Buffet bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late! "Things were very cheap that time...", he says. Encourage your children to invest. Talking to many corporates on investing, I have yet to meet anyone that said they started to late. His advice on teaching your children about financial issues is so true. I only learnt about this much later in life. When did you start? If I can share any advice with you, read Robert Kiyosaki's book, Rich Dad Poor Dad. It's an easy read with none of the financial jargon. But most of all, buy his game, Cashflow. It's like Monopoly, but more fun. He even has a version for children. I started my girls on this game at age 7, today they play the full adult version. Here's the killer. The objective of the game is that your residual income is more than your expenses. Reach that goal and you win. I am curious - do you understand the term residual income? Both my daughters did at age 7! If I look back at my life, the best thing I ever did was give my girls that education. I only learnt the concept after the age of 40.
Bottom line is that we should not work for our money, but our money should work for us. Even if you don't read, get yourself Rich Dad Poor Dad, it will change your life. Get your kids to read it too!

2. Warren Buffet bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers. One can buy many things with few savings. Encourage your children to start some kind of business. I remember doing a roadshow with a financial institution, and someone gave me this advice. Whatever school your kids are in, ask them to find out where there is a need, i.e. children needing pencils as an example. I loaned my daughters the money to start their business. They had to pay it back (They couldn't understand that at the time). Suddenly they made a profit and found out that half had to come back to me (the bank). By doing something simple they suddenly understood what adulthood and business was about. I encouraged them to carry on and try many things. Today I know they have business savvy. Why? Because I merely spent a bit of time with practical hands on experience which will stay with them always.

3. Warren Buffet still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha , that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence. Again, he says, "Don't buy more than you "really need" and encourage your children to do and think the same." This is the big one! Don't buy more than you really need!!!! You don't need 3 cars, or a TV in every room of your house. You don't need to wear the latest designer clothes and eat out every second night. Strange - these are the people that are complaining the most that times are tough at the moment .... duh! Listen to children today, they no longer say, "I want." They all say, "I need." It's as if there is a whole new conditioned culture out there. In reality, all you really need is food, shelter, warmth and your loved ones around you. Need I really say more?

4.Warren Buffet drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him. You are what you are... Our politicians should be the first to learn from that! How important are you really? Because you own a company and a big car, does that make you a better person? If you believe that ... you have a lot to learn. In my opinion, the person that gives back to the world, has time for others and practices unconditional love in everything they do - those are the important people. Just look at Mother Theresa. She had nothing, owned nothing - but boy did she give. If you really look inside yourself, who do you think is the happier and more content person. The pompous CEO in his luxury car maintaining his 'image', or the person that appreciates the simple things in life such as his family, friends and colleagues. It's the person who helps make the world a better place to live in? Don't get me wrong, there are many wealthy people out there who are just the opposite, but they are in the minority - Warren Buffet is one of them. If anybody, he could afford to be pompous, but no - he has given $31 billion to charity. Makes you think huh?

5. Warren Buffet never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company. Always think how you can accomplish things economically. I love this one. We live in a technically advanced society and age. Do you search for the simpler, or the complex solutions? I find it fascinating in my keynotes that speakers today speak on hundreds of subjects. If anything, social media, twitter, etc are huge topics. But! There is another topic which is taking over, it's called 'Soft Skills'. All this technology has resulted in people today being impersonal and not knowing how to communicate face to face. They would rather send a Thank You card per email which they spent an hour designing on Photo shop. What they forget, is that a simple face to face contact, coupled with a genuine smile and possibly a hug, is a hundred times more effective. Speak to someone today, they are constantly distracted by sms's, emails etc. No one gives you 100% attention any more. Here is where I talk to people about one to one contact (Soft Skills). We have forgotten how to do it. Most people think it's too simple! But hey, we are a social species - we need human touch, a smile, eye contact, etc - and that's mostly the more economical and effective route to follow.

6. Warren Buffet's company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He stresses, "Assign the right people to the right jobs."
This is my best ... I have actually witnessed with my own eyes in big corporates where they plan a meeting to decide on when they should have their next meeting! I'm not joking! How often do I phone big clients and the person I want to speak to is in a meeting. Ask them afterwards what it was about, and they say that it was a waste of time. Sound familiar? I just took over as National President for the Professional Speakers Association here in SA. First thing I did was cut down on board meetings. It's a waste of time and money! Here's one alternative where technology and skype, as an example, can make things easier. Also, have the right 'like minded' people around me helps. If the right people are doing the job, one doesn't have to waste time asking everyone else's advice in hundreds of meetings!


7. Warren Buffet has given his CEO's only two rules:
Rule number 1: do not lose any of your share holder's money.
Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.
Set goals and make sure people focus on them.
I wish I could run my business like the huge financial institutions. Give us your money to invest. First we'll take our commission off it to cover initial costs. Then we'll subtract a monthly fee for looking after your money. If by any change we screw it up and lose your money, we abstain and take no responsibility. Don't laugh ... how many of you have your money tied up in these big companies? How many people lost everything including pensions in this latest global crises. Why because the big banks and financial institutions didn't take responsibility. Again, back to Robert Kiyosaki, he says, that as long as you give your money to other people to look after, you will never make real profit. I hear you saying, "But I know nothing about investing! I don't have the time!" But you do have a movie contract at the video shop and watch TV, or movies every second night! Just reading a simple (yes there are those books too) on investing, for one hour a week can make you business wise within a few months. I would love to find a company which follows Warren Buffet philosophy - "Don't lose any of your shareholders money." What about a financial adviser, or broker who only takes commission on your investment if he makes a profit, and takes responsibility if he loses your money. Now in such a person I would invest! People often ask me how I became successful. Easy! I take full responsibility for ALL my actions. I always deliver and I always give 100%. If I ever mess something up, I won't work for that company again - that's just how it goes. Would it be great if the same rule applied to politicians, banks and financial institutions?

Bottom line, be honest, ethical and deliver a 100% service - success will follow. Just look at what greed has done with this recent economic melt down. Who were the culprits? Need I say more?

8. Warren Buffet does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television. Don't try to show off, just be your self and do what you enjoy doing. If you enjoy gardening - find the time to do it. Work hard and play hard. I remember consciously withdrawing from television and my celebrity lifestyle for one reason, and one reason only. All the superficial, air head fellow celebrities I had to socialise with at events. All they did was be seen, network with people they could get something out of, and constantly try outdo the next person. Life is to short, I definitely did not have time for such people. I rather focus my time on helping others, making decent long term business contacts and getting on with the job. I want to make friends with people that want to know me for who I am, not for my status or what they can get out of me. Having the best car in the neighbourhood, or having my face in the 'People" magazine definitely doesn't rate anywhere, or any of my lists. As long as you try keep an image (remember this is what the media and society has programed you to do) you will NEVER be happy. I have my own saying, "I don't follow fashions, I make them." In other words, I don't do what others do, I do what I enjoy doing and which helps those around me ... and strangely enough, people start following my behaviour! You cannot change the world overnight, but you CAN change one person's view, and that person can do the same, etc. etc. In the end, we can all make this world a better place for our children.

9.Bill Gates, the world's richest man met Warren Buffet for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with him. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet. Find those decent people out there. Learn from them. Let them be your mentor, and together, WE can change the world!

Lastly, Warren Buffet has great advice for young people:
"Stay away from credit cards & bank loans and invest in yourself and remember:
A. Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
B. Live your life as simply as possible.
C. Don't do what others say - listen to them, but do what you feel good doing.
D. Don't follow brand names; just wear those things in which you feel comfortable.
E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; rather just spend on those things you really need.
F. After all, it's your life so why allow others to rule your life?"

Have a great July!

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JUNE 2010 ‘USELETTER’
Every month it is a task of love for me to put together this 'Useltter', this month is no exception. I was about to send it out, when I felt that I had to change it completely and share some extremely personal feelings with you. I have found that my career to date has been good to me for this very reason, I always talk about true personal experiences which many people can relate with, and hence the message is so much more powerful. So bear with me as I throw my thoughts together, more personal than before, and read this months "Useltter' with the depth and tears I have written it.

It's the half way point of the year, the World Cup soccer begins in a few days time with excitement in the southern part of the globe, and major economic turmoil in the northern part. Isn't it strange how at identical times one place can be upbeat, and another a bit depressed? Almost like two sides of a coin. Life tends to be the same, youth is the one side, and old age on the other. When does that coin flip? What are the signs? When it does, will you have regrets or will you be content?

On that note, here's my only story this month which I received in an email from a friend, and which prompted me to re-write everything:

It was a normal, busy morning, about 8:30 when, Harry, an elderly gentleman, well into his 80's, arrived at the Hospital, to have stitches removed from his thumb. Harry told me that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:15 am. I weighed him and took his blood pressure and invited him take a seat in the waiting area, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On examination, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the Doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked Harry if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. He told me no, but that he needed to go to the Nursing Home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she suffered from Alzheimer's disease.
As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a little late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was and that she had not recognised him in five years. I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?' He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'

I had to hold back tears as Harry left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life.

Why this story?
I just packed up my parents belongings as they have left to go back to their home town. It was an overnight decision and my mom has serious Alzheimers, and declining rapidly. In a few weeks she will most likely be like the lady in the story above. My dad, also not in best of health is still trying to do everything for her and look after her. Of course, being typical German, my dad doesn't say much and still tries to keep the responsibility to himself. My wife and I do what we can, and were shocked at this overnight decision. I came home from my recent travels and my dad had sold everything and he informed me that he is leaving with my mom.

Right now, I am taking a break from going through what's left of their belongings. I look at the few old photos of me as a child, and a coffee bean grinder my grandmother still used. Although I speak so much of living in the moment and not having regrets in life, I have tears in my eyes as I think of my parents' life. They were both World War 2 children and experienced all the horrors of war. My dad buried his own mother before he had reached his teens. They fled to South Africa where they met, and had a hard life. In later years when they wanted to retire, my dad got prostrate cancer and my mother ended up with a triple bypass which accelerated her Alzheimers to the situation where she is now. The money they had saved for their retirement, was basically spent on keeping them alive. Today, with the little they have left, they want to move back to their place of birth. Obviously I am doing what I can for them, but my dad's pride keeps him distanced. The shock of realising that someone you care about won't be around much longer, is a serious reality check.

I personally practice what I preach, and I truly have no regrets. But I do see regrets in the eyes of my dad. And I sit here and wonder, what did he do wrong? He was always a decent and honest man and really looked after my mother. He did work excessively long hours and I didn't see him much as a child. If anything, he contributed so much to this world. But today I see a man who has given up. To the point that he has left everything behind, even the family photos. It's been a long time since I cried. This morning I could no longer hold it in. I am still tearful.

My wife and I have spent the whole morning discussing everything. Where did we go wrong? What could we have done to change anything? Bottom line is we did all we could, but my dad wants to fullfil my mothers wish of her wanting to die in the country she was born.

Here I now sit with my own family and work commitments. Obviously I will now visit my parents as often as I can, but I question why life has worked out the way it did for them. Where they were 5 minutes down they road, they are now a 14 hour flight away. Now comes the point where I have to analyse my own life, my family and my work. I have to ask myself whether I personally will have any regrets one day when I am older. What memories will my children have of my wife and I one day?

So this month I want to talk to you from the heart.

If your parents are still alive, when last did you really talk to them and tell them that you love them? Or if you have any issues, forgiven them. The day they are no longer here, what memories will you have? Or, as in the story, what happens if one of them gets Alzheimers and doesn't even remember you? Then you cannot say all those things that have been on your mind for all those years. Happily I can say that I was fortunate enough to have the insight to share all with my parents and tell them regularly that I love them.

I often talk about being "Thankful". I also often feel that 95% of the people don't fully comprehend or understand this concept. Are you thankful for all the precious moments you have spent with those you care for?

Way to often we get caught up in all the negativity going on this globe today. Yes, the world is a tough place, it's becoming more impersonal, greed and money driven by the day. In my opinion, politicians world-wide are corrupt and only interested in lining their own pockets - just look at the Europe economic crises right now. What about South Africa and the World Cup? Suddenly poor unemployed people are being rounded up by local councels to help clean the dirt all around - all to create a politically correct 'clean' impression of the country. Why can't this be done every day, even when there is no world event? - you know the answer! The papers won't even print my readers letter on the subject. It is sickening what is going on. Yet the world still turns, the days still go by, and we all have to live in it. On top of this we still have personal and family issues to cope with.

However! You have two choices, make the most of every moment, or get brought down by all the negativity. Some people will live lives of luxury and remain healthy until the day they die. Others will be given a raw deal. That's just the way it is. You can philosophise all you want, but that's the reality - two sides of a coin.

Apparently 200 000 people are born every day, that's a million in less than a week. Are we becoming like ants? Merely infesting the earth and using up it's resources. Is our life as that insignificant?

YOU can decide how you want to live and what your attitude to all of this will be. If life has dealt you a bad hand of cards, you can decide to take it for what it is, or you can decide to play that bad hand well.

You can take the responsibility for your own life right now and decide that you will change. I doubt the world is going to change for you. For thousands of years and for may years to come, I think the same corruption, hatred and fighting will continue. (Unless you believe in the 2012 school of thought that people will become enlightened and start reaching a new level of consciousness). But, you can decide whether you want to be part of it or not.

It all starts with your family. No matter how your parents brought you up, good or bad, they are your parents. If you have issues with them, sort them out now. The day they die it will be too late.

If you feel your parents never gave you the childhood you deserved, guess what, you can't change that! They lived in different times and different mind sets. Forgive them and make the most of the time you have left with them.

Above all, learn from their mistakes and don't do the same with your children. The day your children look into your eyes when you are 75 - do you want them to see regret, or do you want then to see contentment and happiness which they can build on in their lives?

If you share love and openness with your children, and create good memories right now today, then you may well be able to change the future world out there.

Look at our modern lives - we have been brought up to hoard, keep up with the neighbours and above all, let materialism rule our lives. This week has been a nice reality check for me. They say that you reach a point in life when you are older that you give everything away.

Although I try practice a life of non materialism and often talk about it in my Keynotes, it hits a nerve when you start packing up your parents stuff and realise that we come into this world with nothing, and leave with nothing. That's when the questions start screwing with your mind ... what's the point of working hard for stuff that you are only going to enjoy for a short period of time? And is that what enjoyment is really about, or have we been conditioned by the media and governments to believe this lie? Why do people become slaves to their cars and TV's and make debt to have stuff which doesn't really bring true enjoyment? People use up their life's time to save up for a computer that will be outdated before they have even finished paying it off. What kind of weird logic is that? They will save up and work over-time to pay off a car, just to maintain an image, but in the interim won't have time to watch their child win a sports game for his team. Which do you think is more important?

As someone recently put it to me: it's all a lie sold to us by governments who want us to have debt so that we are forced to work so that we can pay tax in order for them to create wars, line their own pockets and be corrupt. Whether you agree or not - it's food for thought!

It makes me think of John Lennon's song, "Imagine". If you don't recall the words, listen to it again. He was far ahead of his time and his words ring so true to anyone who is just a little enlightened.

Stop following the masses. Stop being a slave to the media and what society says you must do. You will NEVER find true happiness! Can you be happy with nothing? Imagine there was an earthquake tomorrow and you lost your home and all your possessions. All you have was your spouse, children and parents. Could you be happy then? If not - I seriously suggest you re-analyse your life. Stop letting the corruption of the modern world mess with your mind. Sit down with those you love one night and ask the question, "Imagine we lost everything we had, and only had each other, what would make us happy? You may be surprised at the answers your children will come up with!

Believe it or not, I am trying to be inspirational here. My message is that no matter what life throws at you - you are responsible for the memories you have when it comes to an end. Are your going to let all those outside influences get you down and control who you really are within, or are you going to create brilliant memories.

Remember, every today well spend, leaves you with a good memory of yesterday, and a positive hope for the future.

Have a memorable June.

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Lots of exciting news and happenings. Besides my inspirational messages this month, I just launched a new book, called 'Sales Secrets & Negotiation Skills', and together with 3 fellow speakers am launching in one week, 'One Goal, many Paths', a book about self realisation written by 4 different leading speakers. If that wasn't enough to keep me busy, this month did a lot of international traveling, my oldest daughter turned 13, and I met so many wonderful people with whom I managed to solve half the world's problems... if only we had someone who would listen to our solutions! Well, if nothing else - I am going to share some with you ............

Hence this month I want to tackle a few deeper issues. What a month, from speaking in England, Holland and South Africa, I am pretty tired of flying! Towards the end of this month it's back around the world again! And everyone thinks my lifestyle is so cool! I have lost count of how many people have asked me if they can carry my baggage, just to tag along!

Like anything in life, the first few times you fly, it is pretty cool. But after a while, especially getting caught in the BA strike at Heathrow... it becomes pretty annoying! Reality is, flying is definitely not what it used to be. So what's my point? No matter what you do in life, there will also be something that becomes routine, and even annoying at times. But, if I am already in a job I hate, plus have these added annoyances - it would be a very depressing life! That is why it is so important that you do what you enjoy. That you chose a job that makes you want to get up in the morning. Therefore, when you do come across things that may irritate you, you tend to take them in your stride and still be thankful for the fact that you actually love your work. Basically, it enables you to cope better with the things that you don't enjoy as much.

It's also a mind set. You have two choices when things don't quite go your way. Take it in your stride, or get annoyed. Either way, it takes the same effort. So why even bother going for the negative? Yes I dealt with strikes, delayed flights, and even pushy fellow passengers. But, I was either on my way to speak, or on my way home to my family - both were great reason to be happy. I made a choice to keep the right attitude and enjoy the moment. Imagine that you get annoyed with someone, or something to such a point that you that you really do get a heart attack. Is it really worth it? The reason I mention this is that for some or other reason I have noticed a lot of short tempers and aggression in public places during this month. It saddens me that so many people are so unhappy. It also makes me think of what I was taught by many people as a youngster. "Always count to ten before you react to anything." There is so much truth in that. It takes a few seconds to count to ten, and by then the adrenalin levels have had some time to drop, and the situation doesn't always lok so bad anymore.

We have also become so conditioned by the media as to what life is and is not about. I recently saw a new car advert where they actually associated the car with an inspired, balanced and happy life! Huh!? The sad thing is, people fall for this nonsense. The only person that can make you happy is yourself! You have to consciously make that decision and work at it.

I spoke at the Professional Speakers Association of Holland conference in Noordwijk last month, and what a tremendous time we had. A theme that came through strongly was, Being Authentic.

In today's world we all try to keep up appearances and portray a certain image. Is that who you really are? Can you imagine a world where everyone is open and honest, and content with who they are as a person? Where people don't constantly compare themselves to others and what they own or don't own? Wouldn't that be absolutely great? I cannot see why it can't be a reality. It all starts with just one person... and that person is you!

Easier said than done! How do I become authentic?
Actually, it's not that difficult. Firstly, show others that you are human and ask in everything that you do, "Is it making a difference to that person?"

I always come back to the '4 way test' of Rotary International for whom I have often spoken. From day one, their principles of service and fellowship struck a deep note in me.

Is it the TRUTH?

Is it FAIR to all concerned?
Will it build GOOD WILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?
Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

No matter what religion, culture or background you come from. Don't you agree that if we all just asked those 4 questions before doing anything - the world would be a better place?

So as a start to finding the real you, ask yourself,
Am I being true to myself and everyone around me?
Am I being fair to myself and others I meet in my daily activities?
Am I looking for the good in everyone I meet and making the effort to foster friendships? Or do I sit back and expect others to make the first move?
Am I giving without expecting in return and trying to live in the moment. A gift is not necessarily always something materialistic, or a shoulder to cry on. It could be a simple genuine smile to a stranger opposite you in the train ... but it could just change that person's day.

More than often people ask me how I make time for my family. Often whenI describe my lifestyle, I can understand that people believe I am never at home. However, in reality, I have a rule that I will never be away from home for more than 4 nights in a month. Occasionally I may push it to a week, but that is very rare. Anything over that, my family comes with.

Balance is of utmost importance in maintaining a happy lifestyle. Family should always come first, especially if you have children. It saddens me how many parents miss their children growing up and then complain at how fast time flies. Work, hobbies, friends and sport all take priority over family. One day when they are older, they regret not having spent spent more time with them. Especially if tragedy strikes and a loved one is taken from you. Then everyone cries and constantly wishes they could just have had 5 minutes more. Reality check! Now is the time - not tomorrow!

The time is now! In everything I do, I involve my family. Everywhere we go, the girls come too. If friends invite me over and say that no children are allowed... guess what - I don't go! They are not worth having as friends. If I do a sporting activity, or have a hobby, I share it with my family. When last have you played monopoly or chess with your kids? Today it's all about psp's, surfing the net and every conceivable activity which alienates us. Make an effort to focus on family unity and get to know your spouse and kids again. It does make for a more authentic you. You need people close to you to bring you back to ground level. On that note, I cannot strongly enough recommend "Cash Flow for Kids" by Robert Kiyosaki (The Rich Dad Poor Dad Author). The schooling system won't teach your children about economics and money - this game does, and it's more fun than Monopoly, plus the kids love it. Bonus - they learn real live financial skills.

That's one thing I can say about my wife, with all my successes and TV celebrity status, if I ever got a big head, she brought me down to earth immediately. She loves and cares enough for me to show me the way when I falter. Does your spouse do that for you too? Even my daughters are like that. I will never forget on a Magic TV series a few years ago. I was stressing tremendously with all the politics and hierarchy issues from the national broadcaster. Eventually after surviving the unwanted stress, my youngest daughter walks into the studio and comments, "It so boring when you know how it works!" (She was referring to the tricks!) Well I never, I just sank down and hugged her. You see, I had been ignoring her due to the production stress - she couldn't understand it. I mean, the tricks in her eyes were so easy. What was my problem. She didn't see all the other surrounding nonsense. It made me realise that everything around me wasn't worth getting annoyed about. The most important issue there, was my daughter.

If I look at all the times I have had to be steered back in the right direction, it's always been my wife, or daughters. Would they have been able to do this if there wasn't a close-nit family unit? I don't think so! Appreciate and spend time with your family and people that care about you.

Lastly, be honest with yourself. There is a saying that goes something along the lines of, "If you constantly lie to others about yourself, don't believe that it only fools them!"
Yes, the world is cut throat, we have to earn money to make ends meet and pay bills. But, how much of what we buy, is really necessary? Is cable TV, or a new car really a defining issue in your happiness? I have met countless people who followed their dreams after they retired. Suddenly they were making more money than ever before, and wished they had done so sooner. Remember, if you honestly follow your passion, your energy levels will be higher than those that don't. The Law of Attraction will look after you ... but only if you are truly honest with yourself and take that responsibility.

Stop blaming family, friends, your boss, the previous government, etc. Take the responsibility on yourself to become authentic, and make that conscious decision to live the life you deserve to lead.

We can find 1000 reasons not to do something, but we only need 1 reason to start something!

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February is way to short, I'm missing a few days! Anyway, managed to get the March 'Useletter' out in time. How has your year been up until now? I definitely feel a more positive business attitude in the air and everywhere I go, everyone is trying anything and everything to come up with clever business plans. It's so refreshing to see.
Check out my You Tube quick tips this month of 'De-Stressing', shot in a safari park in South Africa. Click on your language of choice: English,Afrikaans, German

How do you wake up in the morning? Depressed or happy? There are many reasons people don't look forward to their day and many simple solutions to that problem. One, is to be thankful as you open your eyes, especially for the things we take for granted. It kinda puts things and life into perspective and makes you realise that we have many reasons to be happy. Here's an sms I received from a friend on a conference this month which I thought really brings this point across well.

BE THANKFUL
The only time you appreciate what you have is when you loose it. Be grateful today for all the universe has given you; parents, health, wealth, peace, dignity, home servants, world comforts, beautiful healthy children and friends. You have been blessed with more, than most people in this world. Remember, what we have today, you can loose tomorrow. Never take for granted all the things in your life, and most of all, enjoy what you have every day.

I thought this very interesting. Who is grateful for peace and dignity? These are things we all take for granted ... but we shouldn't. There are countries on this globe where those things don't exist! What I found was powerful was the sentence, "What we have today, we can loose tomorrow." I keep on talking in my Keynotes about the most precious asset we have in life - TIME - don't take your time on this earth for granted and realise that NOW is the time to enjoy. Give thanks to those little things that brighten up your day, a smile shared with a stranger, a hug from your child, or even a joke shared amongst friends. Guess what? This keeps you humble and appreciative. Way to often we take everything for granted and expect. If you look at 90% of the problems around you, it's because of expectations. Stop expecting, give more and be thankful for everything you have. Suddenly you'll find that life becomes more meaningful.

SAVOUR EVERY MOMENT
One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say "I love you."

So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage......And old cars... And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and ageing parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.

Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away, or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what. Life is important, like people we know who are special. And so, we keep them close!

Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them? I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling, or three words needing to be said. Let every one of your friends know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do.

And just in case I'm gone tomorrow. .. Live today because tomorrow is not promised.

On another note, stop giving up so quickly and complaining about everything around you. Once you appreciate what you have, it kinda opens a new door in your mind and makes you realise that you must take responsibility for your own life and put 100% into every opportunity that comes your way. Even my two girls, just spending time tickling them, or being silly together, I am thankful for that time. But above all, even they are too, Before they go to sleep, they say how grateful they are for the good times we spend together during the day. And because of this, my oldest daughter, who turns 13 this month is now training for the olympic gymnastics. I am in awe of the dedication and discipline she has (My wife and I must be doing something right). She has really learnt the concept of being thankful and trying and trying again until you get it right. How many adults today understand this. Here is a wonderful story by an unknown author about being successful. Maybe you can share this lesson with your children.

LAW OF THE SEED

Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on the tree, but each apple has ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds! We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?" Nature has something to teach us here. It's telling us: "Not all seeds grow”. In life, most seeds never grow. So if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more than once." This might mean: You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job. You'll interview forty people to find one good employee. You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum cleaner, one insurance policy, or a business idea. And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special friend .

When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so disappointed. We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal with things that happen to us. Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them - and work with them.

IN A NUTSHELL: Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds. When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must NOT DO so as to be happy: You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be. You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.

Many times, such thoughts can bring you spiralling down into more unhappiness. On the other hand, let's say you expect that:

Friends SHOULD return favours
People SHOULD appreciate you.
Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
Everyone SHOULD be honest.
Your husband, partner or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.

These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things won't happen! So you end up frustrated and disappointed. There's a better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have preferences! For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself: "I WOULD PREFER "A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS, IT'S OK TOO!" You prefer that people are polite... but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day. You prefer sunshine.. but if it rains, it is ok too!

To become happier, we either need to:
a) Change the world, or

b) Change our thinking.

It is easier to change our Thinking! IN A NUTSHELL: It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem that is the problem. It's not what happens to you that determine your happiness, but rather how you think about what happens to you!

Have an awesome month

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Wow, what a winter, the worst in Europe in years. I sure am glad to be back in the sunshine and not shoveling snow anymore! However, celebrating a white Christmas with your children is something I strongly recommend for those of you who have never done it before. It is truly magical.

2010 is in full swing and I have clearly seen an upturn in business attitude. Yes the FIFA world cup spirit in South Africa definitely has started to rub off on the world. I launched a new inspirational talk, called "Become a World Player' and it is becoming a winner. (Excuse the pun!) I am also launching a new book, together with 3 fellow speakers, called "You Can!". That will be launched towards the middle of the February.

Education has become a problem world wide, and towards the end of last year we shot a DVD, called 'Study Methods' aimed at school children up to Grade 4, teaching fun, basic study skills ... and of course there's some magic too. The Department of Education has given it 'thumbs up',

So, if you want to give your children that extra start in school - click here.

It's been a bit of a hectic time for me during the last few weeks, but still managed to get in one free Quick Tips video this month on finding your passion again. If you want to view it, click here for English, German & Afrikaans. Don't forget that you can view lots of Quick tips on my free You Tube Channel, 'inspiringtheworld.'

Welcome to the month of Love, February. It's not only a time to celebrate love, but to reflect on how we practice love in our loves. Not only towards our partners, but our family and humanity in general. Thus my stories this month are for you to reflect your inner feelings and find that true unconditional love again, so that you can make a difference in the world.

The Young Man and the Starfish
Once upon a time there was a wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his journal writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work. One day he was walking along the shore. As he looked down the beach, he saw a human figure moving like a dancer. He smiled to himself to think of someone who would dance to the day. So he began to walk faster to catch up.

As he got closer, he saw that it was a young man and the young man wasn't dancing, but instead he was reaching down to the shore, picking up something and very gently throwing it into the ocean. As he got closer he called out, "Good morning! What are you doing?"

The young man paused, looked up and replied, "Throwing starfish in the ocean."
"I guess I should have asked, why are you throwing starfish in the ocean?"
"The sun is up, and the tide is going out. And if I don't throw them in they'll die."
"But, young man, don't you realize that there are miles and miles of beach, and starfish all along it. You can't possibly make a difference!"

The young man listened politely. Then bent down, picked up another starfish and threw it into the sea, past the breaking waves and said, "It made a difference for that one."

There is something very special in each and every one of us. We have all been gifted with the ability to make a difference. And if we can become aware of that gift, we gain through the strength of our visions the power to shape the future. We must each find our starfish. And if we throw our stars wisely and well, the world will be blessed.

As we get into the year, many people are re-assessing their lives and searching for inner happiness. Thus I feel that the following philosophical quotes may help you to find the answers you seek.

20 Thought-provoking Quotations
1. The meaning of life is to give life meaning. You can do this by sharing love with all those around you.

2. Find something you love to do and you'll never have to work a day in your life. I am living proof of this. People always ask me how do you do it? The busy schedule, the global travelling? Easy, I love what I do, hence to me it isn't work, but play/ Follow your heart and life looks after you.

3. If someone seeks advice, give them direction, not correction. Stop forcing your opinions on others, rather steer them in the right direction where they might find the answers they are looking for.

4. Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. Focus on the things you are good at and love doing, in that way you will reach your goals faster.

5. To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong. The most succesful people in the world have made many more mistakes and experienced far more failure than the rest. Yet they have never seen this as negative. Instead they have seen these setbacks as learned experiences to make them grow. To quote my favorite saying from Thomas Eddison, "I have not failed, I just found 10000 way that don't work!"

6. Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will. Duh! How long is it going to take for everyone to understand this? Stop reading the first 3 pages in the newspaper and watching negative news reports on TV - this all affects your thoughts. Pro-actively follow and seek the positive in your life. It DOES make a difference!

7. You can't make someone else's choices. You shouldn't let someone else make yours. Follow your heart and look within yourself when making a decision. Decide what's best for you, not what others tell you. And again, don't force your views onto others. Let them search their own heart, and if needs be - steer them in the right direction without forcing your views.

8. Even a fool knows you can't reach the stars, but that doesn't stop a wise man from trying. No matter how many set backs you have in life, NEVER stop trying. The difference between success and failure, is that people who failed, stopped dreaming and trying.

9. When an affliction happens to you, you either let it defeat you, or you defeat it. There is a saying, "If you think you can - you will. If you think you can't - don't bother!" Believe in yourself and you will defeat all obstacles.

10. You can do what you want to do. You can be what you want to be. It's all about attitude and belief in yourself. And by following what's in your heart and doing what you love - it becomes so much easier.

11. A man with one watch knows what time it is; A man with two watches is never quite sure. Don't over complicate your life. Keep it simple!

12. Don't look where you fall , but where you slipped. Be honest with yoru self if things don't go as planned. In such an sinatnce, don't blame others, but take responsibilty for your own actions, and go back and identify the mistakes you made ... and correct them.

13. Look at life through the wind-shield, not through the rear view mirror. What is it with the world living in the past? You will NEVER get ahead in life if you always look behind you. You cannot change the past. What's so difficult to understand here? What happened yesterday is history. Nothing can change that. The ONLY thing you can do is learn from it and make sure it never happens again. To find happiness and success you must live in the NOW!

14. People may doubt what you say , but they never doubt what you do. Fact! Your inner thoughts and feelings will always be manifested in your body language, posture and expressions. No matter what 'front' you want to show the outer world, there are always those who can see what you are really feeling, by looking at your behaviour and body language. Therefore it is imperative in life to follow your inner heart and do what you love. Only then will it show on the outside. And then this positive radiation can rub off on everyone around you.

15. Be nice to people on the way up , because you may need them on the way down. Everything is about that 'Circle of Life'. Look at the recession, every few years there is one, but afterwards there is always an upturn. Somewhere in your life you may well lose direction and fall. Will the people there help pick you up again? If you treated them well during your first trip, odds are they will help you back onto the road to recovery. If you didn't treat them well ...

16. While seeking revenge , dig two graves ......... one for yourself. What comes around, goes around! I have seen this over and over in my life. Let it go, revenge only breeds hatred and contempt. Love conquors all, don't stoop to the level of those that did you in. Remember, it is them you gave out the negative energy. The universe wills end it back to them in tenfold. Surely you don't want any negativity coming back to you too?

17. Time you enjoyed wasting ......... was not wasted. What happened to keeping a balance in life. You cannot constantly be on the run. You need to be selfish and take time for YOURSELF occasionaly as well. It does you the world of good.

18. Courage is not lack of fear , but the ability to act while facing fear. You can only face fear if you are confident and happy within yourself. Because, when you follow your heart, your fear nothing, but see it all as an adventure to attaining your dreams.

19. You've got to do your own growing , no matter how tall your father is. Stop reading the tabloids and gossip magazines! You complain that your life isn't panning out the way you want it to be, yet you set your goals and dreams by trying to be like drugged out celebrities with no brains! If you are going to follow a role model in life, I doubt very much they will appear in gossip magazines! Read the biographies of decent people, people who changed the world for the better. Then take their philosophies and the applicable lessons to your life and grow inyour own direction.

20. The best way to predict your future , is to create it. By living every day in the moment, and to the fullest, you are creating great memories of yesterday and therefore look forward to tomorrow. You can only do this if you do what you love, practice love and be content with who you are. Only then can you find meaning for yourself. Only then do you discover who you really are. Only then can you plan a life of true meaning and contentment.

Finally I would like to finish off this month's 'Useletter' with a poem on love by an unkown author.

I Believe
I believe in miracles and dreams that will come true.
I believe in tender moments and friendship, through and through.
I believe in stardust and moonbeams all aglow.
I believe there's magic and more there than we know.

I believe in reaching out and touching from the heart.
I believe that if we touch a gift we can impart.

I believe that if you cry, your tears are not in vain.
And when you're sad and lonely, others know your pain.

I believe that when we laugh a sparkle starts to shine.
And I just know that spark will spread from more hearts than just mine.

I believe that hidden in the quiet of the night, there's magic moths and gypsies a fairy and a sprite.
I believe that if you dance the dances of your heart, that greater happiness will find a brand new way to start.

I believe the gifts you have are there for you to share.
And when you give them from the heart, the whole world knows you care.

I believe that if you give, even just to one,
that gift will grow in magnitude before the day is done.

I believe that comfort comes from giving part of me.
And if I share with others, there's more for all to see.

I believe that love is still the greatest gift of all,
and when it's given from the heart then not one of us will fall.

ONIONS

In 1919 when the flu killed 40 million people, there was a Doctor who visited many farmers to see if he could help them combat the flu. Many of the farmers and their family had contracted it, and many died.
The doctor came upon one farmer, and to his surprise, everyone in the household was very healthy. When the doctor asked what the farmer was doing that was different, the wife replied that she had placed an unpeeled onion in a dish in the rooms of the home (probably only two rooms back then). The doctor couldn't believe it and asked if he could have one of the onions and place it under the microscope. She gave him one, and when he did this, he did find the flu virus in the onion. It obviously absorbed the bacteria, therefore, keeping the family healthy.
Now, I heard this story from my hairdresser in AZ. She said that several years ago many of her employees were coming down with the flu and so were many of her customers. The next year she placed several bowls with onions around in her shop. To her surprise, none of her staff got sick. It must work... (And no, she is not in the onion business.)

The moral of the story is, buy some onions and place them in bowls around your home. If you work at a desk, place one or two in your office or under your desk or even on top somewhere. Try it and see what happens. We did it last year, and we never got the flu. If this helps you and your loved ones from getting sick, all the better. If you do get the flu, it just might be a mild case...Whatever, what have you to lose? Just a few bucks on onions!

Now there is a P.S. to this, for I sent it to a friend in Oregon who regularly contributes material to me on health issues. She replied with this most interesting experience about onions:

Thanks for the reminder. I don't know about the farmer's story...but I do know that I contracted pneumonia, and needless to say I was very ill...I came across an article that said to cut both ends off an onion. Put one end on a fork, and then place the forked end into an empty jar...placing the jar next to the sick patient at night. It said the onion would be black in the morning from the germs. Sure enough, it happened just like that...the onion was a mess, and I began to feel better. Another thing I read in the article was that onions and garlic placed around the room saved many from the black plague years ago. They have powerful antibacterial, antiseptic properties.
This is the other note: LEFTOVER ONIONS ARE POISONOUS!

I have used an onion which has been left in the fridge. Sometimes I don't use a whole one at one time, so I save the other half for later. Now with this info, I have changed my mind. I will buy smaller onions in the future. I had the wonderful privilege of touring Mullins Food Products, makers of mayonnaise. Mullins is huge, and is owned by 11 brothers and sisters in the Mullins family. My friend, Jeanne, is the CEO.
Questions about food poisoning came up, and I wanted to share what I learned from a chemist.

The guy who gave us our tour is named Ed. He's one of the brothers. Ed is a chemistry expert and is involved in developing most of the sauce formula. He's even developed sauce formula for McDonald's.
Keep in mind that Ed is a food chemistry whiz. During the tour, someone asked if we really needed to worry about mayonnaise. People are always worried that mayonnaise will spoil. Ed's answer will surprise you. Ed said that all commercially-made mayo is completely safe.
"It doesn't even have to be refrigerated. No harm in refrigerating it, but it's not really necessary." He explained that the pH in mayonnaise is set at a point that bacteria could not survive in that environment. He then talked about the quintessential picnic, with the bowl of potato salad sitting on the table and how everyone blames the mayonnaise when someone gets sick. Ed says that when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). Ed says it's not the mayonnaise (as long as it's not homemade mayo) that spoils in the outdoors. It's probably the onions, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES.
He explained, onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion. He says it's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your refrigerator. It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit, that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!)

Ed says if you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy you'll probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put it on your sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato in a potato salad will attract and grow bacteria faster than any commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down.
So, how's that for news? Take it for what you will. I (the author) am going to be very careful about my onions from now on. For some reason, I see a lot of credibility coming from a chemist and a company that produces millions of pounds of mayonnaise every year. Also, dogs should never eat onions. Their stomachs cannot metabolize onions.

Please remember it is dangerous to cut onions and try to use it to cook the next day. I t becomes highly poisonous for even a single night and creates toxic bacteria which may cause adverse stomach infections because of excess bile secretions and even food poisoning.

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So, how was two thousand and mine? Will 2010 be all you expect it to be? Of course it will - but that depends on you and your attitude. My wish for you this year is a POSITIVE attitude coupled with much health and everything else you set your mind on.

On that note, let’s talk about health first. With the right attitude you can be healthy/

If you don’t want to be ill, there are a few things you need to do:

Of course there are many people that now feel another year has passed and time is creeping up. NEVER be afraid of getting older, it age that brings us wisdom. Older people who are unhappy with their age are those with regrets. These are people who never followed their dreams. If you are still young, learn from the above words. Make yourself a promise that you will never regret lost opportunities in life. Only then will getting older be fun.

On that note, if you are over 50 ... here are some things to be really positive about in 2010.

1. Kidnappers are not very interested in you.

2. In a hostage situation you are likely to be released first.

3..No one expects you to run--anywhere.

4... People call at 9 pm and ask, did I wake you?

5. People no longer view you as a hypochondriac.

6. There is nothing left to learn the hard way.

7. Things you buy now won't wear out..

8. You can eat supper at 4 pm.  

9. You can live without sex, but not your glasses.

10. You get into heated arguments about pension plans.

11.You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.

12. You quit trying to hold your stomach in no matter who walks into the room.

13. You sing along with elevator music.

14. Your eyes won't get much worse.

15. Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.  

16. Your joints are more accurate meteorologists than the national weather service.

17. Your secrets are safe with your friends because they can't remember them either.

18. Your supply of brain cells is finally down to manageable size.  

BUT, there is only one thing you really need to be careful of ... Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

Tags: Fulfilment, Free Motivation, Wolfgang Riebe, Free 'Useletter', January 2010 'Useletter'

Inspiration for December 2009 follows below:
Welcome to Decembers 'Useletter'.
It's almost gone! 2009 is nearly history! Many people often say that motivation and inspiration doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why send it to you every month! I really trust that you have enjoyed this year's 'Useletters' and I am going to end the year with some deeper messages. Firstly to get you into the holiday spirit, and secondly to make you go into the new year with the right attitude.

This month's free You Tube Quick tips are:(Simply click on titles to watch)
English: Achieve Your Goals, Live in the Moment, Attachment, Honesty
Afrikaans: In die Moment Lewe, Eerlikheid, Logies Dink, Eerste Indrukke
Deutsch: An sich selbst Glauben, Im Moment Leben, Teamwork, Verbundenheit, Ehrlichkeit

No matter what your belief, this holiday season is a time of peace, giving and spending quality time with the people you love. Santa Clause has always been part of this magical time. In fact I have a photo of myself in Nuuk, one of the more northern towns on the west coast of Greenland, where I am standing in front of Santa's workshop. So my two girls know that he must exist - after all, dad was there!

Realistically though, have you kept the magic of Santa alive for your children? I actually know people that told their children from the time they could speak, that there was no such person. Although I respect everyone's belief's, I feel so sad, thinking that those children never experienced the true magic of Santa. It's when you break down the magic of childhood that you ruin any hope of a magical adulthood. Surely that's not so difficult to understand?! My daughters have now reached the age where 'peer pressure at school' has forced me to explain everything. However, I think I did well - had my oldest one going until 12, and the youngest one is not quite sure anymore - although I know she still wants to believe! Here's how I did it.

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DO YOU BELIEVE IN SANTA?

I told my girls that although the Santa one sees in films and on cartoons at the north pole may not be real - the 'spirit' of Christmas is. Each one of us can be Santa. Me, your mom, your aunt, your grandmother. It's by all of these people doing nice things and buying you gifts because they love you - in this way they carry on the Christmas spirit. Right now, I am Santa. One day when you are older, you will in turn do this for others.

At first, part of being Santa was keeping the llusion alive for younger siblings. I got to stay up late and wrap the stocking tuffers. It meant drinking the milk and eating the cookies left for Santa. As I grew older, the Santa spirit grew. At university, my dorm mates and I played Secret Santas", delivering little gifts to each other during finals week. Later in Life, I'd drop off Christmas cookies to the nearest fire or police station on Christmas Eve. You can be Santa while shopping - whistling Christmas carols, wear bells thatjingle, smile at those you pass - be patient with clerks. I hope my Santa spirit will be with me throughout the year, and that others will find the same joy that comes from being Santa Claus.

My girls loved this explanation and now look forward to doing good for others. Makes me think back in my life, I went through 3 Santa Clause stages.

1. I believed in Santa
2. I didn't believe in Santa
3. Now I am Santa!

Seriously, there is a deeper, more inspirational message behind the holiday season which I feels applies to every person on this planet. This story puts it all into perspective.

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SANTA'S SECRET

On Christmas Eve, a young boy sitting on Santa's knee, looked deep into his eyes and whispered into his ear, "I want to know your secret. How do you do it, year after year? I want to know how, as you travel about, giving gifts here and there, you never run out. ow is it that in your bag of toys you have plenty for all of the world's girls and boys? How does it stay so full, never emptying, as you make your way from rooftop to rooftop, to homes large and small, from nation to nation, reaching them all? Tell it to me please."

Santa smiled gently and replied, Don't ask me hard questions. Don't you want a toy?"
But the young boy shook his head, and Santa could see that he needed to answer. So he told the little boy, "My secret will make you sadder, and wise. Are you sure you still want to know?"

The boy nodded, so Santa spoke, "The truth is that my sack is magic. Inside it holds millions of toys for my Christmas Eve ride. But although I do visit each girl and each boy don't always leave them a brightly wrapped toy. Some homes are hungry, some homes are sad, Some homes are desperate, some homes are bad. Some homes are broken, and children there are sad. What do I leave at houses like these?

My sleigh is filled with the happiest stuff, but for homes where despair lives, toys aren't enough. So I tiptow in, kiss each girl and boy,pray with them that they'll be given the joyof the spirit of Christmas, the spirit that lives on the heart of the dear child who gets not, but gives.
I hope the prayers are answered, by the time I visit next year. And I always wonder what I will find there the next time. Will the homes be filled with peace, and with giving, and love. It's a very hard task, to give toys to some and to give prayers to others. but the prayers are the best gifts. That's part of the answer.

As for my sack of toys ... yes it is magic. It is filled with the love of Christmas. It never empties of love, or of joys because inside it are prayers, and hopes. Not just toys. The more I give, the fuller it becomes ... because giving is my way of fulfilling dreams. And do you know something? You've got a sack, too.
It's as magic as mine, and it's inside of you. It never gets empty, it's full from the start. It's the center of light and love. It's your heart. And if on this Christmas you want to help me, don't be so concerned with the gifts beneath your tree. Open that sack called your heart, and share your joy, your friendship, your wealth, your care."

The young boy's eyes were glowing. Wow! Thanks for the secret Santa, I've got to run." Wait," Said Santa, "don't go. Will you share, help and use what you know this Christmas?" And just for a moment the small boy stood still, touched his heart with his small hand and whisperedn "I will."

So now my question and last thought of 2009 to you .... will you?

As we head to 2010, I want to end of this Useletter with some thoughts on life which may help you come up with some 'deeper' New Years resolutions which will give you a more positive attitude in 2010.

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THOUGHTS FOR 2010
A Birth Certificate shows that we were born. A Death Certificate shows that we died. Pictures show that we lived!

Have a seat . .. . Relax . . . And read this slowly...
I Believe... that just because two people argue, that doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, that doesn't mean they do love each other.
• I Believe... that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
• I Believe...that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I Believe... that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. • I Believe... that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. The same goes for true love.
I Believe... that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life. • I Believe... that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I Believe... that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I Believe... that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
I Believe... that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I Believe... that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I Believe... that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I Believe... that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I Believe... that my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.
I Believe....that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I Believe... that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them...and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I Believe....that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself. • I Believe... that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I Believe... that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I Believe... that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I Believe... that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I Believe... that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I Believe... that even when you think you have no more to give, if a friend cries out to you...you will find the strength to help.
I Believe... that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I Believe... that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
I Believe... that the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything.

Have a wonderful festive season and New Year.

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Have a great December, and if you want to read any of the previous month's 'Useletters', please visit my blog by clicking here.

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What a month! London, Cape Town, Frankfurt and Imyambaan in Mozambique ... and to top it all, a total image change ... Yes! I cut off my pony tail! You can watch that on my facebook site, or on my inspiringtheworld channel on You Tube in my segment this month on Love.

This month's free You Tube Quick tips are:(Simply click on titles to watch or the following link to see all videos) http://www.youtube.com/user/inspiringtheworld.
 

English: Love, Teamwork, Attachment, Honesty

Afrikaans: Liefde, Spanwerk, Gehegtheid, Eerlikheid
Deutsch: Liebe, Teamwork, Verbundenheit, Ehrlichkeit

 
A few weeks to go and Christmas is upon us. Most people I speak to are already reflecting back on the year as if it is all over ... or at least, glad it's over. This I can't understand? Every day so many great things happen in this world, and no matter how tough this year has been, I bet you can think of many good things that happened too. It's a case of seeing the glass as half full, or half empty ... my wife sees it as another glass to wash! Seriously though, if one concentrates on the good times and the good things, then it is sad when a year passes so quickly. My year has been filled with wonderful memories of family, friends, travel and lots of great appearances. It's all about how you look at life ... and this brings me to my first story this month.
 

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BEING CHOSEN TO CHEER
Whenever I'm disappointed with my spot in life, I stop and think about little Roger. oger was trying out for a part in the school play. His mother told me that he'd set his heart on being in it, though she feared he would not be chosen. n the day the parts were awarded, I went with her to collect him after school. He rushed up to her, eyes shining with pride and excitement. "Guess what, Mom?" he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson to me always...."I've been chosen to clap and cheer!"
Isn't that a cute story? Are you thankful for the little things in life? Okay, I know ... it's all good and well to write about how one must be positive and see the brighter side of life. And I understand that in reality, it's not easy to do. Fair enough, everyone, including myself has some 'off' days. But no matter how difficult it is, shouldn't one at least try have more good days than bad days .. as a start at least. This month I want to concentrate on deeper stories which I trust will put a few deeper pointers into perspective and make you really savor life, family and friendship more. If you just start here, life already becomes magical.

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Here's a short story on how we should learn to appreciate each other just a little more.
BREAKFAST FOR DINNER
When I was a child my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. 

I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jam on that toast and eat every bite! 

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: "Darling, I love burned toast."  Later that night, I went to kiss daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your mommy put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!"
 


So how about it - start appreciating the little things everyone does around you!

More and more I see people losing their temper in public. I see harsh words, fighting over race, religion and politics in the press and media daily. Why? ...Why can't everyone just  let go of the past and learn to respect each other for who they are. Don't get me wrong, I meet many of these people as well, but sadly they are in the minority. So the next story is a reminder to those of you out there who are still dealing with many inner conflicts and short tempers. Read it carefully and please take note of the message.
                                                                                

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BAD TEMPER
There was once a young boy with a very bad temper. The boy's father wanted to teach him a lesson, so he gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into their wooden fence.

 
On the first day of this lesson, the little boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. He was really mad! Over the course of the next few weeks, the he began to control his temper, and the number of nails that were hammered into the fence, dramatically decreased. It wasn't long before the little boy discovered it was easier to hold his temper, than to drive those nails into the fence.

Then, the day finally came when the he didn't lose his temper even once, and he became so proud of himself, he couldn't wait to tell his father.  Pleased, his father suggested that he now pull out one nail for each day that he could hold his temper. Several weeks went by and the day finally came when the young boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

Very gently, the father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. "You have done very well, my son," he smiled, "but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same." The little boy listened carefully as his father continued to speak. "When you say things in anger, they leave permanent scars just like these. And no matter how many times you say you're sorry, the wounds will still be there."

Friendship today, what does it mean to you. I have lost count of how many people have told me that they can count their true friends on one hand. To me that's really sad. One day when you are older, it's the memories of family and friends that are going to be with you. Are your memories going to be few, or many?

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FRIENDSHIP
A man and his dog were walking along a road. The man was enjoying the scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead. He remembered dying, and that the dog walking beside him had been dead for years. He wondered where the road was leading them. After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the road. It looked like fine marble. At the top of a long hill, it was broken by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight.

 
When he was standing before it, he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother of pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold. He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at the desk to one side.

 
When he was close enough, he called out, "Excuse me, where are we?" This is Heaven, sir," the man answered.Wow! Would you happen to have some water?" the man asked. Of course, sir. Come right in and I'll have some ice water brought right up."The man gestured, and the gate began to open. "Can my friend," gesturing toward his dog, "come in too?" the traveler asked. "I'm sorry sir, but we don't accept pets."
 
The man thought for a moment, and then turned back toward the road and continued along the way he had been going with his dog. After another long walk, and at the top of another long hill, he came to a dirt road which led through a farm gate that looked as if it had never been closed. There was no fence. As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book.
 
Excuse me!" he called to the reader. "Do you have any water?" "Yeah, sure. There's a pump over there." The man pointed to a place that couldn't be seen from outside the gate. "Come on in." "How about my friend here?" the traveler gestured to the dog. There should be a bowl by the pump."
 
They went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old fashioned hand pump with a bowl beside it. The traveler filled the bowl and took a long drink himself. Then he gave some to the dog. When they were full, he and the dog walked back toward the man who was standing by the tree waiting for them.
 
What do you call this place?" the traveler asked.

This is Heaven," was the answer.
Well, that's confusing," the traveler said. "The man down the road said that was Heaven too."
Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates? Nope. That's Hell. Doesn't it make you mad for them to use your name like that?"
 
"No. I can see how you night think so, but we're just happy that they screen out the folks who'll leave their best friends behind!"

 
On that note, as the holiday season now draws near, how about re-assessing you life and focusing on the real issues. You have a choice to end of this year as a happy person who is thankful for friends, family and experiences - it's up to you!
And with that 'food for thought' here's some interesting tips on food.

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A sliced Carrot looks like the human eye. The pupil, iris and radiating lines look just like the human eye... And YES, science now shows carrots greatly enhance blood flow to and function of the eyes. 

 
A Tomato has four chambers and is red. The heart has four chambers and is red.  All of the research shows tomatoes are loaded with lycopine and are indeed pure heart and blood food.
 
Grapes hang in a cluster that has the shape of the heart.  Each grape looks like a blood cell and all of the research today shows  grapes are also profound heart and blood vitalizing food.
 
A Walnut looks like a little brain, a left and right  hemisphere, upper cerebrums and lower cerebellums.  Even the wrinkles or folds on the nut are just like  the neo-cortex. We now know walnuts help  develop more than three (3) dozen neuron-transmitters for brain function. 
 
Kidney Beans actually heal and help maintain kidney function  and yes, they look exactly like the human kidneys. 
 
Celery, Bok Choy, Rhubarb and many more look just like bones.  These foods specifically target bone strength.  Bones are 23% sodium and these foods are 23% sodium.  If you don't have enough sodium in your diet,  the body pulls it from the bones, thus making them weak. These foods replenish the skeletal needs of the body.
 
Avocadoes, Eggplant and Pears target the health and function  of the womb and cervix of the female - they look just like  these organs. Today's research shows that  when a woman eats one avocado a week,  it balances hormones, sheds unwanted birth weight,  and prevents cervical cancers.  And how profound is this?  It takes exactly nine (9) months to grow an avocado  from blossom to ripened fruit There are over 14,000 photolytic  chemical constituents of  nutrition in each one of these foods  (modern science has only studied  and named about 141 of them). 
 
Figs are full of seeds and hang in twos when they grow.  Figs increase the mobility of male sperm and increase  the numbers of Sperm as well to overcome male sterility.
 
Peet Potatoes look like the pancreas and actually balance  the glycemic index of diabetics.
 
Olives assist the health and function of  the ovaries.
 
Oranges, Grapefruits, and other Citrus fruits look just like  the mammary glands of the female and actually assist the health  of the breasts and the movement of lymph in and out of the breasts. 
 
Onions look like the body's cells. Today's research shows onions help clear waste materials from all of the body cells. They even produce tears which wash the epithelial layers of the eyes. A working companion, Garlic, also helps eliminate waste materials and dangerous free radicals from the body.

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What a month! London, Cape Town, Frankfurt and Imyambaan in Mozambique ... and to top it all, a total image change ... Yes! I cut off my pony tail! You can watch that on my facebook site, or on my inspiringtheworld channel on You Tube in my segment this month on Love.
This month's free You Tube Quick tips are:(Simply click on titles to watch)

English: Love, Teamwork, Attachment, Honesty
Afrikaans: Liefde, Spanwerk, Gehegtheid, Eerlikheid
Deutsch: Liebe, Teamwork, Verbundeheid, Ehrlichkeit

A few weeks to go and Christmas is upon us. Most people I speak to are already reflecting back on the year as if it is all over ... or at least, glad it's over. This I can't understand? Every day so many great things happen in this world, and no matter how tough this year has been, I bet you can think of many good things that happened too. It's a case of seeing the glass as half full, or half empty ... my wife sees it as another glass to wash! Seriously though, if one concentrates on the good times and the good things, then it is sad when a year passes so quickly. My year has been filled with wonderful memories of family, friends, travel and lots of great appearances. It's all about how you look at life ... and this brings me to my first story this month.

Whenever I'm disappointed with my spot n life, I stop and think about little Roger. oger was trying out for a part in the chool play. His mother told me that he'd set his heart on being n it, though she feared he would not be chosen. n the day the parts were awarded, I went ith her to collect him after school. Roger rushed up to her, yes shining with pride and excitement. “Guess what, Mom?” he houted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson to e always....“I've been chosen to clap and cheer!”
Isn't that a cute story? Are you thankful for the little things in life? Okay, I know ... it's all good and well to write about how one must be positive and see the brighter side of life. And I understand that in reality, it's not easy to do. Fair enough, everyone, including myself has some 'off' days. But no matter how difficult it is, shouldn't one at least try have more good days than bad days .. as a start at least. This month I want to concentrate on deeper stories which I trust will put a few deeper pointers into perspective and make you really savour life, family and friendship more. If you just start here, life already becomes magical.

Here's a short story on how we should learn to appreciate each other just a little more.

When I was a child my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad.

I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jam on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: “Darling, I love burned toast.” Later that night, I went to kiss daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your mommy put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!”

So how about it – start appreciating the little things everyone does around you!

More and more I see people losing their temper in public. I see harsh words, fighting over race, religion and politics in the press and media daily. Why? ...Why can't everyone just let go of the past and learn to respect each other for who they are. Don't get me wrong, I meet many of these people as well, but sadly they are in the minority. So the next story is a reminder to those of you out there who are still dealing with many inner conflicts and short tempers. Read it carefully and please take note of the message.

There once was a young boy with a very bad temper. The boy's father wanted to teach him a lesson, so he gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper he had to hammer a nail into their wooden fence.
On the first day of this lesson, the little boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. He was really mad! Over the course of the next few weeks, the he began to control his temper, and the number of nails that were hammered into the fence, dramatically decreased. It wasn't long before the little boy discovered it was easier to hold his temper, than to drive those nails into the fence.

Then, the day finally came when the he didn't lose his temper even once, and he became so proud of himself, he couldn't wait to tell his father. Pleased, his father suggested that he now pull out one nail for each day that he could hold his temper. Several weeks went by and the day finally came when the young boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

Very gently, the father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. "You have done very well, my son," he smiled, "but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same." The little boy listened carefully as his father continued to speak. "When you say things in anger, they leave permanent scars just like these. And no matter how many times you say you're sorry, the wounds will still be there."

Friendship today, what does it mean to you. I have lost count of how many people have told me that they can count their true friends on one hand. To me that's really sad. One day when you are older, it's the memories of family and friends that are going to be with you. Are your memories going to be few, or many?

A man and his dog were walking along a road. The man was enjoying the scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead. He remembered dying, and that the dog walking beside him had been dead for years. He wondered where the road was leading them. After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the road. It looked like fine marble. At the top of the long hill, it was broken by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight.

When he was standing before it, he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother of pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold. He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at the desk to one side.

When he was close enough, he called out, “Excuse me, where are we?”

This is Heaven, sir,” the man answered.

“Wow! Would you happen to have some water?” the man asked.
“Of course, sir. Come right in and I’ll have some ice water brought right up.”The man gestured, and the gate began to open.
“Can my friend,” gesturing toward his dog, “come in too?” the traveler asked.
“I’m sorry sir, but we don’t accept pets.”

The man thought a moment and then turned back toward the road and continued the way he had been going with his dog. After another long walk, and at the top of another long hill, he came to a dirt road which led through a farm gate that looked as if it had never been closed. There was no fence. As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book.

Excuse me!” he called to the reader. “Do you have any water?”

“Yeah, sure. There’s a pump over there.” The man pointed to a place that couldn’t be seen from outside the gate. “Come on in.”
“How about my friend here?” the traveler gestured to the dog.
“There should be a bowl by the pump.”

They went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old fashioned hand pump with a bowl beside it. The traveler filled the bowl and took a long drink himself. Then he gave some to the dog. When they were full, he and the dog walked back toward the man who was standing by the tree waiting for them.

What do you call this place?” the traveler asked.

“This is Heaven,” was the answer.
“Well, that’s confusing,” the traveler said. “The man down the road said that was Heaven too.”
“Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates? Nope. That’s Hell.”
“Doesn’t it make you mad for them to use your name like that?”

No. I can see how you might think so, but we’re just happy that they screen out the folks who’ll leave their best friends behind.”
On that note, as the holiday season now draws near, how about re-assessing you life and focusing on the real issues. You have a choice to end of this year as a happy person who is thankful for friends, family and experiences – it's up to you!

And with that 'food for thought' here's some interesting tips on food.

A sliced Carrot looks like the human eye. The pupil, iris and radiating lines look just like the human eye... And YES, science now shows carrots greatly enhance blood flow to and function of the eyes.

A Tomato has four chambers and is red. The heart has four chambers and is red. All of the research shows tomatoes are loaded with lycopine and are indeed pure heart and blood food.

Grapes hang in a cluster that has the shape of the heart. Each grape looks like a blood cell and all of the research today shows grapes are also profound heart and blood vitalizing food.

A Walnut looks like a little brain, a left and right hemisphere, upper cerebrums and lower cerebellums. Even the wrinkles or folds on the nut are just like the neo-cortex. We now know walnuts help develop more than three (3) dozen neuron-transmitters for brain function.

Kidney Beans actually heal and help maintain kidney function and yes, they look exactly like the human kidneys.

Celery, Bok Choy, Rhubarb and many more look just like bones. These foods specifically target bone strength. Bones are 23% sodium and these foods are 23% sodium. If you don't have enough sodium in your diet, the body pulls it from the bones, thus making them weak. These foods replenish the skeletal needs of the body.

Avocadoes, Eggplant and Pears target the health and function of the womb and cervix of the female - they look just like these organs. Today's research shows that when a woman eats one avocado a week, it balances hormones, sheds unwanted birth weight, and prevents cervical cancers. And how profound is this? It takes exactly nine (9) months to grow an avocado from blossom to ripened fruit There are over 14,000 photolytic chemical constituents of nutrition in each one of these foods (modern science has only studied and named about 141 of them).

Figs are full of seeds and hang in twos when they grow. Figs increase the mobility of male sperm and increase the numbers of Sperm as well to overcome male sterility.

Peet Potatoes look like the pancreas and actually balance the glycemic index of diabetics.

Olives assist the health and function of the ovaries.

Oranges, Grapefruits, and other Citrus fruits look just like the mammary glands of the female and actually assist the health of the breasts and the movement of lymph in and out of the breasts.

Onions look like the body's cells. Today's research shows onions help clear waste materials from all of the body cells. They even produce tears which wash the epithelial layers of the eyes. A working companion, Garlic, also helps eliminate waste materials and dangerous free radicals from the body.

And finally, looking for a great Holiday Season gift for someone, what about 'Life Lessons for the Heart'? A great bedside book to inspire you last thing in the evening. Click here to order direct, or visit Amazon.com.

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Welcome to September's 'Useletter'.

Firstly, I have added some links below of my new Video Inspirational Quick Tips. These are short video tips of about 2mins each, where I share insights into life. They can be viewed on my new You Tube Channel, http://www.youtube.com/user/inspiringtheworld.

These are available in English, German and Afrikaans. I aim to upload 4 per month in each language. This month I deal with being more positive in life. You can simply click on the English links here, Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4. Deutsch, klicken Sie auf Teil 1, Teil 2, Teil 3, Teil 4. Afrikaans kliek op Deel1, Deel 2, Deel 3, Deel 4.If you want to watch more just go directly to the channel and click on the correct category. All absolutely FREE!

Both my daughters got their provincial colours in gymnastics again this month and it has been so wonderful watching their progress over the years, and being their whenever they compete. I am a typical dad who videos everything! The day they turn 21 I will be able to give them their whole life on DVD. Often I wish this technology had been available to my parents. It would be so nice to look back at one's childhood. But, all we baby boomers have is memories and the occasional photos.

On that note I want to share a story with you where childhood memories lasted into adulthood. The core of the message being - Do you still remember all the people that helped you throughout your life?

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A GLASS OF MILK
One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry. He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water.

She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?"
"You don't owe me anything," she replied. "Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness."

He said..... "Then I thank you from my heart." As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.

Year's later that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the nameof the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.

Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to the case.

After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval.He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill.

She read these words.....
"Paid in full with one glass of milk"
(Signed)
Dr. Howard Kelly

Tears of joy flooded her eyes as she realized that love can still spread abroad through human hearts and hands."

The more I travel, and the more people I meet, I keep on asking myself the question why there is so much conflict, aggression and hatred in this world. My wife, Sonja, recently gave me a good answer, she believe there are two types of people on this earth. Those with souls, and those without souls. Kinda makes sense to me, and explains why some people are good, and others inherently bad. My goal of course is to change the world, one person at a time, and bring caring back to humanity. The next story will bring tears to your eyes. Read it first.

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THE UGLY CAT

Everyone in the apartment complex I lived in knew who Ugly was. Ugly was the resident tomcat. Ugly loved three things in this world: fighting, eating garbage, and, shall we say, love.

The combination of these things combined with a life spent outside had their effect on Ugly. To start with, he had only one eye and where the other should have been was a hole. He was also missing his ear on the same side, his left foot appeared to have been badly broken at one time, and had healed at an unnatural angle, making him look like he was always turning the corner.

Ugly would have been a dark gray tabby, striped type, except for the sores covering his head, neck, and even his shoulders. Every time someone saw Ugly there was the same reaction. "That's one UGLY cat !"

All the children were warned not to touch him, the adults threw rocks at him, hosed him down, squirted him when he tried to come in their homes, or shut his paws in the door when he would not leave. Ugly always had the same reaction.

If you turned the hose on him, he would stand there, getting soaked until you gave up and quit. If you threw things at him, he would curl his lanky body around your feet in forgiveness.

Whenever he spied children, he would come running, meowing frantically and bump his head against their hands, begging for their love. If you ever picked him up he would immediately begin suckling on your shirt, earrings, whatever he could find.

One day Ugly shared his love with the neighbor's dogs. They did not respond kindly, and Ugly was badly mauled. I tried to rush to his aid. By the time I got to where he was laying, it was apparent Ugly's sad life was almost at an end.

As I picked him up and tried to carry him home, I could hear him wheezing and gasping, and could feel him struggling. It must be hurting him terribly, I thought. Then I felt a familiar tugging, sucking sensation on my ear. Ugly, in so much pain, suffering and obviously dying, was trying to suckle my ear. I pulled him closer to me, and he bumped the palm of my hand with his head, then he turned his one golden eye towards me, and I could hear the distinct sound of purring.

Even in the greatest pain, that ugly battled scarred cat was asking only for a little affection, perhaps some compassion. At that moment I thought Ugly was the most beautiful, loving creature I had ever seen. Never once did he try to bite or scratch me, try to get away from me, or struggle in any way. Ugly just looked up at me completely trusting in me to relieve his pain.

Ugly died in my arms before I could get inside, but I sat and held him for a long time afterwards, thinking about how one scarred, deformed little stray could so alter my opinion about what it means to have true pureness of spirit, to love so totally and truly.

Ugly taught me more about giving and compassion than a thousand books, lectures, or talk show specials ever could, and for that I will always be thankful. He had been scarred on the outside, but I was scarred on the inside, and it was time for me to move on and learn to love truly and deeply. To give my total to those I cared for.

Many people want to be richer, more successful, well liked, beautiful, but for me...I will always try to be Ugly.

Isn't it time we all stopped being judgemental! When you met someone, who ever they may be. Do not judge them by physical appearance. Get to know that person for who they really are. Care! Take the time to get to know them ... even those people you currently may not like. Odds are once your eally get to know them, you will discover what beauty they really possess!

And finally, here's an old story which shares a deep lesson on what is really important in life.

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THE SANDS OF FORGIVENESS
A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.

After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.

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Have an awesome month!

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So many people have been telling me that this recession has taught them to go back to basics and appreciate the simpler things in life. In fact they have found that even though times are tough, they are finding time to reflect and appreciate family, friends and the nature around them. They have found that making do with less, is not so bad as everyone thought it would be. I think it's sad that a recession was needed to bring people back to this realization. Maybe my travelling, maybe my age, maybe my wife, or even my children have been the ones that have helped me understand this a long time ago. Although this has always been the way I have led my life and I am glad that many people are now seeing the light, it is sad that it takes a recession to make people wake up. My only hope is that when it all turns and things are going well, that the lesson will remain. So on that note I want to spend time this month on becoming a better you ... and keeping it that way.

How often do you hear the saying, 'What comes around, goes around'? Daily? The big question of course is, “How often do you apply it?” In my life I have seen the power of this so often, and this has played a huge role in me being able to let go of anger and hatred. I don't think enough people realize that if you are dishonest, or do bad things to someone, the universe is going to hit you back ten times harder. Sometimes one may think that these 'bad' people get away with the things they do, but you never really know what goes on in their lives. Again, from my experience, live has taught me that it ALWAYs comes back to them. In the same vein, those that do could, lead a pure and honest life, and give to society, are rewarded in so many ways. The story below has been around for a while and many different variations have found their way into my email 'In Box'. It puts those universal laws of attraction into perfect perspective.

WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND

“Good morning,” said a woman as she walked up to the man sitting on ground. The man slowly looked up. This was a woman clearly accustomed to the finer things of life. Her coat was new. She looked like she had never missed a meal in her life. His first thought was that she wanted to make fun of him, like so many others had done before. “Leave me alone,” he growled.... To his amazement, the woman continued standing. She was smiling - her even white teeth displayed in dazzling rows. “Are you hungry?” she asked. ”No,” he answered sarcastically. “I've just come from dining with the president. Now go away.”
The woman's smile became even broader. Suddenly the man felt a gentle hand under his arm. “What are you doing, lady?” the man asked angrily. “I said to leave me alone.” Just then a policeman came up. “Is there any problem, ma'am?” he asked. “No problem here, officer,” the woman answered. “I'm just trying to get this man to his feet. Will you help me?” The officer scratched his head. “That's old Jack. He's been a fixture around here for a couple of years. What do you want with him?”

“See that cafeteria over there?” she asked. “I'm going to get him something to eat and get him out of the cold for a while.” “Are you crazy, lady?” the homeless man resisted. “I don't want to go in there!” Then he felt strong hands grab his other arm and lift him up. “Let me go, officer. I didn't do anything.” “This is a good deal for you, Jack,” the officer answered. “Don't blow it.” Finally, and with some difficulty, the woman and the police officer got Jack into the cafeteria and sat him at a table in a remote corner. It was the middle of the morning, so most of the breakfast crowd had already left and the lunch bunch had not yet arrived... The manager strode across the cafeteria and stood by his table. “What's going on here, officer?” he asked.

“What is all this, is this man in trouble?” “This lady brought this man in here to be fed,” the policeman answered. “Not in here!” the manager replied angrily. “Having a person like that here is bad for business.” Old Jack smiled a toothless grin. “See, lady. I told you so. Now if you'll let me go. I didn't want to come here in the first place.” The woman turned to the cafeteria manager and smiled. “Sir, are you familiar with Eddy and Associates, the banking firm down the street?” “Of course I am,” the manager answered impatiently. “They hold their weekly meetings in one of my banquet rooms.”
“And do you make a goodly amount of money providing food at these weekly meetings?” “What business is that of yours?” “ I, sir, am Penelope Eddy, president and CEO of the company.” “Oh.” The woman smiled again. “I thought that might make a difference.” She glanced at the cop who was busy stifling a giggle. “Would you like to join us in a cup of coffee and a meal, officer?” “No thanks, ma'am,” the officer replied. “I'm on duty.” “Then, perhaps, a cup of coffee to go?” “Yes, ma'am. That would be very nice.” The cafeteria manager turned on his heel, “I'll get your coffee for you right away, officer.”

The officer watched him walk away. “You certainly put him in his place,” he said. “That was not my intent. Believe it or not, I have a reason for all this.” She sat down at the table across from her amazed dinner guest. She stared at him intently. “Jack, do you remember me?” Old Jack searched her face with his old, rheumy eyes. “I think so -- I mean you do look familiar.” “I'm a little older perhaps,” she said. “Maybe I've even filled out more than in my younger days when you worked here, and I came through that very door, cold and hungry.” “Ma'am?” the officer said questioningly.

He couldn't believe that such a magnificently turned out woman could ever have been hungry. “I was just out of college,” the woman began. “I had come to the city looking for a job, but I couldn't find anything. Finally I was down to my last few cents and had been kicked out of my apartment. I walked the streets for days. It was February and I was cold and nearly starving. I saw this place and walked in on the off chance that I could get something to eat.” Jack lit up with a smile. “Now I remember,” he said. “I was behind the serving counter. You came up and asked me if you could work for something to eat. I said that it was against company policy.” “I know,” the woman continued. “Then you made me the biggest roast beef sandwich that I had ever seen, gave me a cup of coffee, and told me to go over to a corner table and enjoy it. I was afraid that you would get into trouble... Then, when I looked over and saw you put the price of my food in the cash register, I knew then that everything would be all right.”
“So you started your own business?” Old Jack said. “I got a job that very afternoon. I worked my way up. Eventually I started my own business.” She opened her purse and pulled out a business card. “When you are finished here, I want you to pay a visit to a Mr. Lyons...He's the personnel director of my company. I'll go talk to him now and I'm certain he'll find something for you to do around the office.” She smiled. “I think he might even find the funds to give you a little advance so that you can buy some clothes and get a place to live until you get on your feet.. If you ever need anything, my door is always opened to you.” There were tears in the old man's eyes. “How can I ever thank you?” he said. “Don't give up on humanity, there still are some good people out there. You are one of them and helped me when I was in need. The least I can do is return the favour. You changed my life, and now I want to help you change yours. At the time you may have seen it as something small you did. But it had a HUGE impact on my life.” Outside the cafeteria, the officer and the woman paused at the entrance before going their separate ways... “Thank you for all your help, officer,” she said. “On the contrary, Ms. Eddy,” he answered. “Thank you. I learnt today that there is still hope for all of us, something that I will never forget. And thank you for the coffee.”

The moral of the story. When you do a good deed, no matter how small it may seem to be – you can change someone's life. So go out and make someone's day!

Especially in today's economic climate, many peole are short with each other, lose their tempers and are stressed out. Where does this get you? Nowhere! We all have to learn to take it easy, and find inner peace within ourselves. Then life begins to change and we can live in the moment, or in the now. In fact I heard another speaker talk about living in the now and she made a great comment. She said that her son had told her to live in the now. So she started practicing this philosophy and it's great. Everytime she sees her son, she says, “Clean your room NOW! Pick up your clothes NOW!”
Living in the now means being happy with who you are and having inner peace. One of the ways you can achieve this is through love. The story below explians it so well.
WHY DO WE SHOUT IN ANGER?
A wise man asked his ollowers, “Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?” His disciples thought for a while, one of them said, “Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.”
“But, why do you shout when the other person is just next to you?” asked the wise man. “Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?”
His followers gave some other answers but none satisfied the wise man.
Finally he explained, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.”
Then the wise man asked, “What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...”
The wise man continued, “When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.”
'The moral of the story. When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return!

And finally, in the same vein, and to give you another bit of 'Food for Thought' about being pure of heart, this story should not only make you smile, but drive home the message of not being too judegmental, before looking at yourself.
IS YOUR WASHING CLEAN?
A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hang the wash outside. “That laundry is not very clean,” she said, “She doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.”
Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make the same comments.
About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, “Look! She has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this.”
The husband replied, “I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows!”
The moral of the story. What we see when watching others, depends on the purity of the window through which we look. Before we give any criticism, it might be a good idea to check our state of mind and ask ourselves if we are ready to see the good rather than to be looking for something in the person we are about to judge.
And oh yes! I almost forgot….I see you today much clearer than I did yesterday… And you?

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I thought I would wait until today before sending out the newsletter, as the 1st didn't fall in the beginning of the week, and I always thus “Useletter' i's a good thing to start off your Monday. I trust you agree. So how was your June? Mine was awesome and I noticed some interesting things this month. One of my functions gave me the chance to spend some time with a good friend of mine along the Rhine river, enjoying the scenery and castles on the banks. I still commented to him what 'soul food' this was and how beautiful the surroundings were. How many Germans had actually visited the Binger Loch (A well known area on the Rhine), or even knew of it? Right here in the middle of Europe was this awesome place with scenery like no where else, yet most sit at home complaining about the global recession and bad times. Similarly I had a client that flew me per helicopter over the Pilansberg to Sun City. Again, I had my video camera out, capturing the moment, and was blown away by the natural beauty.

I repeat, I had an awesome month. No, not because I flew all over the place, but because I got to enjoy some of the world's most beautiful scenery along the way. It also made me realize that no matter what country you are in, or where you live, we truly have many beautiful spots on this globe. Do you still visit and take in the natural beauty around you? Most people never do. They always think the grass in greener on the other side ... ha, guess what, if it is ... you have to mow it more often! Seriously though, it never is. The real secret to happiness lies deep within you and your attitude to life. It's good to travel internationally and visit a few countries – it also makes you realise that everywhere there are problems, crime, recession, high cost of living, etc. Not just at home!

I did some serious motivating and training this month and met a huge number of people. Guess what many had in common. They where all caught up with this so called recession and doom and gloom, that they have forgotten to live. Spend some time going for a walk and appreciating the nature around you. Take a drive to an well known area near where you live and spend the day there appreciating things you never noticed before. How will this help you? Well, I don't think I am different from anyone else, but my trip along the Rhine and the flight over the Pilansberg – that was soul food. But the cherry on top, was coming home to my two daughter who ran into my arms. That first night home, just cuddling and playing with them and seeing the excitement in their eyes – now I want to go experience that scenery with them too.

This brings me to the 1st lesson this month. We must stop wishing our lives by hoping for better times. The best time of life is RIGHT NOW! It's entirely up to you whether it will or won't be.

First, I was dying to finish high school and start university.

Then I was dying to finish university and start working in a job.
Soon I was dying to marry, have children and raise a family.
No sooner was I dying for my children to grow old enough and leave the house so that I could go back to work again.
And then after a while I was dying to retire.
Now, I am dying ...
And suddenly I realized I forgot to live!

Don't let this happen to you. Live every day in the moment and enjoy it to the fullest! Whether you wake up negative or positive, it takes exactly the same effort. So why not go for positive? The Red Indians have always been incredibly spiritual and wise people, here's a similar lesson from them.

THE BATTLE WITHIN
An old Cherokee describes an experience going on inside himself....

"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. This same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf will win?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

Similarly, we need to stop comparing our lives to others. Speaking and appearing at conferences & events, I watch people the whole time ... it's always about who is there, what are they wearing, what have they achieved, etc. Honestly, it gets tiring! Why don't people learn to be comfortable with who they are? Life would be so much simpler. Here's a great lesson on coming to terms with who you really are:

MASKS
Don't be fooled by the face I wear, for I wear a thousand masks, And none of them are me. Don't be fooled, for goodness sake, don't be fooled.

I give you the impression that I'm secure, that confidence is my name and coolness is my game, And that I need no one. But don't believe me. Beneath dwells the real me in confusion, in aloneness, in fear. That's why I create a mask to hide behind, to shield me from the glance that knows.

But such a glance is precisely my salvation. That is, if it's followed by acceptance, if it's followed by love. It's the only thing that can liberate me from my own self-built prison walls. I'm afraid that deep down I'm nothing and that I'm just no good, And that you will reject me.

And so begins the parade of masks. I idly chatter to you. I tell you everything that's really nothing and nothing of what's everything, of what's crying within me. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I'm not saying. I'd really like to be genuine and spontaneous, and me. But you've got to help me. You've got to hold out your hand.

Each time you're kind and gentle, and encouraging, Each time you try to understand because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings, feeble wings, but wings. With your sensitivity and sympathy, and your power of understanding, you alone can release me from my shallow world of uncertainty.

It will not be easy for you. The nearer you approach me, the blinder I may strike back. But I'm told that Love is stronger than strong walls, And in this lies my only hope. Please try to beat down these walls with firm hands, but gentle hands, for a child is very sensitive.

Who am I, you wonder...

I am every man you meet. I am every woman that you meet.

And I am also you.

So before you judge and/or compare yourself to others, think carefully of these wise words! In a similar vein, the next story is a good way to end of this track of thought.

LIFE AS A JEWEL
One afternoon a wise man speaking to a group of people on the banks of a river. A man was idly inspecting a stone he had picked up along the road, thinking of the vast throngs who had come to hear this wise "Master." At the first break he asked the wise man, "You teach a way for every person to find liberation. But many of those who listen still seem to spend much of their time in conflict, and in seeking out excitement and other idle pursuits. Why do they waste away their lives so?"

"Most people don't recognize its value," he replied, "although human life is the dearest treasure on this earth."

"Surly everyone can see the value of life," asked the man.

"No," said the wise man. "Each man places his own value on things according to what he thinks. A different man with different knowledge will place a different value. That stone you found in the dirt will make a good example. Take it to the marketplace and see what you can get for it."

Puzzled, the chap took the stone to the marketplace and at a stall that sold sweets asked what the vendor would trade for it. The man laughed. "Go away, you're wasting my time."

He next tried a produce seller. "I have paying customers to wait on," said the grocer. "I'll give you an onion for it just to get you out of here."

He tried several more shops with no better response. Finally he came to the shop of a jeweler. The jeweler's eyes opened wide when he saw the stone. "I'm sorry," he said, "I don't have enough money to buy your gem. But I will give you a hundred Euros if you will let me look at it a while longer."

Well, this man hurried back to the river bank and the old wise man, to tell him what had happened.

"See," he said, "how when we are ignorant we mistake a valuable gem for a worthless stone. If someone had told you its value before you knew what it was, you would have thought they were crazy. Such a jewel is human life, and whatever you've traded for it, that is what is yours."

And finally, I need to end off this month's 'Useletter' with a wonderfully cute and funny story which I feel I just had to share.

And finally, I need to end off this month's 'Useletter' with a wonderfully cute and funny story which I feel I just had to share.

THE LITTLE OLD LADY

A local news station was interviewing an 86-year old lady who had just gotten married ... for the 4th time!
The interviewer asked her questions about her life, about what it felt like to be married again at 86, and then about her new husband's occupation.

|he's a funeral director,” she answered.

“interesting,” the journalist thought. He then asked her if she wouldn't mind telling him a little about her first 3 husbands and what they did for a living.
She paused for a few moments, needing time to reflect on all those years.

After a while, a smile came to her face and she answered proundly, “My first husband was a banked whom I married in my early twenties.In my forties I married a circus ringmaster and in my sixties a preacher. Now in my eighties it's the funeral director.”

The journalist looked at her, quite amazed, and quizzed her as why she had married four men with such diverse careers.

“Easy son,” she aswered. “I married one for the money ... two for the show, ... three to get ready, ... and four to go!”

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Here we go again ... 6 months until Christmas! What have you done with the first half of the year?Have you achieved those dreams and goals you made in January? Have you spent time with your loved ones, and told them more than once that you love them? This is a good time to reflect of the last six months, and if you cannot say. “Yes” to any of the above questions, you still have time to do it. Make the rest of this year the best year of your life ... remember 2000 and mine?

If you have lost the passion – check out on the right, I have just launched an audio CD for the car or home where I talk you through finding your passion again. I find that many people are especially negative and use the excuse that the current global economic crises is to blame that they haven't achieved their goals this year. Well I have news for you – it's a MINDSET! You have to chose to be positive, and if you think I am being overly optimistic, let the first story this month put a smile on your face and be the start of everything positive in your life.

RECESSION ... HA!
In a small town on the South Coast of France, the holiday season is in full swing, but it is raining so there is not too much business happening. Everyone is heavily in debt. Luckily, a rich Russian tourist arrives in the foyer of the small local hotel. He asks for a room and puts a Euro100 note on the reception counter, takes a key and goes to inspect the room located up the stairs on the third floor. The hotel owner takes the banknote in a hurry and rushes to his meat supplier to whom he owes E100. The butcher takes the money and races to his supplier to pay his debt. The wholesaler rushes to the farmer to pay E100 for pigs he purchased some time ago. The farmer triumphantly gives the E100 note to a local lady of the night who gave him her services on credit. She goes quickly to the hotel, as she was owing the hotel for her hourly room use to entertain clients. At that moment, the rich Russian is coming down to reception and informs the hotel owner that the proposed room is unsatisfactory and takes his E100 back and departs. There was no profit or income. But everyone no longer has any debt and the small townspeople look optimistically towards their future.
COULD THIS BE THE SOLUTION TO THE GLOBAL FINANCIAL CRISIS?

Everyone is so caught up in materialistic gain, instead of the important things in life such as family, friends and health. The following story is rather sad, but yet very enlightening. If you are letting the global crises get you down, then you need to learn the lessons from the next two stories. True wealth lies in respect and love for each other, our health, and savouring the simple things in life.

THE WOODEN BOWL

You will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl for a long time. A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and Failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about father”, said the son. “I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.” So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the boy responded, ”Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: A rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life.'
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, Your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you. I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch - holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.

And if that didn't give you a reality check as to what really is important in life, I'm sure this story will.

DAD
“Watch out! You nearly broad sided that car!” My father yelled at me. “Can't you do anything right?” Those words hurt worse than blows. I turned my head toward the elderly man in the seat beside me, daring me to challenge him. A lump rose in my throat as I averted my eyes. I wasn't prepared for another battle. “I saw the car, Dad. Please don't yell at me when I'm driving.” My voice was measured and steady, sounding far calmer than I really felt. Dad glared at me, then turned away and settled back. At home I left Dad in front of the television and went outside to collect my thoughts.

Dark, heavy clouds hung in the air with a promise of rain. The rumble of distant thunder seemed to echo my inner turmoil. What could I do about him? Dad had been a lumberjack in Washington and Oregon. He had enjoyed being outdoors and had revelled in pitting his strength against the forces of nature. He had entered gruelling lumberjack competitions, and had placed often. The shelves in his house were filled with trophies that attested to his prowess. The years marched on relentlessly. The first time he couldn't lift a heavy log, he joked about it; but later that same day I saw him outside alone, straining to lift it. He became irritable whenever anyone teased him about his advancing age, or when he couldn't do something he had done as a younger man.

Four days after his sixty-seventh birthday, he had a heart attack. An ambulance sped him to the hospital while a paramedic administered CPR to keep blood and oxygen flowing. At the hospital, Dad was rushed into an operating room. He was lucky; he survived. But something inside Dad died. His zest for life was gone. He obstinately refused to follow doctor's orders. Suggestions and offers of help were turned aside with sarcasm and insults. The number of visitors thinned, then finally stopped altogether. Dad was left alone. My husband, Dick, and I asked Dad to come live with us on our small farm. We hoped the fresh air and rustic atmosphere would help him adjust. Within a week after he moved in, I regretted the invitation. It seemed nothing was satisfactory. He criticised everything I did. I became frustrated and moody. Soon I was taking my pent-up anger out on Dick.

We began to bicker and argue. Alarmed, Dick sought but this didn't help either. Something had to be done and it was up to me to do it. The next day I sat down with the phone book and methodically called each of the mental health clinics listed in the Yellow Pages. I explained my problem to each of the sympathetic voices that answered. In vain. Just when I was giving up hope, one of the voices suddenly exclaimed, “I just read something that might help you! Let me go get the article.” I listened as she read. The article described a remarkable study done at a nursing home. All of the patients were under treatment for chronic depression. Yet their attitudes had improved dramatically when they were given responsibility for a dog. I drove to the animal shelter that afternoon. After I filled out a questionnaire, a uniformed officer led me to the kennels. The odour of disinfectant stung my nostrils as I moved down the row of pens. Each contained five to seven dogs. Long-haired dogs, curly-haired dogs, black dogs, spotted dogs all jumped up, trying to reach me. I studied each one but rejected one after the other for various reasons, too big, too small, too much hair. As I neared the last pen a dog in the shadows of the far corner struggled to his feet, walked to the front of the run and sat down. It was a pointer, one of the dog world's aristocrats. But this was a caricature of the breed. Years had etched his face and muzzle with shades of grey. His hipbones jutted out in lopsided triangles. But it was his eyes that caught and held my attention.

Calm and clear, they beheld me unwaveringly. I pointed to the dog. “Can you tell me about him?” The officer looked, then shook his head in puzzlement. “He's a funny one. Appeared out of nowhere and sat in front of the gate. We brought him in, figuring someone would be right down to claim him, that was two weeks ago and we've heard nothing. His time is up tomorrow.” He gestured helplessly. As the words sank in I turned to the man in horror. “You mean you're going to kill him?” “Ma'am,” he said gently, “that's our policy. We don't have room for every unclaimed dog.” I looked at the pointer again. The calm brown eyes awaited my decision. “I'll take him,” I said. I drove home with the dog on the front seat beside me. When I reached the house I honked the horn twice. I was helping my prize out of the car when Dad shuffled onto the front porch. “Ta-da! Look what I got for you, Dad!” I said excitedly. Dad looked, then wrinkled his face in disgust. “If I had wanted a dog I would have gotten one. And I would have picked out a better specimen than that bag of bones. Keep it! I don't want it.” Dad waved his arm scornfully and turned back toward the house. Anger rose inside me. It squeezed together my throat muscles and pounded into my temples. “You'd better get used to him, Dad. He's staying!” Dad ignored me. Did you hear me, Dad?” I screamed. At those words Dad whirled angrily, his hands clenched at his sides, his eyes narrowed and blazing with hate. We stood glaring at each other like duelists, when suddenly the pointer pulled free from my grasp. He wobbled toward my dad and sat down in front of him. Then slowly, carefully, he raised his paw. Dad's lower jaw trembled as he stared at the uplifted paw. Confusion replaced the anger in his eyes. The pointer waited patiently. Then Dad was on his knees hugging the animal. It was the beginning of a warm and intimate friendship.

Dad named the pointer Cheyenne. Together he and Cheyenne explored the community. They spent long hours walking down dusty lanes. They spent reflective moments on the banks of streams, angling for tasty trout. They even started to attend Sunday services together, Dad sitting in a pew and Cheyenne lying quietly at his feet. Dad and Cheyenne were inseparable throughout the next three years. Dad's bitterness faded, and he and Cheyenne made many friends. Then late one night I was startled to feel Cheyenne's cold nose burrowing through our bed covers. He had never before come into our bedroom at night. I woke Dick, put on my robe and ran into my father's room. Dad lay in his bed, his face serene. But his spirit had left quietly sometime during the night. Two days later my shock and grief deepened when I discovered Cheyenne lying dead beside Dad's bed.

I wrapped his still form in the rag rug he had slept on. As Dick and I buried him near a favourite fishing hole, I silently thanked the dog for the help he had given me in restoring Dad's peace of mind. For me, the past dropped into place, completing a puzzle that I had not seen before. Cheyenne's unexpected appearance at the animal shelter, his calm acceptance and complete devotion to my father, and the proximity of their deaths. And suddenly I understood. I had an insight.

Life is too short for drama & petty things, so laugh hard, love truly and forgive quickly. Live while you are alive. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity. Forgive now those who made you cry. You might not get a second chance. Lost time can never be found.

On that note, I trust you have enjoyed this month's motivation and that I have managed to make you realise the importance of family and relationships. Stop being influenced by the negative media and start appreciating those close to you. One day, those will be the memories that count.

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Stress Management
A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers that were called out ranged from 20g to 500g.
The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. "If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.  If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.  If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance."
"In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes. "  He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management.  If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. "

"So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment. Relax, pick them up later after you've rested. You can then tackle them with renewed energy and more efficiently.

There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few things that will catch your heart…. pursue those instead.

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Welcome to April's Useletter. This month I want to share a few stories with you about enjoying life and being grateful for the little things. This whole global economic turndown seems to be making everyone negative. Even I am quiet (hint, hint) as companies are holding back on booking inspirational speakers – which doesn't make sense – this is the time when everyone needs to be motivated. To me it's a mindset. This should be the time when you reflect upon your life and be grateful for the smaller things. It is sad to see how most people judge their happiness according to their material worth – no wonder we are in an economic downturn. It's a mental downturn too! If you just look at all the good things around you, your health, your family and your friends. The beautiful country we live in. At the end of the day it is our inner thoughts which affect our outer behavior, and on that note – enjoy the first lesson.
YOUR WORDS, YOUR DREAMS, AND YOUR THOUGHTS HAVE POWER TO CREATE CONDITIONS IN YOUR LIFE.

What you speak about, you can bring about.

If you keep saying you can't stand your job, you might lose your job.

If you keep saying you can't stand your body, your body can become sick.

If you keep saying you can't stand your car, your car could be stolen or just stop operating.

If you keep saying you're always broke, guess what? You'll always be broke.

If you keep saying you can't trust a man or trust a woman, you will always find someone in your life to hurt and betray you.

If you keep saying you can't find a job, you will remain unemployed.

If you keep saying you can't find someone to love you or believe in you, our very thoughts will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs.

Turn your thoughts and conversations around to be more positive and power packed with faith, hope, love and action.

Don't be afraid to believe that you can have what you want and deserve.

Watch your "Thoughts," they become words;

Watch your "Words," they become actions;

Watch your "Actions," they become habits;

Watch your "Habits," they become character;

Watch your "Character", for it becomes your "Destiny"

So.......To prevent any obstacles.......

GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY!

If I must reflect on my life right now, my two daughters are at an age where they are becoming so insightful and it is such a pleasure listening to their views and questions on life. The way in which they see the beauty in simple things is often a great reminder for me to 'come right' and stop fretting the small stuff. Hence here is a great insight to life, as seen from a young girl's perspective.

WINDSHIELD MESSAGE FROM A CHILD

One rainy afternoon I was driving along one of the main streets of town, taking those extra precautions necessary when the roads are wet and slick.

Suddenly, my daughter, spoke up from her relaxed position in her seat. "Dad, I'm thinking of something."

This announcement usually meant she had been pondering some fact for a while, and was now ready to expound all that her seven-year-old mind had discovered. I was eager to hear. "What are you thinking?" I asked.

"The rain;" she began, "is like sin, like all the negative stuff around us, and the windshield wipers are the good and the positive, wiping our negative away." After the chill bumps raced up my arms I was able to respond.

"That's really good." Then my curiosity broke in. How far would she take this revelation?

So I asked... "Do you notice how the rain keeps on coming? What does that tell you?" She didn't hesitate one moment with her answer: "Negative things happen all the time. When they do, we need to wipe them away. We must also remember that if negativity stops, just like the rain, it will come back again – that's just how it is. Then we just need to turn the wipes on again and wipe it away again. People always make it such a big deal. Why ? To flick the switch to turn the wipers on is no effort at all, and that is how all people should see it in real life. So when something negative happens, they should automatically switch over to the positive mode.

I will always remember this whenever I turn my wipers on.

Everyone want to know the real 'secret' to life and continually imagine it to be something complicated, phenomenal and insightful. In fact it's all about the lessons in this month's 'Useletter'. As in the storey below.


FAMILY

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think? So what is behind the story?

Do you know what the word FAMILY means?

FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU


THE SECRET

One day, one friend asked another, "How is it that you are always so happy? You have so much energy, and you never seem to get down."

With his eyes smiling, he said, "I know the Secret!"

"What secret is that?"
To which he replied, "I'll tell you all about it, but you have to promise to share the Secret with others."

"The Secret is this: I have learned there is so little in life that I need to be truly happy. I must live in the moment and take every day as it comes. I have learnt that most of the time I don't need half of what I think I do. My health, food in my stomach, my family and shelter, that's really the most important of it all. Since I learned that 'Secret', I am happy."

The questioner's first thought was, "That's too simple!"

But upon reflecting over his own life he recalled how he thought a bigger house and car would make him happy, but it didn't! He thought a better paying job would make him happy, but it hadn't.

When did he realize his greatest happiness?
Sitting on the floor with his children, playing games, eating pizza or reading a story. Spending quite time sitting next to his wife out in nature, and just appreciating the scenery ... the simple things in life.

Now you know it too!

Stop being materialistic and conditioned by the media and everyone around you. If there was no fuel, no electricity and no computers, would it really change who you are ? If anything, it would make you spend more time with your family and appreciate the simpler things in life. In fact you would be forced to do so and suddenly realize that this is the secret. But instead you let modern technology, stress and everything around you control who you are. STOP! And just start realizing that to be truly happy in life, it's the things that don't cost money, that are really important.

Someone asked me at a conference recently if there was anything in life that saddens me. Yes, the inability of people to accept each other for who they are, and to unconditionally love each other as fellow human beings. If everyone would only realize that life and people give back what you put in. See how the Chinese understood this thousands of years ago.

RELATIONSHIPS

A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.

Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks.
Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.

Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all. Mr. Huang thought for a while, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."

Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do." Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."

Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law. Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.
After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.

One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her." Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her."

MORAL: Have you ever realised that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you?

There is a wise Chinese saying: 'The person who loves others will also be loved in return.'

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Welcome to the March “Use Letter”. I have noticed how many people have followed through with my '2000 and mine' belief and are really having an awesome year. However, with all the doom and gloom from the media on a daily basis – it is becoming more and more difficult to remain positive – or is it ? Most DEFINITELY not ! Life is so awesome and there are so many fantastic things to be grateful for, which, if we just become a little more aware – WILL keep you positive. A good friend of mine, Delycia, sent me 11 Rules to change the world. There is so much depth to these and if we all follow them – the world and your own life WILL be more positive.

SUBJECT: 11 RULES TO CHANGE THE WORLD ... AND YOUR LIFE!

1. You be the change, you dream of seeing (Mahatma Gandhi). "If everyone of us would sweep their own doorstep, the whole world would be clean," observed Mother Teresa. She was right.

2. Make time every day to reconnect to your highest ideals and boldest dreams. Without hope, people perish.

3. Leave every person you meet better than you found them. Life's too short to withhold encouragement and kindness.

4. See every setback as a stepping stone and every problem as a blessing in disguise. Contrary to what critics might say, these are NOT corny aphorisms. They are timeless truths of humanity. (And critics are just people too scared to grow their dreams anyway - pay no attention to them. The world needs more people lifting people up rather than putting people down).

5. Go the extra mile in everything you do.

6. Do what's right rather than what's easy. Being a great person isn't a popularity contest.

7. Care for your health. You elevate the world by elevating yourself, and your health really matters. Why be the richest person in the graveyard?

8. Tell your kids they are geniuses - and how much you adore them. Each of us are born geniuses but lose that gift within the first 6 years of our lives as we adopt the fears and limiting beliefs of those around us. Your kids are the leaders of the future. Grow their potential. Now.

9. Learn something new every day. As you grow, you begin to see possibilities you didn't have the eyes to see before. Read from an inspiring book, (click here) listen to an audio program, visit a good blog, go to a powerful workshop or have a conversation with an elder. One idea is all it takes to transform your life.

10. Keep your life simple! The secret to success and happiness is building your life around a few important things. The person who tries to do everything accomplishes nothing. What's the point in being busy doing the wrong things?

11. Remember that life is a mirror and we receive what we give out. To get more joy, give more joy. To have more respect, give more respect. To realize your dreams, help others realize theirs.

Last month I was literally inundated by people requesting the free E-Book of the last few year's inspiration (You can still do so on my “Free Inspiration” page on my website. Many asked if I don't have a proper published book as it would be a great bedside table read, or gift. I do listen to what you ask. The book is now at the publishers and will be available within the next two weeks. It's a 5 x 8 size book with over 200 pages of the best stories and quotes I have shared in this 'Use Letter'. The Title is “Life Lesson for the Heart”. You can order it off my website (click here) via PayPal, or click here and I'll send you banking details for a direct deposit. Also, if you are looking for a totally novel corporate gift for your clients – I can have special runs printed with your corporate logo on it.

It seems a general thread in my 'Use Letter' that I add stories about time. One of the reasons is that I have just finished the previous month's one, and suddenly I am working on the new one. Where does the time go. It's already March ! Over and over I stress the importance of savouring each and every day and truly living in the moment. A very dear friend of mine in LA, Sharon Williams sent me this beautiful story a few weeks ago about age and behind content with who you are. I don't know who the author is, but feel that is just so insightful and I needed to share it with you.

OLD AGE, I DECIDED, IS A  GIFT 

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my  body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother/father!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.. 

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less grey hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. 

I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. 

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging. 

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until  4 AM and sleep until  noon ? 

I will dance with  myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 & 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will. 

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old. 

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as  well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things. 

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken... How can your heart not break when you lose a loved  one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect. 

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning grey, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver. 

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong. 

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become . I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be.... And I shall eat dessert every single day. ( If I feel like it). 

Have a super March!

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Welcome to the February 'Useletter'. It certainly is turning out to be '2000 & Mine' – I find that being positive and believing that this is going to be an awesome year, is attracting so many more things into my life and that it rubs off on everyone I come into contact with. This year I launched my new inspirational talk, 'Discover Your Passion' and am already helping so many people re-discover the fun in life. In fact, being someone that believes in humour, I open my talk with a saying, “Life is like a roll of toilet paper – the closer you get to the end, the quicker it goes!” It's mostly the baby boomers and older that really appreciate that saying. Why, because as we get older, time does fly. And we realise that one has to make the most of every precious day. It simply isn't worth it to get depressed and annoyed.
In fact one of my resolutions this year was NOT to listen to the news and NOT to read the political pages of any newspaper. Wow, it has made a huge difference in my outlook. I now don't have all these corrupt politicians irritating me anymore. Suddenly, I am smiling more and believing that the future is bright. And guess what? It's not difficult to do! If each and everyone of us just negated all those little irritations in life – everyone would be more positive, and the whole world would change overnight. Just try it! Please note, I said I don't read the political nonsense – however, I still keep myself updated with the financial markets and the business world – it's important to stay informed.

We are so bombarded by negative news daily, that it has become part of most peoples lives. In a year that is going to be mine, I definitely am not going to let an outsider influence my positive goals and thoughts. So, if I can share a bit of advice to find your passion this year, DON'T hang out with negative people, and DON'T read negative press. Remember the universal law : like energy attracts like energy – I want to attract health and happiness into my life, and I can only do so by connecting with like-minded people.
It's a decision on your part. It's an attitude – and on that note, here's an elderly gentleman that we can ALL learn an important lesson from.

A WISE OLD MAN

A man of 92 years, short, very well-presented, who took great care in his appearance, was moving into a retirement home. His wife of 70 had recently died, and he was obliged to leave his house of 40 years.

After waiting several hours in the retirement home lobby, he gently smiled as he was told that his room was ready. Slowly he walked to the elevator, using his cane, as the young helper described his small room to him, including the sheet hung at the window which served as a curtain.

"I like it very much", he said, with the enthusiasm of an 8 year old boy who has just been given a new puppy. "Sir, you haven’t even seen the room yet, hang on a moment, we are almost there. "

" That has nothing to do with it ", he replied. " Happiness is something I choose in advance. Whether or not I like the room does not depend on the furniture, or the decor – rather it depends on how I decide to see it. I already decided in my mind that I like my room. It is a decision I take every morning when I wake up. "

"I can choose. I can spend my day in bed enumerating all the difficulties that I have with the parts of my body that no longer work very well, or I can get up and give thanks to for those parts that are still in working order. Every day is a gift, and as long as I can open my eyes, I will focus on the new day, and all the happy memories that I have built up during my life. "

" Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw in later life what you have deposited along the way. "
So, my advice to you is to deposit all the happiness you can in your bank account of memories.”

So you see, it was his decision to be positive and happy. He chose to do so. And together with that choice come the decision NOT to let outside influences get you down. Yes! It is not that easy to do at first, but start with little changes, such as not reading the negative things in the newspaper. As you practice, it becomes easier and easier, and before you realise it, you have change your whole outlook to life.
MORE LIFE WISDOMS
Health:

LIFE
Try an imagine a future time, where archeologists have just discovered a buried library.

And in these ruins they found a book, written by scholars, scientists and philosophers, all about the 21st century and the downfall of it's people.
A time where :

So what was it, that the future had learnt from the past ?

 That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular. It is not the breath we breathe, that counts. But every moment that takes our breath away. Savour each and every precious moment in life and with your loved ones. One day when you look back at your life, it won’t be the material things that you remember, but the moments that took your breath away with those close to your heart.
 Never look back too often, because, then you won’t be able to see ahead. Stop living in the past and realise that it is love, not time, that heals all wounds.
 Consider that everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile. After all, a smile enriches all those who receive it, without making poorer those who give it. And it takes but a moment, yet the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. In fact, a smile is the most inexpensive way to improve your looks.
 Realise that under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. And when you say, “I Love You’, mean it. Similarly, when you say, “I’m Sorry”, look the person in the eye. You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

 Be careful how you think, as your life is Shaped by your thoughts. Our thoughts are energy ! Think positive and be with positive people – and life will treat you well. The world is like a mirror, if you face it smiling, it smiles back at you.
 Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened.
 And that even if you want to live on top of the mountain, never forget that all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.
 Live as you would have wished to live, when you come to die.
 And remember that the purpose of life, is to life a life of purpose.

Have a brilliant February!

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How much has happened in your life so far ? How fast has technology advanced ? In the new year it's always good to look back, as it puts everything into perspective. So let's have a look what has happened in the last 100 years and see what a huge difference a century makes.

100 YEARS AGO

The average life expectancy was 47 years.

Only 14 percent of the homes had a bathtub.

Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
There were only 8,000 cars and only 144 miles of paved roads.
The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower!
The average wage in 1908 was 22 cents per hour.
The average worker made between $200 and $400 per year .
A competent accountant could expect to earn $2000 per year, A dentist $2,500 per year, a veterinarian between $1,500 and $4,000 per year, and a mechanical engineer about $5,000 per year.
More than 95 percent of all births took place at HOME .
Ninety percent of all doctors had NO COLLEGE EDUCATION!
Instead, they attended so-called medical schools, many of which were condemned in the press AND the government as 'substandard. '
Sugar cost four cents a pound.
Eggs were fourteen cents a dozen.
Coffee was fifteen cents a pound.
Most women only washed their hair once a month, and used Borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from Entering into their country for any reason.
Five leading causes of death were:

1. Pneumonia and influenza 2. Tuberculosis 3. Diarrhea 4. Heart disease 5. Stroke
The American flag had 45 stars.

The population of Las Vegas , Nevada, was only 30!
Crossword puzzles, canned beer, and ice tea hadn't been invented yet!
There was no Mother's Day or Father's Day.
Two out of every 10 adults couldn't read or write.

Only 6 percent of all Americans had graduated from high school.
Marijuana, heroin, and morphine were all available over the counter at the local corner drugstores. Back then pharmacists said, 'Heroin clears the complexion,gives buoyancy to the mind,regulates the stomach and bowels, and is, in fact, a perfect guardian of health'

Eighteen percent of households had at least one full-time servant or domestic help.
There were about 230 reported murders in the ENTIRE ! U.S.A. !

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Can you imagine what all is going to change in the next 100 years ? Yes, I always harp on about time and the importance of utilizing the time you have to its fullest. Especially now in this new year. Will you look back at the beginning of 2010 and say – I did it, or will you have regrets, because you wasted your time. Here' a touching story to put time back into perspective.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME

Over the phone, his mother told him, "Mr. Smit died last night. The funeral is Wednesday."

Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days. "Jack, did you hear me?"

"Oh, sorry, Mom. Yes, I heard you. It's been so long since I thought of him. I'm sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago," Jack said.

"Well, he didn't forget you. Every time I saw him he'd ask how you were doing. He'd reminisce about the many days you spent over "his side of he fence" as he put it," Mom told him.

"I loved that old house he lived in," Jack said.

"You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Smit stepped in to make sure you had a man's influence in your life," she said.

"He's the one who taught me carpentry," I recalled. "I wouldn't be in this business if it weren't for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important...Mom, I'll be there for the funeral."

As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown. Mr. Smit's funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away. The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time. Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time. The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture.... Jack stopped suddenly.

"What's wrong, Jack?" his Mom asked. "The box is gone," he said. "What box? " Mom asked.

"There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he'd ever tell me was the thing I value most,'" Jack said.

It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Smit family had taken it.

"Now I'll never know what was so valuable to him," Jack said. "I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom."

It had been about two weeks since Mr. Smit died. Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox. "Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days," the note read. Early the next day Jack retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention. "Mr. John Smit" it read. Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope. Jack's hands shook as he read the note inside.

"Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Rogers. It's the thing I valued most in my life." A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch. Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover. Inside he found these words engraved: "Jack, Thanks for your time! John Smit."

"The thing he valued most...was...my time."

Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days. "Why?" Janet, his assistant asked.

"I need some time to spend with my son," he said. "Oh, by the way, Susan… thanks for your time!"

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,

but by the moments that take our breath away,"

"Thanks for your time"

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One way to make use of your time effectively, is to think out of the box. I cannot put it better than in the last story for this month.

CHANGE OF STRATEGY

Once there was a man standing on the pavement with a sign which read, “I am blind, please help”.

A creative advertising executive walked past and stopped to observe him. The blind man only had a few coins in his hat and most people walked past. He dropped in a few coins and took the blind man's sign and wrote a new message on the back. This he then placed prominantly next to the blind man.

Later that afternoon the advertising executive walked passed the blind man again, and noticed that his hat was full of money notes and high value coins. The blind man recognised this man's footsteps and queried whether he was the chap that had re-written his sign, and what he had written. The advertising executive responded, “Yes, and I wrote nothing that wasn't true – I just wrote your sign a little differently.” At that he left.

The new sign read : “TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF SPRING, AND I CANNOT SEE IT!”

Moral of the story : Sometimes you just need to change your strategy when things are not going your way – and it may just turn out for the best.

Remember, if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten.
So make 2009 the best year ever – change your strategy !

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